This is a literary work I want to share. It can also be viewed on my blog. Thanks.

Chapter One: Who am I to Love?

This chapter will on a journey into discovering who we are how much we are capable of loving those around us. We will be taken through the importance of expressing our love to our partners and others around us for their maximization.

Love is a very strong controversy. It has many definitions and words might just not be big enough to really sum up what it means. Love is a word that means the most ridiculous things to a diverse number of people. What I call love might not be what you will see as love. So the question is; what is love? What do we understand as love? What can we really get from having it in our life?

American Heritage Dictionary describes love as a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.

In your own understanding and experience, would you totally agree with the definition above?  It says love is “A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.” Are all these true and applicable to everyday living according to His ordinances?

Love makes living a great life hard at times. Love makes things complex and sometimes simpler than it really is. Love is a simple four letter word but it is a complex emotion that one doesn’t totally understand. There are people that have tried to share what they know as love as simple as they can but it ends up turning into this huge emotion that consumes us and makes us what we are not most times. 

Relationships are built out of this emotion called love. Friendships put its essence on the emotion. Family and friends have based their existence on this emotion and God trusts us to do things with relation to this emotion. Many have tried to run away from it and any ignore it only to end up in its clutch when they least expect it. Giants had fallen as a result of this emotion. The commoners had come into greatness when touched by this emotion.

Love has no goal when you let it into your life. It makes no promises. It just wants you to be yourself and let it take its course. It controls you and drives you. Many will say that love is made for us to go into marriage. Marriage is a compromise. It is a commitment that partners make. Love doesn’t always end up in marriages like when people see two people seemingly in love they’ll start asking when the wedding bells will ring. There are people in fifty year old marriages that agreed to it just because it is convenient for them while there are people that get married for the sake of love only to hate each other two weeks into it. This is as a result of the misunderstanding of the word, love. So, what I am saying in essence is that, love makes and breaks. It is just a plan; how we read and interpret it is entirely up to us. 

The Bible says love your neighbors as yourself. This is a tough world so I can say it is easier said than done, but with he right kind of guidance that comes from up above, it is achievable. Many people struggle with love and forgiveness. We are all bitter and see the worst in people when we are hurt. I always say that a happy person will make a happier congregation or gathering as you may want to call it.

When the spirit is helpless and sad, the body and mind will follow suit and it transcends into behaviors and personalities. Someone that loves himself will never see the hate in the eyes of someone else. She is happy and she sees the good in the worst kind of people. She closes her eyes to the iniquities of others. Her happiness sinks into those around her.

What a person chooses to do to others is born out of what she is feeling for that person. The urge to inflict harm on someone else is done out of what the perpetrator is feeling for that person. Not appreciating who we are and what we are will make us hostile to people around us as we tend to take it out on them even if they are the only person that makes sense in our life.

The first step to a journey of making ourselves happier than we already are is to love who we are. You are thin, you are fat, you have loose teeth or even if you are poor, loving who you are and the potential in you will be a weapon to use to take you out of that zone. 

Like in the movies, “Conversation with God”, Neil saw the worst in himself. He didn’t see past his nose and the trials that befell him but God showed him how to look further than that food from the trash. He braced himself and goodness followed him. He finds himself by doing what he loves doing; using his voice to make a difference. He didn’t see the potential in himself. He would never had thought he would stand in front of people and tell them about how wonderful life is when you let yourself go and be rid of all the hate and embrace love.

So, acceptance is an important step to loving your life. You have the tendency to give yourself to love and make yourself an instrument for others to learn about love. Your smile is the key that will soften the heart of that foul-mouthed neighbor. Your kind words is what the world will notice when you let your love grow in yourself and others. You can love. You can receive love and affection but you need to understand what it means to you and indulge in the understanding of it and live by it loyally and truly.

Love what you are and others will join in your happiness. Happiness starts with when you sit back and say, “I am a very great woman. I am a success and I am made to be victorious.” It is self-declaration of what we belief in. Don’t live a lie and hide under society and ignorance and all that imperfections you think you have. You won’t have to set your happiness gauge on the society and what it thinks of you, you will set it on how happy and kind and loving you are from within you. Show the society who you are.

Love is in you, share it. Make it what you are about and let the light of his glory help your course.

Chapter 2: When No Should Mean No

We explore what it means to be someone else’s keeper. We will touch the topic on how we can see the dangers of our bad habits and the good prospects in our right ones.

Knowing how to stop ourselves from doing what is harmful to others is an important thing that every woman should indulge in to make a happy home and to be a better person. Willfulness is a strong emotion that makes living and life itself interesting. It is a necessary human potential that make us who we are.

Stop and check yourself when you know you are doing something that doesn’t seem right. Most people say they find it hard to turn things down. Many say that they don’t have the will to say no even when their life is dependent on the outcome of that decision. Women are strong-willed naturally but most of us loose this while growing up. We leave it behind sometime in our childhood or adolescence and grow up with that vacuum it has left in us.

No should always mean no. It is a very important statement that everyone should have readily available at the tip of their tongues. We should learn how to put a stop to something that poses danger to us, our family or friends. When we say no, we should really mean no. There is absolute no point in saying no to something that has become a habit that will always pull itself back to you.

Peer pressure is a social vice that people frown at. The issue is that peer pressure doesn’t just happen with kids and adolescents. When we let others rule our life and our thoughts, we are creating a path way to destruction or an uncertain future.

Our colleagues will always have an influence on us. The woman next door that seemed so prim and proper will always has something to hold over you but as an adult that knows right from wrong we should learn how to turn down favors. We have people looking on us to make decisions that will impart their life so it is up to us to give more care to what we say in affirmation to people’s suggestions.

Our experiences make us who we are but it doesn’t necessarily have to be that determining factor in the dealings we do in present life and on issues bordering on family and friends. Nothing teaches us more than what you made yourself. Mistakes are made for us to learn from so that when it happens again, we are prepared for it.

We should learn to know that the people that are most important in our life are our life itself. Who we are as parents and spouses is a very important role that is festered on us. What we feel, how we feel about issues, the way we feel about stuff and even societal acceptance and rejection has a way of reflecting on our relationships within our homes. We are the pillar of the home and when we have a dent, the crash of the building called the home is sure.

Selfishness is good but only when it has no adverse effect on our family and friends. A bad habit will always be a bad habit no matter how good you think it makes you feel. Alcohol is very refreshing and you can pretend to drown your sorrow in it but it doesn’t mean that thing that has driven you to the bottles will go away. Drugs makes us feel good about ourselves and our situation seem to evaporate but for how long? We have kids that love us. We have husbands that trusts in us to make their home a happy one. Whatever issues we might have to deal with, we should not let it rule us. Our family should be the most important thing in our life. What we are going through can be shared with them and yours is not the only one, it is happening everywhere.

Life is a gift and it should be treated as such. It is rid with complications and it makes us who we are or who we turn out to be. It is not uncommon for us a mortal to. The vibe that comes from our negative positions will always make us question how good the positive is. You will start to see the uncertainty in the things that use to give you joy.

Many crave worldly goodies with the claim that it will make life for their kids easier but I would tell you this, deep down it is fear of letting yourself down and not totally caring for your kids. You want to be like Miss A. or Mrs. B. when you know quite alright that what these people have is not what you need thus not what you should have. Learn not to be selfish in your deeds as selfishness brings nothing but destruction to those that indulge in it.

God is not concerned with your worldly possessions. Your pledges to the church shouldn’t be because Mrs. Woolworth gave the church a bus so you must give the church thousands of dollars musical instrument. Then it will have no meaning any significance.

We should know what holds us together and respect it and not let anything that we might pick up from the people we relate with outside the home destroy us.

You are you. When things get tough you need to deal with it solely for the reason of not affecting others in our life. The consciousness of your actions should be enough to steer you away from making decisions that will make your life miserable in the end. We are free spirited and have out life ahead of us when we know what is best for us while considering what is worst for others and staying away from it.

Everyone is prone to satisfying their emotions be it that of pleasure or pain; and at times it might happiness and sadness but one thing remains, these emotions might lead us to do things we won’t ordinarily do.

The soul craves to be fed with something that will make it grow and thus we should be careful that we don’t end up feeding it with the wrong things that might make our journey to a self-sufficient life a hard one.

Say no for as many times as necessary, it might just be what you need to make life easier and happier, nobody knows where one’s happiness truly lies unless you find it.