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Hi Seun, could you kindly clarify your pricing plan . Your minimum price is 5k, so if the choosen plan is less than 5k does that mean the ad will run for 2 months assuming the choosen plan is priced at 2500 per month. If not how exactly does this work.

ZUBY77: English teacher,
There is nothing called 'children day.

Its chldren's day... You are required to know what the 's' is doing there , you are human not robot.

NB
It is .... Not Its.

Please tell me the analysis of your error is meant to be joke and you are not seriously trying to justify your grammatical error with the above explanation. If no joke is intended then Nigeria is in real crisis.

Hello wonderful ladies, I am new to this tread and glad I have other people to talk . It's my first month TTC. I am 4 days late for my period and have taken 4 test only to get a BFN. I used first response so it should be pretty good at picking up HCG levels 4 days after implantation .DH and I will love a baby soon and I have never been late before. I am really hoping for a BFP but will wait one week to test again. Are there ladies in the house with similar experience please share.

Wizeboy: The Federal Government has declared Thursday, January 24, 2013 as public holiday to commemorate the Muslim Eid-El-Maulud celebration.

The Minister of Interior, Mr Abba Moro, made the announcement in Abuja on Friday, in a statement signed by Mr Adetayo Sode, the Director of Citizenship and Business in the ministry.

Moro, who congratulated Muslims on the occasion, urged them to use the occasion to pray for sustained efforts to uplift the nation.

He also urged Nigerians to use the occasion to pray for peace and unity of the country.

http://dailypost.com.ng/2013/01/19/eid-el-maulud-fg-declares-january-24-public-holiday/?wt=2

Wishing all Muslim brothers and sisters Happy Maolud Nabbiy Celebration in advance.

. What the heck is does a minister of interior and director of citizenship and business do. The title itself doesn't make any sense.

manmustwack: SHEGE DANBURO BUBA See life O.I beg una o.b4 una enter canoe submarine or giant eagle reach oyinb land,make your people bless una well well O.
Dat way when una reach oyinbo man land una no go forget where una from.
Oyinbo land no be am O.
Na so persin go forget say na from village city take start.
Abeg wetin concern goat wid chewin stick.
Make u come feed the masses jare,Dis one no be tory.Na chop we wan chop.
Oyinbo africans/afropeans no sabi say na our job be dis sha.
4dis nijah? na lie u talk o. ama wole si e lara.

Boyzz are waitin wid huge belle and serious long throat.
Dis one wey i don capture crocodile finish.
Abeg make una talk better joor.where u dey pack load go?
Uneva reach u talk say u dey pack..Ok O.
Africa la wa O.
Nijah 4dat matta. We must chop ni O.

Manmustwack.... do you actually realize you are an uninvited guest on this thread. See how you are already causing much havoc where you are not wanted. i hope people can see why i want your type out...

babyosisi: From the responses you now know the mindset of those gate crashers who are bent on coming in whether you like it or not,the more reason not to let them in
You have nothing to feel guilty about
Let the responses of those who insist you must allow all and sundry in in spur you to do all you can humanly do to keep them out.
I advised you have the reverend minister make an announcement after the church service that the reception is by invitation only.

i am really considering moving the whole thing from Nigeria. it will be cheaper. classy and memorable. i have really tried to be reasonable here. i eliminated ashebi cos i don't want that fuss. i have asked no one to contribute and i dont mind if you dont bring me a gift. both i and my fiance are fully responsible for our wedding. We just want a happy day less of moaning guest. the problem also is that Nigerians are not demure in their comment. i have seen people work their ass off to do wedding only for people to say the wedding was rubbish, there wasn't enough drinks and food. i was brought up to understand that you attend a wedding to show your support to the couple -food or no food. why do i have to waste my time and effort to please people i don't know. i think the more i read this comment, i become more adamant so that i will either move the whole thing or get heavily armed me. After the wedding i will pack my bags and go. its just cos my inlaws are too frail to attend abroad if not there will be no question about this ***Sigh***

some-girl:
Na wa o
So someone can't decide who attends their own wedding?
Isn't 300 guests enough?
Parents' guests and guests of important guests would have been accounted for in the total number.
Why would I insist on bringing a friend when I've been warned in advance that they would not be admitted?

I totally subscribe to pre-ordering meals. That would certainly discourage unwanted guests.

my dear the whole thing beats me. i feel even worse coming to NL to ask for advise. people are making me feel guilty and calling me stingy for not wanting people i know nothing about at my wedding. i wish people can just understand that it not about food or stingyness. i just want orderliness. i don't want people standing around and people looking confused not knowing where to go. i am not one of those brides that will calm down if i see my guest very confused and standing with a plate of food in their hands. All i want order. Uninvited guest in one way or the other inconvenience those who are bonafide guest. why is that so freaking too much to ask in a 21st century Nigeria.

rick.ross:
MY FRIEND, DONT BE RIDICULOUS, THIS IS NIGERIA, AFRICA, AND NOT A WHITE MANS LAND...
NO MATTER THE AMOUNT OF BOUNCERS USED, UNINVITED GUESTS WILL COME TO YOUR WEDDING WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT.

CAN U TELL ME WHY U DONT WANT MORE THAN 300 PEOPLE? ARE YOU THAT STUPID AND STINGY? OR IS THIS THE ONLY THING U LEARNT FROM YOUR WHITE SLAVE MASTERS?

THIS IS AFRIKKA FOR GODS SAKE. PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS GONNA COME TO YOUR WEDDING UNINVITED. THEY ARE NOT COMING TO BEG YOU FOR FOOD, BUT IF THEY SEE FOOD THEY WILL FORKING EAT, AND IF THERE'S NO FOOD THEY WILL FORKING GO.

TAKE THIS XMAS FOR EXAMPLE. I AM IGBO AND I LOVE MY CULTURE/TRADITION. I HAVE SPENT ALOT OF MONEY BUYING DRINKS AND FOOD ITEMS THAT I WILL SHARE TO PEOPLE THAT WILL VISIT ME IN THE VILLAGE THIS XMAS. 90% OF THESE PEOPLE WILL COME UNINVITED, AND I AM NOT GOING TO CHASE THEM AWAY FOR ANY REASONS WHATSOEVER.

THEY ARE NOT COMING TO BEG ME FOR FOOD, BUT WHEN THEY COME I EXPECT TO SERVE THEM FOOD AND DRINKS, WHETHER I AM IN THHE HOUSE OR NOT, ANYONE WHO VISITS ME WILL BE PROPERLY TAKEN CARE OF. WHEN THEY ARE GOING IF I HAVE ANY GIFTS I WILL GIVE THEM. I PERSONALLY HOST OUR VILLAGE WOMEN EVERY DECEMBER 26TH AND NEW YEAR DAY IS FOR OUR VILLAGE MEN. ALL THESE COSTS ME SO MUCH MONEY, BUT I AM HAPPY TO DO IT BC ITS FUN. HOW WOULD U FEEL IF U ARE THE RICHEST MAN IN THE WORLD AND NO HUMAN BEING VISITS YOUR HOME? THEN U WILL BE HAPPY? MAYBE THE PROBLEM IS THAT U DONT LIKE CROWD?

WELL WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT PEOPLE FROM DIFFERENT PLACES SO DIFFERENT THINGS WORKS FOR US. I LOVE PEOPLE, I CANT IMAGINE TURNING RICH OR POOR GUESTS AWAY DURING MY WEDDING. MY TRADITIONAL WEDDING WAS IN CAPE COST OF GHANA AND I SET A LASTING LEGACY IN THAT PLACE. U ONLY DO THESE THINGS ONCE, SO THERES NO NEED BEING STINGY. IF YOU ARE NOT READY TO ENTERTAIN GUESTS THAT MEASN U NEVER REACH TO SETTLE DOWN. I BELIEVE IF A SENATOR OR MILLIONAIRE COMES TO YOUR WEDDING UNINVITED YOU WONT TURN HIM AWAY?

My dear, i commend your good work. its lovely for you to feed the nation. But like its said Charity begins at home. if i only want to feed my own, that is my decision. call it stingy or what you may. i am not the government or social security neither does your wasteful government invite their poor to eat everyday. you have sent a standard for your goodness. i am in no way obligated to follow your footsteps. So let me be charitable in my own way. you may feed at xmas but have u no idea what i do for the poor around. its my wedding and want do not uninvited guest . SIMPLE.

Rocktation: Ehennn...I catch you. And you were busy, forming American nigga for us, when the matter of feeding uninvited people, arose bah?

LMAO, let me go and sleep before i go late to work 2moro. i cant afford to lose my job now i have olasmail and his crew to feed.

olasmail78@yaho:
YOU are truely great o.Dat you av been waiting to feed us for ten years now.
weda e rain or flood sef,na chop we go chop dat day.
Thank you so much.
Is it true you are giving everybody mobile phone? ah u do well o.
We r waitin 4u o.
4 dis nijah we get big spender o.
boyzz go smile dat day

osasmail you are not a serious person. its not only mobile phone, come and collect your mac air. OLE

crisycent: Tell us the truth so we can advice you better. Why don't you want uninvited guests at your wedding? Is it because you are scared of your ex?

lol.. i am marrying my first love. that is why i want it really classy. i met him at 16 and i am turning 26 soon. its been 10 years building up to this marriage.

[quote author=babyosisi]No offense but you sound like a perpetual gate crasher of events from the way you have made all manner of excuses why this is a bad idea
Stop it because one day someone may embarrass you
Take this as a friendly advise
[/quote

babyosisi and goldie lets all agree to disagree. In as much as i agree with your views babyosisi, Goldie also has a realistic point of view. I am grateful to both of you for your candid advise and you will be the first to know how it went

Goldieluks: Yeah, one can do that, but be sure to do your wedding in a secure environment.
Because there's no way one or two strange faces will not attend, if the wedding is done
in an open area. If the wedding is done in the church ,I wonder how many of your uninvited church members you would
bounce out from attending your reception. Phew!

lol, i rented a hall for the wedding too. My uncle is a pastor and his church approved him wedding us. We will have two other pastors witnesses from the church who are invited to the reception.

Goldieluks: Sometimes occurrences such as this are inevitable, but if issues like this arises, then it is left for
the celebrant to take total control of the situation. Am saying this, because there's no way you
can avoid uninvited guest from attending a wedding. Some of these guests are hungry kids, you i cannot
send them away just because i want my wedding to be as peaceful as possible. No!

i get where you are coming from Goldieluks but like babyosisi said i only have souv to cater for 300 people. and food for same and maybe more. i want to make sure that all my guest leave with a souv regardless of whether they give me a present or not. i don't see why its rocket science. "i don't know you please dont come". i don't want to offend anybody but i have people coming from various places and i just want to make sure it was worth their while.

babyosisi: Are you saying that being Nigerian gives us permission to be foolish and chaotic and not respect simple rules?
Why are we then asking our government to do right and not dismiss it as being Nigerian?
I don't get your question.
Are we born to be disorderly in other words is it in our genetic make up to act foolishly or is it a learned response?

just my sentiments. we all want change yet refuse to change.

Goldieluks: @OP It is your wedding and you have every right to enjoy your day.
But inviting bouncers to your wedding, does not make sense because you must
have attended one or two weddings without being invited, maybe you attended with a friend.
How would you feel if you do attend a wedding with your friend, and you were bounced/or not allowed into the wedding?
Its like attending night clubs where you have bouncers, and it feels very embarrassing to experience such.

To me i think you should just pray your wedding goes smoothly and peacefully as planned, instead of
worrying yourself with uninvited guests. Guest who are uninvited are sometimes more than the invited guests,
and its all for the fun of it. So chill, and pray you have a blissful and enjoyable wedding experience, stop fretting unnecessarily.

i have never in my life attended an event i have not been invited to. i attended my cousins wedding few years ago. the noise and commotion caused by uninvited guest was not a nice sight. there were ushers but people were trooping the kitchen to look for food. i dont know about you but i felt like vomiting after the whole thing. i was the maid of honour but did not witness the couple cut cake cos i kept being pulled out to mobilise food her guest who had not eaten. i know it our culture but its not right.

babyosisi: First of all expecting 300 and sending out 200 cards is a bit tough
Many of your guests are married I suppose and some with children so one card could bring a family of 4 or more
To get a crowd of 300 or within that figure,you should not give out more than 120 cards.
Assuming 20 card holders fail to show up ,your hundred cards will fetch an average of two people ( husband and wife) and then the other 100 will be children
So IMHO you started off on the high side already
Not to worry but you have work to do to have number of guests you require

What to do

1. Get your trusted friends and family members to call every single invited guest to RSVP on the phone with the exact number coming
2. Politely tell them the reception is by invitation only
3. Warn those young friends ahead of time that they cannot bring guests,you can make exceptions to very close friends but get the name of the guest they are bringing so they know you are serious.
4.make sure the hotel or reception venue has the number of seats corresponding to guests and more
5. Have names placed on the tables according to number of guests on each IV e.g a table that seats 10 can have the Adelabu family of 5,the Okoro family of 3 and the Fiberesima family of 4
Call it table 1 with a clear sign there that says table one so when the Okoro family comes in,you know they are on table one.
If you know people who are friends,have them sit together if you wish
6. Have your hostesses and hosts walk them to their tables,each one holding that pre made list and seating arrangement with the floor plan.
7. Have the event venue reserve an unmarked table for anyone you missed out.

For this method to work you must have reliable people to man the door and they have to be there before the guests arrive at the reception
You need to have a meeting with them ahead of time,go to the venue with them before the wedding day so they are familiar with the place.
Agree on polite words to use when turning people away who are not on the list and have security standby for any trouble makers.


With this method,you will get close to your expected number.
Stick to your guns and don't mind anyone who says otherwise
It is your wedding
It is one thing you are free to do as you want.

Thanks for your advise,its very much appreciated. we have a separate room that can accommodate 50 kids and they will have like a kiddi party for them with lots of fun stuff for them to do. We are doing our best to accommodate all our guest. I dated my fiance for 10 years and for both of us this is like the icing on the cake for our relationship. we just want it very intimate and special to those who know our story.

ARES: Let me share my plans with u. U want 300 pple, get 310 seats. Make sitting arangement and paste the name of every invited guest on each seat. Let me see where the gate crashers will seat.
Btw, the 10 extra seats are for unforeseen circumstances

My mum suggested same but i was told that they will seat on the seat reserved for guest and because they owe you no iota of respect and they dont know you, they are ready to fight with your guest over seat. also bear in mind that such unwanted guest go early. i just feel like i am fighting a lost battle

victord1st: so its now uncivilized for invited guest to come with their spouses.wouldn't attend any wedding if my wife isnt in town talk less of when she cant come because she isnt invited.
@poster,are uplanning ur wedding for only 300 bachelors that cant even come with their fiance?

we cater for those who have spouses. spouses are not exempt. my problem is friends of friend. let me put it in perspective. i invited a friend who invited 5 other strangers. one of the strangers is planning to bring another friend. i only knew about it cos my friend called to ask whether there is ashebi cos one of the friends friend who is coming can help me organize it. first there was no courtesy to ask if her friend could come but she has also endorsed her friends friend coming. For those who think i am harsh, she was uninvited

babyosisi: Do you have a list of your invited guests and their phone numbers
Have you sent out invitations yet
How many invitation cards did you send out including the ones distributed by family members on your behalf


Let me give you tips
I hope you are just starting the planning now so I can suggest what you can do

yeah we have all the names of those coming. We printed out 200 card. My parent and in laws have been reasonable and seem to respect our wishes as they have a list of all the people who have RSVP and kept the names. Our problem is the so called young friends. They seem to get out of control and tell everyone they meet.

some-girl:
how will you know when people are seated who's invited and who isn't?

That is the point Ma. i need to make sure they don't seat.

iamSi: We both share the same Minds_ am planning doing the same- I resolved at "STRICTLY-BY-IV" things with a pass like a card inside the IV_
If a guess is coming without the Pass even with the IV there's not going to be an entry thats my plan for you bro

My dear, i have that stipulated in my IV but apparently Nigerians do not read invitation card or perhaps don't give a damn what to stipulate. I and my fiance have worked so hard to make this happen and all i want is for people who mean the most to us to come and have a great time. I also thought about the pass but my fiance says that people will forget it.

fittty: Why don't you want them there? Or are you broke?

i don't think catering for 300 guest is broke. i just want those i cater for to have a memorable experience. is that too much to ask

val_dubem: when U were carrying ur longer throat up and down peoples wedding and parties, did anybody bounce you? now you want to Chase people away from your own. What is good for Obi should equally be good for Musa.

i have never attended a wedding in my entire life which i have not been invited to. i live in the UK and that is purely unacceptable. i don't mind people who know me coming to my wedding but for the sake of courtesy i expect them to let me know (RSVP) so i can accommodate them. What worries me is that some of these friends of friend i have never met. it not about food or money. i just want to make sure that my invited guest are well taken care of. i find it disheartening when invited guest are standing or have had nothing to eat and friend of friend is at the front seat. Hope you understand.

I need suggestions please. i am getting married soon and would like 300 guest maximum. i have already been advised by a few friends that they will be bringing their friends.

Firstly i find that rude as i understand weddings are meant for close friends and family.

I am considering getting bouncer and security.

Is this acceptable in Nigeria.

anishe: The findings are still incomplete cos my wife will put to bed there when she goes for her Masters next year. I must have a citizen of UK as my son or daughter. Planning for old age in my own little way.

. Being born in the uk does not qualify a child for citizenship. She should have her child in the united states if she wants automatic citizenship status.

Anyone who has a conscience stony enough to watch a person being killed in as much as to deem it a sight delightful enough to capture it on video is a murderer. Everyone who stood there should be captured and should face a similar fate a those young men. Such disgusting news is so frequent that is now deemed normal. I am still trying to get my head round the Absu gang rape video, Cynthia, the guy who was shot one week after his wedding and Mubi. Not one of these innocent souls have got justice. I turn my TV on and i hear illiterates we call politicians reading off jargon's from a piece of paper prepared for them talking endlessly about nothing. A similar incident happened in front of my secondary school and children gathered to watch a man burn. the smell of it still gives me nightmares and i cant understand how a humane human can find such a gory sight fascinating.

sassygal: so sorry its classysassyng@gmail.com

no problem. sent it.

sassygal: Do send me a mail, classysassyng@yahoo.com, with your expectations and i will send you a list of trusted vendors you can rely on.

sent you a mail but it came back undelivered, please check your email address is correct

[quote author=sassygal]Hi zinfly,

There's actually no need to panic! You have got 4 months to plan. You can find all the vendors you need on nairaland, just make sure you have seen their past work.

Being a perfectionist isn't so much a bad thing, i am one too and have learnt to use that trait to my advantage

thanks dear,
hopefully i can have it all sorted out before Feb. My hubby to be an I don't live in Nigeria so its kinda hard to plan when you are not there and i just cant seem to trust anyone with the little details. Hence, i jumped at this chance so i can speak to vendors before i come back for Xmas. Most vendors seem to be based in Lagos and many that do respond do not have websites. i will be on the lookout and hope good vendors with webpages respond.

contra: you said 'Feb 2012' thats past nah...abi are we counting back?

@Event planners you guys are not helping the OP alone, try and post ur suggestion here as well.

Thanks for pointing out my mistake reasonably. Feb 2013 i meant. Time flies so quickly and i get nervous i wont be able to sort out all i need before then. i welcome suggestions. Thanks

timbros: Are u high?

i am not really one to rain insults on people without just cause. Please in what way does my request or response suggest i am High.