aisha2:

While I know There are radicals to every ideology Feminism started out because women were not regarded, they couldnt vote or be voted for, didnt have equal wage or favorable laws just like it was with the black race.

I hate titles, I once deleted someone for insisting I was a feminist lol.

All I try to tell people is respect and love yourself and treat other people well, thats how I live too.
I can only advice when they ask, I cant impose my veiws on others.

gillz: Do I hav to dialogue with my wife on what food I hav to eat and hw I want it prepared, do I hav to dialogue wit how on when and hw her sisters shld put my 2 yre boy to sleep? Or do I hav to dialogue wit her on cleanliness and orderliness in d house?

gillz: Tnx bennyrazz, I said for d washing machine to last dey shld avoid washing jeans wit it and wen d machine started having fault I discovered dey were washing jeans wit it wen I asked her she said she can't stop dem since I'm not d producer. They wil use my laptop to watch movie(her n d sisters) frm morning to night witout evening seeking my permission wen I called. Her. Privately n tried to stop dem she said its nt possible for her to tell her sisters nt to use d laptop.so many odas

gillz: Tnx bennyrazz, I said for d washing machine to last dey shld avoid washing jeans wit it and wen d machine started having fault I discovered dey were washing jeans wit it wen I asked her she said she can't stop dem since I'm not d producer. They wil use my laptop to watch movie(her n d sisters) frm morning to night witout evening seeking my permission wen I called. Her. Privately n tried to stop dem she said its nt possible for her to tell her sisters nt to use d laptop.so many odas

gillz: Do I hav to dialogue with my wife on what food I hav to eat and hw I want it prepared, do I hav to dialogue wit how on when and hw her sisters shld put my 2 yre boy to sleep? Or do I hav to dialogue wit her on cleanliness and orderliness in d house?

gillz: Tnx bennyrazz, I said for d washing machine to last dey shld avoid washing jeans wit it and wen d machine started having fault I discovered dey were washing jeans wit it wen I asked her she said she can't stop dem since I'm not d producer. They wil use my laptop to watch movie(her n d sisters) frm morning to night witout evening seeking my permission wen I called. Her. Privately n tried to stop dem she said its nt possible for her to tell her sisters nt to use d laptop.so many odas

cococandy: If the sisters won't listen just put a password on your laptop jare.
Which kind robish be that?

Godmystrength: The wife uses the laptop too now

pickabeau1: gillz
What exactly are the sisters doing ... living in the house

Godmystrength: I think so. And the wifey is a full time house wife.

Godmystrength: I think so. And the wifey is a full time house wife.

aisha2:
He said she works in a bank.

bennyrazz: he said wife works in a bank

bennyrazz: @gillz i thank God that NLnders are trying to figure out how you can solve your problem challenges. Pickabeau1, Aisha2, cococandy and a host of others are really great counselors. When family members start living with couples especially young couple, there is always a problem. You dated for 11years whooaa. The thing is, you have to send her sisters packing. That is the root of your challenges. As far as I am concerned, nothing is wrong with your wife. Seriously when you were sponsoring her to school, did her mum oppose? now her mum was opposed to your marriage up till the very last minute which shows you how people can be very selfish. Nothing is wrong with your wife but her sisters. Send them parking fast fast

pickabeau1:

calm down and dont react to all the posts you see
Be calm and answer as you have

Is this the kind of issues you have been having with her

Because i see here issues with meals, child care and cleanliness

Is that it

gillz: . It goes beYond dat, she discusses issues wit her sister even b4 she does wit me. And wen me opinion is different frm their she'd want me to tiltt towards what she already agreed wit dem. Sometimes I wil discuss sometin wit her in private only for me to hear her sistyers discussing same issue on phone wit friends.my wife is nt wasteful bt d sisters are, dey cld boil water for bathing for one hour while watching movie or gisting. My wife seems to b scared oif offending dem by scolding dem, she'd rather offend me. Sometimes she wil abandon our bedrm for theirs until I sleep off and even sometimes sleep in their room

gillz: . It goes beYond dat, she discusses issues wit her sister even b4 she does wit me. And wen me opinion is different frm their she'd want me to tiltt towards what she already agreed wit dem. Sometimes I wil discuss sometin wit her in private only for me to hear her sistyers discussing same issue on phone wit friends.my wife is nt wasteful bt d sisters are, dey cld boil water for bathing for one hour while watching movie or gisting. My wife seems to b scared oif offending dem by scolding dem, she'd rather offend me. Sometimes she wil abandon our bedrm for theirs until I sleep off and even sometimes sleep in their room

gillz: Tnx bennyrazz, I said for d washing machine to last dey shld avoid washing jeans wit it and wen d machine started having fault I discovered dey were washing jeans wit it wen I asked her she said she can't stop dem since I'm not d producer. They wil use my laptop to watch movie(her n d sisters) frm morning to night witout evening seeking my permission wen I called. Her. Privately n tried to stop dem she said its nt possible for her to tell her sisters nt to use d laptop.so many odas

aisha2:

While I know There are radicals to every ideology Feminism started out because women were not regarded, they couldnt vote or be voted for, didnt have equal wage or favorable laws just like it was with the black race.

I hate titles, I once deleted someone for insisting I was a feminist lol.

All I try to tell people is respect and love yourself and treat other people well, thats how I live too.
I can only advice when they ask, I cant impose my veiws on others.

MizMyColi: I seem to be encountering mostly FJ's lately [Feelers and Judgers]
Hi Gillz ......Please read through to see if a large percentage of the epistle below describes you, your response will determine mine.
As it stands now, we seem to have discovered the root cause. Now I'm seeking to understand you....... Corrections where deemed fit'd be welcome too
So Here goes:
Deep down, you are a sensitive and emotional individual who can get hurt and disappointed very easily.
You may also worry too much about other people’s feelings and well-being. Due to your altruism and sensitivity, You are likely to struggle with decisions involving hard choices.
You may waver between different
options, unable to stop thinking about all
the possible consequences.
Your self-esteem depends on whether
you're are able to live up to your ideals and fulfill your goals, while at the same time making sure that everyone around you is happy.
If your ideas are being constantly criticized or you are unable to help people close to you, your self-confidence is likely to plummet.

gillz: . Everytin u said is exactly correct

Okay, thank you for replying. Now, I need to understand your wife. Please, could you give us an insight to the kind of person your wife is, pre-challenge moments, i.e the things that you like the most about her & more important, her weaknesses. Just say it as it is