Pls nairalanders, a friend of mine looks depressed unlike him. I asked severally and he later opened up to me, his plight:

He is thirty, the only child and he lost his father 12 years ago. He is from the eastern part of the country, graduated from one of the higer institutions in Nigeria and just on his nysc. He has his poor mother @ the village.

Now his problem is that his mother and other close relatives have been pestering this my guy to get married without any job or steady source of income. His vehement refusal to get married until he has secured a job or @least have a reasonable source of income made the family members to look @ him as irresponsible child. His mother is not happy hence his unhappiness.

Now he want members of this forum to advice him, should he get married now to pls his mother and other family members that love him or should he hold on till he gets a job or @least a reasonable source of income?

Ur candid advice would be appreciated.

Will the family support him and his wife? Will they house them, feed them, clothe them? Will they buy formula and diapers for their babies? Will they be the ones dealing with the stress of a nagging, unhappy wife? If not they should go and sit down. Your friend should stick to his decision unless he wants to marry a rich woman and be a kept man.

Even if he ever decides to marry without money, it should be his own decision together with his wife to be, not because of pressure from family.

^^read ileobatojo's comment 100 times and that does it.

Ask his family members that are talking to contribute like 10million naira. This will take care of dowry fees, wedding, house rent, wifes bafs, babies bafs, transportation and feeding. It is just an estimate, they should also start putting at least 5million naira into a bank every year till he can get a job and gets to the point where he can take care of himself. Only under these conditions should he get married before getting a job. Trust me, all the family members will runaway henceforth.

ileobatojo: Will the family support he and his wife? Will they house them, feed them, clothe them? Will they buy formula and diapers for their babies? Will they be the ones dealing with the stress of a nagging, unhappy wife? If not they should go and sit down. Your friend should stick to his decision unless he wants to marry a rich woman and be a kept man.

Even if he ever decides to marry without money, it should be his own decision together with his wife to be, not because of pressure from family.

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If hin like make hin marry
No come here tell us say the wife disgrace am for public

I think you should advise him to go and pray hard and maybe go for deliverance. It is obvious those family members are up to something, 30 in the eastern part of the country is not too old for a man even ladies get to thirty. The family members are clearly out to ridicule him and divert his attention from being something in life. He needs to snap out of that unhappiness and pray hard for GOd's revelation. Something is wrong somewhere.

Thank u all, ur advice\opinions are much valued. May good God continue to bless u all. Keep the advices coming as it will be well appreciated. Luv u all.

If you ask my opinion I will say he should try and get himself into a serious relationship from there any thing can happen, if he and the lady think they can get along with small resources then they should go ahead and marry after all the Bible say he who finds a wife finds a good thing and gets favour from above. For some people there break through never come forth until the tie the knot. I think the mother's worry lies in the fact that he is an only child, he should do her proud and see how God will surprise him. There is always a starting point. He should not be a man of little faith.

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Pls nairalanders, a friend of mine looks depressed unlike him. I asked severally and he later opened up to me, his plight:

He is thirty, the only child and he lost his father 12 years ago. He is from the eastern part of the country, graduated from one of the higer institutions in Nigeria and just on his nysc. He has his poor mother @ the village.

Now his problem is that his mother and other close relatives have been pestering this my guy to get married without any job or steady source of income. His vehement refusal to get married until he has secured a job or @least have a reasonable source of income made the family members to look @ him as irresponsible child. His mother is not happy hence his unhappiness.

Now he want members of this forum to advice him, should he get married now to pls his mother and other family members that love him or should he hold on till he gets a job or @least a reasonable source of income?

Ur candid advice would be appreciated.

tell him i said he should not marry till he's 40.

Tell your momma to chill a bit for you that you understand how she feels, you have to be ready to take care of your family and do it when you really want to.