Since living with my parents, there had never been a time they weren't quarrelling over one matter or the other,(mainly infidelity cases).growing up I was hoping they would change,buh nah, its getting worse.
These last few years has been the worst, my mum complains of lack of love from my dad, while my dad complains of her nagging attitude(which my mum blames to the lack of love and care she gets from him) both accuse each other of extramarital affairs..
Both are very proud and never get to accept what the other says, which I just found out..am soo tired of settling cases between them,now they have so gotten out of hand that they want to seperate.. Am soo confused. What do I do?

Do absolutely nothing.

Be a spectator.

[quote author=k2039]Do absolutely nothing.

Be a spectator.[/quote

Its really disturbing me..

Talk with them individually with love and respect. And if that does not work, leave them. . . So long as they don't get physical on themselves, they'll sort themselves out.

ifyalways: Talk with them individually with love and respect. And if that does not work, leave them. . . So long as they don't get physical on themselves, they'll sort themselves out.

I have done that, if not for my presence and the endless talks I have with them, it would hv all crashed a long time ago, my problem now is that it has gotten soo bad that they are already trying to seperate

There's little or nothing you can do..especially since they've been this way for so long..
..and like the poster above said,so long they don't get physical,let them handle it as they like it!
If they insist on separation,you can't stop it!!

Like someone said be a spectator.

Punteke: Its really disturbing me..

Frankly,their is little you can do,remeber they found each other and proffessed to love each other before you were born,and now they want a break up.
So it's their decision,all you can do is learn from them and make sure you have a happy marriage.

I know it will be hard,but ignore both of them(if they remain in that marriage they will not be happy,it's better they broke up and live happily)

k2039:

Frankly,their is little you can do,remeber they found each other and proffessed to love each other before you were born,and now they want a break up.
So it's their decision,all you can do is learn from them and make sure you have a happy marriage.

I know it will be hard,but ignore both of them(if they remain in that marriage they will not be happy,it's better they broke up and live happily)

slimyem: There's little or nothing you can do..especially since they've been this way for so long..
..and like the poster above said,so long they don't get physical,let them handle it as they like it!
If they insist on separation,you can't stop it!!

Its sad having to have two of them seperate after so many years together, well I was hoping there could be something done to save this from happening. Marriage no easy finaly sha.somehow I keep feeling maybe there is something I can do, I know deep down the love is there.

continue talkin to them.

Punteke:


Its sad having to have two of them seperate after so many years together, well I was hoping there could be something done to save this from happening. Marriage no easy finaly sha.somehow I keep feeling maybe there is something I can do, I know deep down the love is there.

That's a big lesson for you dear.Love alone is not sufficient to have a successful marriage,both partners have to be compatible in major areas of their lives.

Your parent love each other but they cant live with each other(they are just not compatible in some core areas)

Involve their parents, close extended family members and pastors/imams/native doctors! that they both respect their opinions.

Kx: Involve their parents, close extended family members and pastors/imams/native doctors! that they both respect their opinions.

Noted......lmao @ native doctors.. Will do that once I get home, if they haven't done it already