Tgirl4real: I really don't know the title to give this...

How do u FEEL when someone (an opp sex) goes out of his way to serve u, run errands for u, try to please u and be there for you even when it is obvious you can't date the person?

I do know how to handle such situations, but it sometimes saddens me esp. when the person is someone 'lower' than you. I usually try my best to reject/reciprocate such gestures in the most polite and humble way possible.

But to be sincere, it can be awkward.

So, how do u feel?

Does it excite you?
Make u proud?
Do u feel like u are taking advantage of the person?

Johndoe100: Why can't you date the person?

Does the person want to "date" you or just hit you and be on his way? Please for men the two are not the same thing.

stillwater: If he wants to run errands for me, who am I to complain? So no I don't feel like I'm taking advantage of the person. It's not as if I requested he did it. His reward is in heaven.

stillwater: If he wants to run errands for me, who am I to complain? So no I don't feel like I'm taking advantage of the person. It's not as if I requested he did it. His reward is in heaven.

Richvkunt: Has this person even implied he wants to date you?
Is our imagination running riot here?
Chilvary is not dead in every male,so at times some men may just like to help their women folk out because they are the weaker sex,or because they remind them of their kid sisters or because they just wanna be nice.
The problem starts when the female being helped starts reading meanings into this help and believes the man wants to date her.
There is still something called platonic relationships between men and women.

Tgirl4real:

U are right sir. But, u can't deny that there are such awkward moments.

BTW, haven't u had ladies run around for u so as just to get ur attention?

Richvkunt:

My dear, any lady that runs around brother RVK is asking to get hit. I wil simply follow my animal instincts and then move on.

Tgirl4real: I really don't know the title to give this...

How do u FEEL when someone (an opp sex) goes out of his way to serve u, run errands for u, try to please u and be there for you even when it is obvious you can't date the person?

It is clear this person likes you and if things were different he/she would have loved to date u.

I do know how to handle such situations, but it sometimes saddens me esp. when the person is someone 'lower' than you. I usually try my best to reject/reciprocate such gestures in the most polite and humble way possible.

But to be sincere, it can be awkward.

So, how do u feel?

Does it excite you?
Make u proud?
Do u feel like u are taking advantage of the person?

MRbrownJAY: @OP
Not all women have to be mounted, and some are best left alone, straight from the get go.....so if i know that her actions have a second meaning other than to help etc then i will politely decline and try to spend as little time with this person as possible. if the gal doesnt get the picture then i will be more direct and simply tell her that i enjoy what she does for me but she has to understand that what we have will never go further than friendship. if she persists thinking that i will change my stand or whatever, then she is blacklisted and i cease contact with her.

one sure thing is NEVER take advantage of this person as they may turn around and become wicked towards you when jilted......or worst!

youngdady:
Pls, what do you mean by lower than you? You hinted that you know how to take care of such situation so whats the problem?

Don't mean to hijack your thread but I have a female colleague who tells me all about her relationship with her husband, she even discuss their sex life with me. Of late I've been looking for ways to minimize our interaction without appearing to hurt her feelings, abeg suggestion needed ooooh! I'm not comffy with her anymore.

youngdady:
Don't mean to hijack your thread but I have a female colleague who tells me all about her relationship with her husband, she even discuss their sex life with me. Of late I've been looking for ways to minimize our interaction without appearing to hurt her feelings, abeg suggestion needed ooooh! I'm not comffy with her anymore.

Tgirl4real: I really don't know the title to give this...
How do u FEEL when someone (an opp sex) goes out of his way to serve u, run errands for u, try to please u and be there for you even when it is obvious you can't date the person? It is clear this person likes you and if things were different he/she would have loved to date u.

So, how do u feel?
Does it excite you?
Make u proud?
Do u feel like u are taking advantage of the person?

Tgirl4real:

Yes o . . .d guy can turn to a nasty stalker.

My principle is, if I am not gonna eat what u have to offer, I don't dine with u.

MRbrownJAY:
but sadly many are too hungry to turn down a free meal, and will instead lead this person on, for as much meals as they can get.

MRbrownJAY:

but sadly many are too hungry to turn down a free meal, and will instead lead this person on, for as much meals as they can get.

uj_sizzle:
@Coogar. I hope she reads this. Badt guy

coogar:

it depends on who is doing the asking........
if she's "fit", of course i would be silly to pass up such opportunity even if i am seeing someone else..........but if she's not my type, haaaaaa - i would quickly tell my girlfriend about it! i have to make her think i don't "cheat" and examples like this gives her confidence i am 100% perfect - it's the oldest trick in the world.

Tgirl4real:



I'm sure thatz a big fat lie.

coogar:

it depends on who is doing the asking........
if she's "fit", of course i would be silly to pass up such opportunity even if i am seeing someone else..........but if she's not my type, haaaaaa - i would quickly tell my girlfriend about it! i have to make her think i don't "cheat" and examples like this gives her confidence i am 100% perfect - it's the oldest trick in the world.

How does that make you feel, SlimShady?

Tgirl4real: I really don't know the title to give this...
How do u FEEL when someone (an opp sex) goes out of his way to serve u, run errands for u, try to please u and be there for you even when it is obvious you can't date the person?
It is clear this person likes you and if things were different he/she would have loved to date u.
I do know how to handle such situations, but it sometimes saddens me esp. when the person is someone 'lower' than you. I usually try my best to reject/reciprocate such gestures in the most polite and humble way possible.
But to be sincere, it can be awkward.

So, how do u feel?

Does it excite you?
Make u proud?
Do u feel like u are taking advantage of the person?

BABE!:

How does that make you feel, SlimShady?

coogar: it depends on who is doing the asking........
if she's "fit", of course i would be silly to pass up such opportunity even if i am seeing someone else..........but if she's not my type, haaaaaa - i would quickly tell my girlfriend about it! i have to make her think i don't "cheat" and examples like this gives her confidence i am 100% perfect - it's the oldest trick in the world.

coogar:
she's just lonely.....
why minimise the interaction? there's nothing wrong with 2 grown adults discuss sensitive marital topics - it seems you are the one displaying immature traits here - the lady is married and she knows you know her status - so why are you getting your knickers in a twist?

MRbrownJAY:

but before you mount her then you have to make her understand that it is only bedroom sport and nothing else......and even then, she may still go crazy on you when you tell her thank you very much.
and if the gal knows where i live, knows my gf, knows my family etc then whether she is fit or not is irrelevant, as i will still turn her down because there will be too much to loose from that ONE shaag. we all know how some are quick to turn into She devils when they dont get what they want.

Tgirl4real: When I was in high sch, I usually turn down gifts from men so as not to appear that I am leading them on. But, if u go out of ur way to do me a favour, I don't mind o.

When I became more matured, I really don't mind (depending on the kinda gift/favour sha o) as long as I am not encouraging u in anyway. I love defining my relationships.

Now that I am married, I just feel sad about the whole thing. But I still do enjoy the moment.