“You’re single? You’re not having fun with your
life then!” …. This is a statement someone
actually made to a good friend of mine when she
mentioned she wasn’t seeing anyone. We live in
a society that places relationships on a pedestal-
from celebrities (Jay and Bey? KimYe?) to
presidential couples. Let’s face it, people love
love!

Its not at all strange- love is something the
human heart longs for because we were created
to love and be loved. We were made to be in
fellowship with each other and to be in constant
communion and relationship with our Heavenly
Father. Sadly, most are seeking this perfect love
from deeply imperfect beings. There are so many
pressures on people from not only from society
to find someone or get married or have a ‘boo’,
but also from within themselves. This shows
how careful we need to be about how these
pressures influence our decisions.

As someone who used to be on the search for
‘the one’, I think I can confidently speak on this
from my personal experiences. The other day I
was with some old friends for a birthday
gathering, and one of them announced that she
was sure I would get married early because
every time she saw me in the past (after long
periods of time) I’d be dating someone new.
Guilty as charged. Was I a serial dater? Probably
not that bad. But it dawned on me how much
Jesus has really saved me from. It really is a
stronghold that’s on so many people’s lives:
that constant search for fulfilment in another
human being. Trying to ‘find’ the one who you’d
spend the rest of your life with, and hence giving
every ‘sorta kinda right’ guy a chance, in the
hope that he’d be ‘the one’. And if not, trying to
make him the one. Needless to say, these
situations always end badly.

Because of His infinite mercy, God broke that
stronghold in my life, and everything that came
along with it. Truly, whoever the Son sets free is
free indeed [John 8:36]. He showed me that I
didn’t need a significant other to feel happy. He
showed me that all I need in life is Jesus. That
He is in fact, the one. Once God opened my eyes
to this, I began to receive all the joy, peace and
happiness I had been searching for. I didn’t
realise how broken I was, till He raised me to
life.

So, here’s where this is heading. Do you find it
difficult to accept singleness, let alone to be
thankful for it? Every period in your life is a
season. And here’s the thing about seasons –
they have to come because they are crucial in
the growth process, but they will most certainly
pass. Whatever situation you’re in is a blessing.
And believe it or not, singleness too is a
blessing. At this stage, I’ve for instance realized
that I’m able to focus on one of the most
important qualifications for my future career; I’m
able to focus on and enjoy God alone, and grow
in Him; I’m able to make new friends and have
the time to love and serve them (instead of
spending all my time on a significant other). I’ve
learnt to entrust everything to God. I’ve realized
I can live, laugh, travel and savour all of God’s
creations without any romantic attachments. I’ve
learnt not to spend all my time wishing all my
present blessings away waiting and hoping for
the next thing. I’ve realised that I need this
season to grow!

So, if you’re struggling with discontentment in
this area it may simply be time to give God full
control. Take time to thank Him for your season,
because the key to contentment really is
gratitude. Stop filing voids with the attention
you’re getting from the opposite sex, that’s
temporary. If you don’t see yourself with that
person, why waste your time and theirs? Become
satisfied in the Lord. Ask Him to open your eyes
to what you need to be doing with your time at
this at this stage and His purpose for you. Wait
on Him and you’ll get there when the time is
right.

‘for I have learned to be content in whatever
circumstances . I know what it is to be in
need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I
have learned the secret of being content in
any and every situation, whether well fed or
hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I
can do all this through him who gives me
strength’ [Philippians 4:11-13]

***Thanks for reading! God bless you!
http://worldlightmovement.com/2014/07/31/single-and-satisfied/

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mood changes...

conji could be a bastard sometimes
at other times u would b glad u were single.

Space booked

kilokeys:
mood changes...

conji could be a bastard sometimes
at other times u would b glad u were single.

Once one can exist comfortably without the fear of being alone, there's no problem but happiness. There would always be stray girls to deal with the konji.