Kissing One's Spouse while Fasting
Question:
Dear scholars, as-salamu `alaykum. Can a husband and wife kiss during the fast?
Jazakum Allah khayran

Answers by Sheikh Sayyed Sabiq and Sheikh Ahmad Kutty Wa`alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and
blessings be upon His Messenger.
Kissing one's wife while fasting is permissible. However, it is
better to avoid kissing during the daytime of Ramadan, as it
may lead to further actions which nullify the fast, such as
sexual intercourse.
In his well-known book, Fiqh As-Sunnah, Sheikh Sayyed Sabiq
states:
It is confirmed that `A’ishah said: The Prophet would
kiss and embrace while he was fasting, for he had the
most control of all of you over his desires.
`Umar said: I was excited one time and I kissed [my
wife] while I was fasting. I went to the Prophet and
said: 'Today I committed a horrendous act—I kissed
while I was fasting.' The Prophet asked: 'What do you
think of rinsing your mouth with water while fasting?' I
said: 'There is nothing wrong with that.' The Prophet
said: 'Then, why do you question about it!'
Ibn al-Mundhir says: "`Umar, Ibn `Abbas, Abu Hurairah,
`A’ishah, `Ata, al-Sha`bi, al-Hassan, Ahmad, and
Ishaq permit kissing. The Hanafi and Shafi`i scholars
say that it is disliked if it incites one's desires. If it does
not do so, it is not disliked although it is better to avoid
it.’

There is no difference between an old man and a
young man in this matter. The question is whether or
not the kiss excites one's desires. If it does, it is disliked.
If it does not, it is not disliked although it is best to
avoid it. It does not matter if the kiss was on the cheek
or on the lips, and so on.
Touching with the hand or embracing follow the
same ruling as kissing."
Elaborating on the issue, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior
lecturer and Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto,
Ontario, Canada, states:
In optional fasts, kissing, light touching, etc. are
permitted so long as one does not engage in sexual
intercourse. In obligatory fasts, one is allowed to do
these only if one can control himself or herself.
Breaking an obligatory fast through sexual intercourse
is a serious offence, and it entails strict form of
kaffarah (expiation), which includes fasting two
months consecutively; if one cannot do this, one must
feed sixty poor persons for a single day of fast thus
invalidated.
Therefore, no one who is fasting should do such things
if there is a genuine risk of overstepping the
boundaries. If there is no such fear then light
touching, or kissing, etc., when not accompanied by
sexual desire, is permissible. When the Prophet (peace
be upon him) was asked by a young man whether he
can kiss his wife while fasting, he replied no, but when
an elderly person came and asked him the same
question, he replied yes.
Reasons for this are clear: While it may be easier for
an elderly person to control himself, that may not be
the case with regard to a young person.

As far as the Prophet’s own example is concerned, his
beloved wife ‘A’ishah reported that he used to kiss his
wife while he was fasting. But then she added the
following comment: ‘Who among you can control his
sexual desire as the Prophet himself was able to do?’
In conclusion, since each person knows his own
weaknesses better than anyone else, he should be his
own judge in this matter and he is better advised to
take necessary precautions when dealing with
obligatory fasts. In case of optional fasts, however,
because it does not entail any serious consequences
if one were to break it because of uncontrollable
sexual desire, the issue is far more flexible.
Allah Almighty knows best.
Source:
http://pathway2jannah..com/2014/07/husband-wife-relationship-in-ramadan-q_8.html