Marriage is a union between man and woman.
Now, in the aspect of bride price. Please I want to ask who wedded the first man and woman?
Who did the first man pay bride price to?
Where in the bible did God say before you marry a woman pay her bride price.
Yes I know the next thing in your mind(Exodus 22:16-18) but we are misinterpreting it because it says says " if a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and lies with her. He must pay the bride price and she shall be his wife. Bride the daughter of Jacob that was raped they begged that they should pay her bride price for defiling her. Abraham gave his servant gift to go to his kindred and get a wife for his son and that is because he is wealthy Bride price is a penalty for rape. And people who do wedding ceremony are people who have enough to through around. The most important aspect of marriage is the two people agreeing to be husband and wife. All this argument of court, church and traditional marriage is all the same. The exact thing to do is seek the consent of the both family once they give their approval . you are already husband and wife.you can add by going to a court or church for other ceremony which should be optional.

Marriage is a union between man and woman.
Now, in the aspect of bride price. Please I want to ask who wedded the first man and woman?
Who did the first man pay bride price to?
Where in the bible did God say before you marry a woman pay her bride price.
Yes I know the next thing in your mind(Exodus 22:16-18) but we are misinterpreting it because it says says " if a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and lies with her. He must pay the bride price and she shall be his wife. Bride the daughter of Jacob that was raped they begged that they should pay her bride price for defiling her. Abraham gave his servant gift to go to his kindred and get a wife for his son and that is because he is wealthy Bride price is a penalty for rape. And people who do wedding ceremony are people who have enough to throw around. The most important aspect of marriage is the two people agreeing to be husband and wife. All this argument of court, church and traditional marriage is all the same. The exact thing to do is seek the consent of the both family once they give their approval . you are already husband and wife.you can add by going to a court or church for other ceremony which should be optional.

kensbabe:
Marriage is a union between man and woman.
Now, in the aspect of bride price. Please I want to ask who wedded the first man and woman?
Who did the first man pay bride price to?
Where in the bible did God say before you marry a woman pay her bride price.
Yes I know the next thing in your mind(Exodus 22:16-18) but we are misinterpreting it because it says says " if a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and lies with her. He must pay the bride price and she shall be his wife. Bride the daughter of Jacob that was raped they begged that they should pay her bride price for defiling her. Abraham gave his servant gift to go to his kindred and get a wife for his son and that is because he is wealthy Bride price is a penalty for rape. And people who do wedding ceremony are people who have enough to throw around. The most important aspect of marriage is the two people agreeing to be husband and wife. All this argument of court, church and traditional marriage is all the same. The exact thing to do is seek the consent of the both family once they give their approval . you are already husband and wife.you can add by going to a court or church for other ceremony which should be optional.

Was that how you got married?

ammyluv2002:
Yeah! White & court wedding are just ceremonial. You can decide not to wed in the church but you must perform the traditional rites on a lady before she can be called your wife....is in the bible and as a Christian, I always go with my bible principles not trendy principles.

Although some say is ok to get a marriage blessing from a priest/pastor which isn't bad

Would you do just traditional marriage?

Largas:

many ladies can't live with a man as husband and wife if white wedding hasn't been performed.

No substantial reason because others are doing it. They forget the white perform just one marriage

Traditional marriage is complete because marriage only means when a man and woman agree to marry each other and the two families accepted, but it is not binding under the law that is why a court/white marriage is needed and also for the spiritual aspect of it, depending on your faith/religious belief.

For religious belief do you support white wedding?

Toosure70:
is there place in d bible where marriage was celebrated in d church?

No

Meristem:


In fact, statistically, a higher percentage of high budget weddings hit the rocks before their 5th anniversary!!! Cos its often a union of people who have not been able to understand the difference between a Marriage and a Wedding. People whose emphases are on the materials rather than the substance.

Even in the scriptural days, once a man offers/pays the bride price of a woman with her consent and the consent of her folks, and her father/guardian/kins hand her over to the man, their marriage is VALID and BLESSED before God and man. Its up to them to decide to solemnize in Church or not. THEY ARE ALREADY HUSBAND AND WIFE MIND YOU. I understand why it is hard to sell this to my fellow Christians , but its the Truth.

If you ask these same category of people if a christian wedding celebrated in Buba/Iro/Agbada/Danshiki or other traditional attire is invalid, they will not be able to say yes (cos it has been hard wired in their gullible minds that its coat-and-gown or nothing). If they do say yes, try to ask them "but why are we not doing it?" and see the stoopid expression on their faces!

What we call "christian weddings" today are more CULTURAL than RELIGIOUS. Be wise, Oh Africans!

Even in the scriptural days, once a man offers/pays the bride price of a woman with her consent and the consent of her folks, and her father/guardian/kins hand her over to the man, their marriage is VALID and BLESSED before God and man. Its up to them to decide to solemnize in Church or not. THEY ARE ALREADY HUSBAND AND WIFE MIND YOU. I understand why it is hard to sell this to my fellow Christians , but its the Truth.
You're absolutely correct on the above

kensbabe:
Marriage is a union between man and woman.
Now, in the aspect of bride price. Please I want to ask who wedded the first man and woman?
Who did the first man pay bride price to?
Where in the bible did God say before you marry a woman pay her bride price.
Yes I know the next thing in your mind(Exodus 22:16-18) but we are misinterpreting it because it says says " if a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and lies with her. He must pay the bride price and she shall be his wife. Bride the daughter of Jacob that was raped they begged that they should pay her bride price for defiling her. Abraham gave his servant gift to go to his kindred and get a wife for his son and that is because he is wealthy Bride price is a penalty for rape. And people who do wedding ceremony are people who have enough to through around. The most important aspect of marriage is the two people agreeing to be husband and wife. All this argument of court, church and traditional marriage is all the same. The exact thing to do is seek the consent of the both family once they give their approval . you are already husband and wife.you can add by going to a court or church for other ceremony which should be optional.

Bride price is scriptural but it all boils down to the family of the bride. A dowry, sometimes called a bride price or bridewealth, was a payment made by a man as a gift to the family of a woman he desired to be his wife. In Genesis 29, Jacob loved Rachel and offered to work seven years for her father, Laban, in exchange for her hand in marriage. This is one example of the ancient convention of the dowry. Don't forget Isaac's father gave his servants some gift to give to Rebekah's family. In fact wedding is incomplete with the dowry payment and consent from the bridest parents. Every other weddings are ceremonies as there's no scriptural backing for them.

Largas:

Was that how you got married?

What he said to a great extend is the correct thing.

Bride price is scriptural but it all boils down to the family of the bride. A dowry, sometimes called a bride price or bridewealth, was a payment made by a man as a gift to the family of a woman he desired to be his wife. In Genesis 29, Jacob loved Rachel and offered to work seven years for her father, Laban, in exchange for her hand in marriage. This is one example of the ancient convention of the dowry. Don't forget Isaac's father gave his servants some gift to give to Rebekah's family. In fact wedding is incomplete with the dowry payment and consent from the bridest parents. Every other weddings are ceremonies as there's no scriptural backing for them
Those churches forcing members to do church wedding should cite scriptural verses from the Bible to back their claims on white wedding. They shouldn't ostracized their members for not carrying out church wedding or do court wedding. In fact I advocate anyone that best suit the couple provided the bride's parents have given consent.

eldoradoxx:
People most times ignorantly have to borrow money to organise 3 types of marriages which have only one effect. Traditional marriage(Customary marriage) is as valid (if not more valid) as Court /Church Wedding. Church or Court wedding are one and the same thing. Infact a proper church wedding starts from the Marriage Registry of the Court where the intending couple obtain license to marry and the 21 days marriage band is published for objection. If your church marriage lacks the above mentioned ingredients, simply know that the Marriage Certificate you have is invalid and all you did in Church was merely a Church Traditional Marriage and not a Marriage under the Act. If you wedded in Church properly, you re merely waisting your time and money conducting a second marriage in the Registry. If you have done Customary Marriage, Nigeria's law recognises this as a 100 % valid marriage. Infact Church Marriage has no biblical basis whatsoever. Church Marriage is simply English Traditional Marriage which the English people have enacted into law. Even in the law, there is no place it is stated that it must be inside a church. It must only be conducted by a licensed person and in a licensed place. So if your club has license to conduct marriage according to watever style they wish, why not. Infact a Muslim can conduct Marriage under the Marriage Act if the Imam obtains a license and the place of conduct of marriage is also licensed. The only limitation is that he must not marry more than one wife. So whether it is traditional alone you can afford, it is valid marriage before God and man. Any pastor that tells you traditional marriage is not valid and you must not touch your wife after traditional marriage until you do church wedding is a liar from the pit of hell. All Jesus attended at Cana of Galilee was Jewish traditional marriage and not church wedding. If you have plenty money u can do both.

Nice

Yes, it is

kensbabe:
Marriage is a union between man and woman.
Now, in the aspect of bride price. Please I want to ask who wedded the first man and woman?
Who did the first man pay bride price to?
Where in the bible did God say before you marry a woman pay her bride price.
Yes I know the next thing in your mind(Exodus 22:16-18) but we are misinterpreting it because it says says " if a man seduces a virgin who is not pledged to be married and lies with her. He must pay the bride price and she shall be his wife. Bride the daughter of Jacob that was raped they begged that they should pay her bride price for defiling her. Abraham gave his servant gift to go to his kindred and get a wife for his son and that is because he is wealthy Bride price is a penalty for rape. And people who do wedding ceremony are people who have enough to through around. The most important aspect of marriage is the two people agreeing to be husband and wife. All this argument of court, church and traditional marriage is all the same. The exact thing to do is seek the consent of the both family once they give their approval . you are already husband and wife.you can add by going to a court or church for other ceremony which should be optional.

Yeah