I always wonder how two people who loved themselves so much and so dearly before marriage but after marriage, or maybe after thier honeymoon or first child you will find out that they show no sign of love anymore as they used to before marriage, am just wanting to know what might be the course, does marriage affect love?

newslife:
I always wonder how two people who loved themselves so much and so dearly before marriage but after marriage, or maybe after thier honeymoon or first child you will find out that they show no sign of love anymore as they used to before marriage, am just wanting to know what might be the course, does marriage affect love?

nope, i think love grows softly

no. but sometimes when both partners aren't giving their marriage enuf spice( great s£x, dates, romantic dinners, holidays to go enjoy urslves, quality time for each other, looking into u guys' eyes etc u knw ), it can crumble due to love decreasing bkus u guys don't actually spend enuf tym 2geda

After marriage, Love becomes an action word. That love love love you keep sounding to each other's hearing while dating, you will have to prove it to the fullest in marriage. It becomes a decision. you will have to decide that come what may, you will love each other . when the whole euphoria and feelings of passion fade, you will need something to hold both of you together. And that is friendship. If the both of you were never aware that Love isnt just enough but other factors are involved, you would start seeing yourselves as brothers and sisters or as roomates. The mindset you carry about marriage and about the opposite s*e*x determines your happiness. you go into it with a negative mindset, you will reap negative fruits. Before marriage, you have to understand that at some point, the passion will fade, you once slim or fit partner will channge to be something else BUT you both will need to start the fire of passion all over again to keep it burning. No extra marital affairs. You have to keep dating each other again and again and again. You dnt stop.

Before marriage, have it mind that some changes would occur and circumstances might change. Regardless, you do not allow such changes affect the marriage negatively. You have to make up your mind to commit to the marriage and stay away from harmful vices that affect it negatively.

You dnt go into marriage expecting Magic to happen so as for the love to keep going. You dnt go into with the mind of making your spouse suffer and yet you expect the marriage to remain happy or intact. You've got to see marriage as Hardwork coming from the both of you and not from one person only. It has been said that the more couples grow old together, staying committed to each other, the more they become happier and their love grows more and more over the years to the point that they get so used to each other. Just have that kind of vision for your marriage and you will enjoy it.

EroticAngelina:
no. but sometimes when both partners aren't giving their marriage enuf spice( great s£x, dates, romantic dinners, holidays to go enjoy urslves, quality time for each other, looking into u guys' eyes etc u knw ), it can crumble due to love decreasing bkus u guys don't actually spend enuf tym 2geda

how old are u

Sophyrocks:
After marriage, Love becomes an action word. That love love love you keep sounding to each other's hearing while dating, you will have to prove it to the fullest in marriage. It becomes a decision. you will have to decide that come what may, you will love each other . when the whole euphoria and feelings of passion fade, you will need something to hold both of you together. And that is friendship. If the both of you were never aware that Love isnt just enough but other factors are involved, you would start seeing yourselves as brothers and sisters or as roomates. The mindset you carry about marriage and about the opposite s*e*x determines your happiness. you go into it with a negative mindset, you will reap negative fruits. Before marriage, you have to understand that at some point, the passion will fade, you once slim or fit partner will channge to be something else BUT you both will need to start the fire of passion all over again to keep it burning. No extra marital affairs. You have to keep dating each other again and again and again. You dnt stop.

Before marriage, have it mind that some changes would occur and circumstances might change. Regardless, you do not allow such changes affect the marriage negatively. You have to make up your mind to commit to the marriage and stay away from harmful vices that affect it negatively.

You dnt go into marriage expecting Magic to happen so as for the love to keep going. You dnt go into with the mind of making your spouse suffer and yet you expect the marriage to remain happy or intact. You've got to see marriage as Hardwork coming from the both of you and not from one person only. It has been said that the more couples grow old together, staying committed to each other, the more they become happier and their love grows more and more over the years to the point that they get so used to each other. Just have that kind of vision for your marriage and you will enjoy it.

O boy!
This woulda been the original post seff.
Nice opinion

It doesn't ,only that reality sets in,and commitment taking the shine off marital life.

The couple are pre-occupied with thoughts of making things happen in the house,so the display of love can seem like it has reduced.

What love and what is love?
Many profess love but don't really know its meaning and its actions.
True love in marriage grows.It may not be a butterfly-in-the-tummy kind of love.It 's a love that grows with responsibility and fellowship.
You can study 1 Cor.13 to understand more.

Sophyrocks:
After marriage, Love becomes an action word. That love love love you keep sounding to each other's hearing while dating, you will have to prove it to the fullest in marriage. It becomes a decision. you will have to decide that come what may, you will love each other . when the whole euphoria and feelings of passion fade, you will need something to hold both of you together. And that is friendship. If the both of you were never aware that Love isnt just enough but other factors are involved, you would start seeing yourselves as brothers and sisters or as roomates. The mindset you carry about marriage and about the opposite s*e*x determines your happiness. you go into it with a negative mindset, you will reap negative fruits. Before marriage, you have to understand that at some point, the passion will fade, you once slim or fit partner will channge to be something else BUT you both will need to start the fire of passion all over again to keep it burning. No extra marital affairs. You have to keep dating each other again and again and again. You dnt stop.

Before marriage, have it mind that some changes would occur and circumstances might change. Regardless, you do not allow such changes affect the marriage negatively. You have to make up your mind to commit to the marriage and stay away from harmful vices that affect it negatively.

You dnt go into marriage expecting Magic to happen so as for the love to keep going. You dnt go into with the mind of making your spouse suffer and yet you expect the marriage to remain happy or intact. You've got to see marriage as Hardwork coming from the both of you and not from one person only. It has been said that the more couples grow old together, staying committed to each other, the more they become happier and their love grows more and more over the years to the point that they get so used to each other. Just have that kind of vision for your marriage and you will enjoy it.

100000 like. Thanks baby, you just said it all.

but let me add that
80 to 90 percent of marriages that survived the test of time and celebrates its 40th to 50th anniversary with fresh love as though they were still dating are actually PARTNERS WHO MARRY THEIR BEST FRIEND and did not just marry for marrying sake.

To such people, beauty or no beauty, child or no child, money or no money, sickness or no sickness, in-law or no in-law, friends or no friends, etc, they still looked into their partners' eyes, whisper love into their ears, hold hands together, crack jokes and laugh out loud. They're friends for life. No suspicions. Their love has grown beyond doubt. Its only death that can separate them.

These are the persons when their one and only best friend (husband or wife) in this whole world die, it doesn't take much time before they depart to meet their beloved in another world. To them, their world has ended and there's no meaning to life any more

Dlionsheart:


100000 like. Thanks baby, you just said it all.

but let me add that
80 to 90 percent of marriages that survived the test of time and celebrates its 40th to 50th anniversary with fresh love as though they were still dating are actually PARTNERS WHO MARRY THEIR BEST FRIEND and did not just marry for marrying sake.

To such people, beauty or no beauty, child or no child, money or no money, sickness or no sickness, in-law or no in-law, friends or no friends, etc, they still looked into their partners' eyes, whisper love into their ears, hold hands together, crack jokes and laugh out loud. They're friends for life. No suspicions. Their love has grown beyond doubt. Its only death that can separate them.

These are the persons when their one and only best friend (husband or wife) in this whole world die, it doesn't take much time before they depart to meet their beloved in another world. To them, their world has ended and there's no meaning to life any more

Thanks. Very true.

Ezibless:


O boy!
This woulda been the original post seff.
Nice opinion

Thanks.

newslife:
I always wonder how two people who loved themselves so much and so dearly before marriage but after marriage, or maybe after thier honeymoon or first child you will find out that they show no sign of love anymore as they used to before marriage, am just wanting to know what might be the course, does marriage affect love?

Before marriage people are not usually in love. Just euphoric or really passionate about each other. Some are even mutually obsessed with each other. They cannot easily see each other’s faults. Having sex beforemarriage also blinds the couples to each others faults. Also what is informal is usually sweeter than what is formal; as long as the relationship is informal and each party feels the other can leave anytime they want, they will work hard to keep the other person.

All this changes after marriage. Now it is their right to have sex so its no longer as exciting. Now they are formally/legally tied to each other. No need to fight for the other persons affections. Now they are expected to live with each other. No need to pretend and hide faults anymore. Reality gives both of them a hard slap on the face.

This is where it is important to marry someone who is compatible with you. Someone who you can get along with and be a friend to. Someone whose goals are similar to yours. So that when reality sets in and the euphoria fades away the person you will see will be someone you can live with.
It is after this stage that true love grows.

Dlionsheart:


100000 like. Thanks baby, you just said it all.

but let me add that
80 to 90 percent of marriages that survived the test of time and celebrates its 40th to 50th anniversary with fresh love as though they were still dating are actually PARTNERS WHO MARRY THEIR BEST FRIEND and did not just marry for marrying sake.

To such people, beauty or no beauty, child or no child, money or no money, sickness or no sickness, in-law or no in-law, friends or no friends, etc, they still looked into their partners' eyes, whisper love into their ears, hold hands together, crack jokes and laugh out loud. They're friends for life. No suspicions. Their love has grown beyond doubt. Its only death that can separate them.

These are the persons when their one and only best friend (husband or wife) in this whole world die, it doesn't take much time before they depart to meet their beloved in another world. To them, their world has ended and there's no meaning to life any more

this simple post just touched me

Love does not decrease in marriage, it simply metamorphosEs into different phases.
The ability for people to realize this, adjust and cope with such changes makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE between maturity and immaturity.