Our dear Anita: I am addressing this letter
to you because I know that it is you who
will hold the key to triumph over the
challenges that have recently raised their
ugly heads in your family and in your
ministry. I am convinced
that even if you don’t read this letter
directly from me, some of the numerous
members of Christ Embassy across the
globe could read it and draw your
attention to the words of an old man who
is pretty much in the same calling as you
and your husband are. I am writing this
from my home: The Vicarage, St.
Matthew’s Church of England, Stratford,
E15 4JX, where my wife, Christy is the
Vicar, and the co-ordinating Chaplain of
Westfield, Stratford City.
We were all taken aback when we read
about your intention to file for a divorce
against your husband, Pastor Chris. It was
a scandal, Anita, and you must not let it
happen.I need not tell you that in today’s
world, many factors tend to get in the way
of successful marriages. It is, therefore,
practically impossible to recommend a
general panacea for all the troubles that
can hamper the success of any marriage.
But in all our travails, as Christians, we
must bear in mind the fact that in a very
profound sense, marriage is the most
intimate of human relationships, involving
sharing a person’s entire life with his or
her spouse. By its very nature which
emphasizes conjugal love, the
institution of marriage is ordained for
procreation and for the ultimate
education of children who come from
such marriages.It calls for self-surrender
to the other spouse, a
surrender that is so intimate and
complete that spouses become “one,” not
only in body, butalso in soul,
without necessarily losing their
individual identities.
As the servants of God, you must ask
yourselves where the ultimate education
of your children comes into this divorce
prompting.If this divorce actually takes
place, how would your daughters who you
are preparing to
become future leaders in the church and
mothers in the family feel, knowing they
come from a broken home? And how do
your numerous followers interpret your
individual
identity with reference to your
commitment to family and church?
There is an African adage that says: there
is no age when a man can say: ‘I have
known it all’.That adage also applies to the
institution of marriage. No one can claim
to know all there is
in that human relationship called
marriage. It is a university. Those in it
learn by the day from it. And most times,
the lessons come in
different shapes, culminating in various experiences.

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It's a shame really.
I do not think Pastor Anita really sought avenues for forgiveness and reconciliation.It makes me wonder what years of listening to the word has done for them.

Well,what can I say?

Divorce, especially amongst christian leaders is shameful and it is one of the ways the devil is penetrating the church.

Is it not the Bible that asks us to forgive 77 x 7 times a day?

Even though the bible states Infidelity as a ground for divorce, it is still a double edged sword cause the bible also said that after divorce, none of the said party can marry till the other dies.

Except she is ready to put up with this, is it feasible?

Even unbelieving Families have issues whereby the Man is as unfaithful as a Dog but the wife stays, if not for love, but for her Children, talk more of us Children of God.

I am not judging, i don't know the whole story.

But we Christians seem to be forgetting how Important Marriage is to God.

I hope God helps them fix this.

i will talk to her

9jahubcom: i will talk to her

Lolz..u r not serious