This is for both husband and wife as it is to do with responsibility and accountability in marriage and relationship.

1. making other things your top priority e.g work, phone, friends, sports, children etc rather than your intimate relationship.

2.lack of affection-.hand holding, hugs,cuddling and physical tenderness is not only erotic and seductive, but it's a glue that keeps two of you close n bonded to each other.its absence usually means the two of you have grown far apart

3.dishonesty: it's hard to trust someone who has deceived, misled or betrayed you in d past

4.stonewalling: rather than addressing what bothers you, you wall off and stay walled off for a while

5. Being defensive: it becomes increasingly difficult for your mate to say anything to you that you don't want to hear so he/she becomes scared/ discouraged.

6. being overly critical and argumentative: it makes you annoying and difficult to be around.

7. being resentful, angry or hostile too much of the time. people will want to avoid you.

8. not taking accountability for your behaviors- or feeling self-justified and righteous that you seldom think you awe an apology for ur hurtful, insensitive or demeaning words or behaviors.

9. being a control freak

10.seeking stimulation or solace in all the wrong places, through alcohol, drugs, an affair, porn, sports, work etc

11. infidelity or betrayal: this is the worst method ever dor attempting to tell your partner you're unhappy because once trust is ruptured it is extremely difficult to recapture. you also, inadvertently, invite a revenge affair.

12.having low trust: it's very hard to be with someone who isn't willing to offer you benefit of the doubt or who sees your motives as suspicious.

13. poor listening skills: most people talk too much about things that don't matter and listen with a genuine desire to understand way too little.

14. Not treating as important that which is important to your partner.