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Marriage is said to be a life contract and also an agreement between two ,a woman and a man.[/b]I want all readers of this posting to be faithfull to themselves when answering these questions:

1. [b]where can you allow your wife to work ? ( a bank, hospital  e.t.c.) we all know that this have to go inline with their qualification and course of study, but we still need to say something about this.

2. Will you as a man allow your wife to work or stay out of your base or station though your are married? e.g you are working in lagos and your wife is work somewhere else (in another state ). please i need a sincere answer to these question they are question that afects marrige. thanks

as a woman, i think we should be allowed to work where ever we wish - in respect of what type of job, however i dont think husband and wife should be sperate - unless absolutly nessecary!

i am married and i work. At the moment we are in two different countries (never mind states!), only because we have to! he is waiting for his settlement visa.

i will continue to work - when needed!
i am however very supporive of being a at home mum - and bringing up my own children - so
when we start our family i will resign from work to be with the kids then when they start school i will start part time work if needed.

Emma

I would not appose my wife working anywhere, if your marriage is strong it should not really matter. The question I would be asking is why does my wife want / choose to work away from me?

My father worked most of my chilhood away from home and my parents mariage has suvived, could it have been better if he did not travel? Who knows.

My work takes me all over the world, so my wife is aware that I will probably have to travel to another country after this job. Is she upset, not really as she know that I will do everything possible to have he near me, the worst that can happen is that I only see her for 6 months of a year. It sucks but that's the game I play.

Heavenly heavens!!!!The decision on where you work should be made by your husband?

I gotta admit, this thread is disturbing:

. where can you allow your wife to work ?

Are you for real?

As much as i love the ladies to have the greatest freedom they could have, working far away from your spouse is definately not the best way to keep a marriage. Yes it might have worked for some people but be sure it will not work for every body.

Image the risk a lady or the guy will be taking stay away from your spouse for too long

As much as i love the ladies to have the greatest freedom they could have, working far away from your spouse is definately not the best way to keep a marriage. Yes it might have worked for some people but be sure it will not work for every body.

Imagine the risk a lady or the guy will be taking stay away from your spouse for too long

My wife is free to choose where she'll work -- it's not like I control her or something.

@Weak Topic

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I think the question is lame/dumb and the answer is "we are in the year 2006" Slavery is Over, and women have been Liberated.

i don't think @whoknoxluv meant the question to sound like that. Anyway, i think working in different states or countries is not the best but sometimes you just can't help it. But if you can help it, it's better to be together.
As to the question about the kind of job, that shouldn't be an issue, because everyone should (where possible) do what he/she loves to do.

I think it is wrong to conclude that this question is lame/dumb. In case you have forgotten, this is Nairaland and so most threads will be dominated by trends and social norms in Nigeria. Inasmuch as women have gradually become freer in Nigeria, one cannot rule out the fact that social standards in at least 60% of the homes in Nigeria give the man (husband) a dominant say. Consequently, he can 'allow' or 'disallow' his wife from doing some things. I believe it is in this context that the question was asked. However, many homes are liberal enough to debate this issue and come to a compromise.

This topic would have been best if it's "Is it advisable for a couple to work and live apart?" or maybe "Should work seperate you from your wife?" or something like that sha.

But this present chauvinistic-sounding topic makes me want to start my own
Where will I allow my husband to work after marriage?
Answer: The kitchen, bathroom, toilet and of course, right beside the baby- changing diapers.

why

ma wife gotta work if she wants

What if , God forbids

I loose ma job

IAH thanks for the comment u got me right am not saying working in a specific company i mean working in another state so i think Old Glory should get me right .

anywhere she wants to, just as im free to work anywhere i want,

as long as the job would not hinder her from fulfilling der duties as my "wife and chairwoman" and mother in the family. Im her Chairman!!

hhmm, nice talking like some married man!!

To the poster

Well the question of where is a good one because it can make or break a marriage, and i think that goes both for the man and woman, distance i.e another town has to be workable for the couple and if one expresses concern for it then it should be taken into account, but then again it could be good for some, if the woman's salary is that huge a figure that the man is willing to accept the distance and is comfartable with it then it's good luck i say.

AS to whether a woman should be allowed by husband to work after marriage,i speak for my self, if he can comfortably pay for everything or is a millionnaire then by all means, if its a job i love and its a fulfilment issue then i will probably find it unfair to be asked not to work. Some will say how can a man ask me not to work? well each relationship and circumstance is unique to each couple and those who want to remain with the old values of man work woman stay home, then fair dos , but the question is can the one who goes out to work make life very comfortable for all in the family? if not then throw that tradition out the window cause money issues will break it up

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@Weak Topic

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I think the question is lame/dumb and the answer is "we are in the year 2006" Slavery is Over, and women have been Liberated.

Haba Oldglory, easy bro

You being a tad unfair here to the poster, its obviously an issue to him and to many men out there. I dont think its dumb , yes we in the year 2006 and people are now engaging in all sorts of social activitie , however some people still have the lifestyle of old fashioned values, which i dont think is so bad, within reason that is. Yeah i know women are liberated but see the problems that come with that same feminist movement, we force unnatural roles on each other and put ourselve through unnecessary pressures. All i am saying is for a man like the poster there is a woman that will compliment his values, the universe is diverse afterall and we all unique right? The word i was looking for is COMPROMISE


P.S
I totally respect your view point Oldglory, its always nice to flip the coin too

why should my husband tell me where to work and not to? when he was getting married 2 me, didn't know what I studied in school? Abeg diz is 21st century, u didn't pay my school fees and should not dictate 2 me where 2 and not 2 work

@hotstepper

But you really, really, really, really love him, right? thats why you married Him.
that LOVE should make you listen, at least to his Dictation

In reality every man and woman would definitely be concerned about where their spouse works.But using the word "allow" is stressing the point a bit too far.I can't even imagine my husband telling me where i should work.Its obvious a lot of people still hold the view that the man is some sort of boss who calls the shot and who must be obeyed.These days it doesn't exactly work that way.Rather than allowing or disallowing,the woman's interest needs to be considered and a compromise can be reached.

I think the dude has some deep issues LOL

Jokes aside, this shouldn't even be allowed to post. If my wife is a doctor, she will work in a hospital, Journalist: TV or radio, pharmacist: pharmacy.

As long as she feels comfortable working wherever she is working, I have no problems with that.

that's my 2 cents

@reniks
Word UP!!!

Where will you allow your husband to work after marriage?

Ladies, i dont think there is anything bad in your husband telling you where to work and not to work. He is the head of the family, whether he pay your school fees not that is bull shit you knw.

:oIs not good to allow your husband to work far away from you, just imagine what both of you will be passing through, lol

If i have the means,then my wife wun't even work at all.Full time house wife.
And if she complains too much,then i'll get her a biznes to handle.
But, if i dont hav the means,then she has to look for a job that lets her close as early as possible.It cud b very anoyin to com home from work and my wife is either not bak or just preparin food.

if i was a man i was coming to let her work home,lol

Hotstepper:

why should my husband tell me where to work and not to? when he was getting married 2 me, didn't know what I studied in school? Abeg diz is 21st century, u didn't pay my school fees and should not dictate 2 me where 2 and not 2 work

@Hotstepper

Why u dey make mouth? If your husband tells you that he does not want you to work, what will you do? Absolutely nothing I tell you. If you disobey him, he will tell you to go back to your fathers house. Then u don enter bigger wahala because we igbo guys no dey marry divorcee unless you wan dey single or dey jump from one man to the other till u die.

I will not allow my wife to work for the first 15yrs of our marriage because she will be at home raising the kids. I will have to discuss it with my future wife before we get married, if she does not agree, she goes her way marriage no be by force.

Most women of these days are heartless, who will you leave your young children for while working? Nannies? Na wao no nanny will ever take care of your children the way you would.

If the Man can afford it, I don't see the reason why a woman wouldn't stay at home and take care of the kids. Money is not everything, children come first in a family before money.

What of if a couple should face their careers and leave their children in the care of nannnies, after making the whole money in this world but they have monsters for children who where raised by nannies? Do you think those children can manage those wealth that the parents accumulated? No way!! They would squander every penny of it, I have seen countless families where it happened in Kano State where I grew up.

My uncles wife studied Chemical Engineering in the university but she is a fulltime housewife and her husband loves her for the sacrifice she made. He gives her what she wants, presently she drives a Mercedes Benz E-Class. Now you ladies how many of you can afford to buy this with all your work?

Please Ladies you guys need to put your Kids welfare before your so called career, OK.

please when did it become part of the human rights that husbands must choose where their wives would work,could you tell me

Men and women have different roles in marriage; taking care of the home is part of a woman's duty.
She should, therefore, not embark on a career that compromises her primary duty as a wife (ie its not her duty to earn the daily bread while it IS her duty to take care of her home). For instance, if her place of work compels her to work till around 8:00pm every weekday that would clearly inconvenience her husband and kids. However, if her work has no effect on her taking care of her home and spending time with her kids, then its none of the husbands business. So the husband should have a say in where his wife works insofar as it affects her responsibilities as a wife.

That aside, the nature of the job could also be an issue. If its a job that has unpleasant connotations or arouses suspicions (such as being a bartender), then obviously its a no-no.
But in most cases, the woman is able to make the right decisions herself so the husband doesn't have to intrude.

stranger26:

For instance, if her place of work compels her to work till around 8:00pm every weekday that would clearly inconvenience her husband and kids.

For this reason alone i will marry a teacher chikina.

The same idiotic topic as usual.

What does "allow" mean? Is she a goat? If you cant tolerate the girl's profession, leave her alone and allow someone who isnt an immature slowpoke marry her

So Simple.