This matter prompted up yesterday when with friends in a bar.One man raised this question in the process of discussion,--does it mean that it must be the husband that will always first request for love making with his wife.That ever since they got married five years ago,it is always him that will first demand it from the wife,that the wife has never for one day be the first to demand it,and ironically when the game starts,she may sound as if she is even the one that needed it most,yet she has never for one day be the first to demand it and that it seems as if it is now at his own disadvantage as last week he demanded it and d wify said no,that he always demand it.He said he got angry and left her and told her to stay on her own henceforth,the wify replied him that he know he is the one that always disturb her and demand it from her and that she can stay for long on her own and will not demand it."Must husbands always be the first to initiate love making with their wives".Opinions pls.

Ike gwuru.....

**--spreads mat****

Hopefully there will be some decent responses

No.
It depends on the female mentality

How do u expect her to demand for it...where we live in a society in which every "decent" lady is expected to "hate" sex

Agrika:
How do u expect her to demand for it...where we live in a society in which every "decent" lady is expected to "hate" sex

But how come anytime the man asks for it you see the woman complaining 'sex is not food, are u an animal, am tired , I have headache, etc '. But when the action starts they want it to go on and on as if they have been starving for it since? Why the initial shove-offs?

5minsmadness:

But how come anytime the man asks for it you see the woman complaining 'sex is not food, are u an animal, am tired , I have headache, etc '. But when the action starts they want it to go on and on as if they have been starving for it since? Why the initial shove-offs?

Can't really say but most times such woman actually consciously or unconsciously pretend

My brother, man is faced with so much. Here is a few list:

1) Man must be the first to ask the woman out.

2) Man must ask the woman what she would like to eat

3) Man must foot the pill

4) Man must open the door for the woman

5) To maintain his gentleman status, man must not raise his voice on a woman

7) After the outing, man must drop the woman off if he has a car otherwise he has to pay for a taxi sometimes taxi with ac otherwise he would be termed not "caring"

In the area of love making, it is the responsibility of a man make the woman.....

9) Man must make the woman get orgasm

10) For a man not to be termed a selfish man, he has to get approval from the woman before he can cum

11) The man must satisfy the woman by all means, even if he has to borrow energy from his next door neigbour. It's his responsibility.

God is our strength jare.

Feel free to add urs

When some men want to marry they may sleep around then go for virgins or sexually repressed women. Getting married to a virgin is great if you yourself have low sexual experience and so you grow together.
While courting even if you abstain se- x is an issue you must discuss to be on the same wavelength. Some have high libido some dont, some think se- x is only for recreation anything outside that is sin and lust.

If you decide to marry a wife who cant even talk about se- x because you assume that makes her a good girl dont come crying when she stays frigid.

At topic for me i can say any woman who hasnt woken her husband from sleep and ridden him is missing

amtheone:
My brother, man is faced with so much. Here is a few list:

1) Man must be the first to ask the woman out.

2) Man must ask the woman what she would like to eat

3) Man must foot the pill

4) Man must open the door for the woman

5) To maintain his gentleman status, man must not raise his voice on a woman

7) After the outing, man must drop the woman off if he has a car otherwise he has to pay for a taxi sometimes taxi with ac otherwise he would be termed not "caring"

In the area of love making, it is the responsibility of a man make the woman.....

9) Man must make the woman get orgasm

10) For a man not to be termed a selfish man, he has to get approval from the woman before he can cum

11) The man must satisfy the woman by all means, even if he has to borrow energy from his next door neigbour. It's his responsibility.

God is our strength jare.

Feel free to add urs

Not really true, it depends on the kind of woman one wants. While dating we split bills most times and i have asked him out on dates and paid. With some other men this earned me side glances and it was the last time i saw some of them then i would hear comments like " this one go like control men" " what does she think she is? She thinks she has money? Show off" " she wants to compete with me, imagine struggling bill oh, why would she want to pay? Does she think am a poor man"

There is someone for everyone depends on what we want

5minsmadness:

But how come anytime the man asks for it you see the woman complaining 'sex is not food, are u an animal, am tired , I have headache, etc '. But when the action starts they want it to go on and on as if they have been starving for it since? Why the initial shove-offs?

Any woman dt calls her hubby an animal for any reason at all particularly cos of se x needs urgent Counselling
Wives na im una dey hear so, abeg make una sef dey call oga na, make una 2 dey suku suku

@ topic

Any marriage in which the initiation of lovemaking comes from the husband end alone is wrong in my opinion.

As someone stated in an earlier post, such things should have been settled before the couple sign the dotted lines. Woe betide any guy who does not do his homework and ensure he is not taking a sexless, frigid girl into his house!

He will end up being treated like the husband in the OP.

For the sake of clarity 'doing my homework' entails asking pointed questions and being able to read between the lines of any answer given. But even after this I pay more attention to girls actions or inaction as the case my be.

1) Does she initiate dates?
2) Does she pay for dates?
3) If she loves chocolate and the guy buys a chocobar then breaks it into two unequal halves then asks her to choose one, would she give him the Bigger piece at least 2 times out of 5 ?

These are just a few things I personally check for with any girl I'm dating as the help to tell me if she is completely self centered or not. The act of initiating lovemaking is an act of giving oneself to your partner as such a selfish girl will never be a wife that initiates lovemaking.

My 2 kobo

May be she doesnt want to present hersef in a way u may see her as loving se.x thereby making her cheap.But that sounds stu.pid if thats her intention from my own perspective because she is already married and suppose to make d hubby pipe as her toy and property and should be proudly and boldly demand it anything she want.The attitude she is showing are being displaced atimes mainly by single lady dating a man.In such condition,such lady will like you not to see her as se.x lover even if she need it badly so that you wont take her a cheaper lady and probably the one that sleeps arround with men.My opinion though.

Depends on the relationship between them and the wife's orientation/belief system

For some women, it might simply be due to their orientation or how they've been handled in past relationships. They might have been taught that a woman's place is just to receive and never to initiate, if not, she'll be termed a "loose" woman. Such person might carry that into her marriage and it will take a while before she can shake off such wrong behaviour.

Hubby has to be patient and also watch out for signs she might give. The "I'm tired, i have headache" excuse most women give is because they ain't looking foward to having sex mainly because oga just "goes straight to the point". No pre-intimacy, nothing nothing. He just wants direct entry, lol.

No any of them can demand.
no need of demanding,no be from romance to love making. Just asking.
because am a virgin.

kendraloops:
For some women, it might simply be due to their orientation or how they've been handled in past relationships. They might have been taught that a woman's place is just to receive and never to initiate, if not, she'll be termed a "loose" woman. Such person might carry that into her marriage and it will take a while before she can shake off such wrong behaviour.

Hubby has to be patient and also watch out for signs she might give. The "I'm tired, i have headache" excuse most women give is because they ain't looking foward to having sex mainly because oga just "goes straight to the point". No pre-intimacy, nothing nothing. He just wants direct entry, lol.

@ kendra

Fine ,you make a point about wrong mindset from the girl coming into the marriage but as I said in an earlier post, such issues should be ironed out by the couple before signing the dotted lines.

You talk about men just going 'straight to the point' and all with no thought for madam, us men have been bashed about that for generations by girls and a lot of us have had to become professors in the act, swallowing pills and concoctions just so they can satisfy madam!

Let me shock you by telling you that a lot of girls are also guilty of being LAZY sexually, they only care about their own satisfaction as far as they care they MUST have multiple orgasm or he is not 'man enough' but these same girls are so bad in bed they have never given a man an orgasm even one time.
These girls are so ignorant they think ejaculation and orgasm in men is the same thing! They don't even know that us guys fake orgasm with them because they are so bad in bed!

So my dear before you point finger at guys, you will be surprised that you are also guilty of being bad in bed!

Akuko. You have just 11 items on your list and you're crying. And to think you men don't even do all of it
We should add more sef

filani:


@ kendra

Fine ,you make a point about wrong mindset from the girl coming into the marriage but as I said in an earlier post, such issues should be ironed out by the couple before signing the dotted lines.

You talk about men just going 'straight to the point' and all with no thought for madam, us men have been bashed about that for generations by girls and a lot of us have had to become professors in the act, swallowing pills and concoctions just so they can satisfy madam!

Let me shock you by telling you that a lot of girls are also guilty of being LAZY sexually, they only care about their own satisfaction as far as they care they MUST have multiple orgasm or he is not 'man enough' but these same girls are so bad in bed they have never given a man an orgasm even one time.
These girls are so ignorant they think ejaculation and orgasm in men is the same thing! They don't even know that us guys fake orgasm with them because they are so bad in bed!

So my dear before you point finger at guys, you will be surprised that you are also guilty of being bad in bed!

Pardon my ignorance, but can guys fake org@sm? Thought once they come, that's it! Educate me please. As for guys going straight to the point, i know what I'm saying. A woman's make up is diff from that of a guy. Once junior is up, guys are good to go but its diff for a lady. Have you ever tried having sex with a lady who's very dry "down there?" How did it feel??

The brain controls most of these things so when the woman knows all the guy's gonna come n do is hump away, she doesnt bother trying to stimulate her senses cos she knows there's nothing in it for her.

For a long time, men have been known to lead while the woman follows. The woman would lead only if she knows its gonna be worthwhile. By worthwhile, i dont mean she must reach 0rgasm(how many women even do sef) but there should be some sort of satisfaction for her. please face it, some guys are just damn selfish in bed. their slogan is " so far i come, nothing concern me"

my opinion.... when I feel like making love I initiate the whole stuff. a times I know when my hubby's in the mood so I initiate it too and he loves it.

Agrika:
How do u expect her to demand for it...where we live in a society in which every "decent" lady is expected to "hate" sex

I demand for it when I need it. those that feel women should hate sex arw themselves sexlovers. hypocritical shit

Y would I wait formy huby to initiate sex wen conji hold m finnish.conji na bastard ooo.me I love making love to my huby and I alwsys initiate it even if huby isnt in d mood just 2minute of speaking to his instrument he wld b all alert

Why should a wife wait in the first place? If you wanna get laid then tell your hubby. It's your marital right (if there's anything like that). He may have other things in mind nao. I'll always love a woman who knows what she wants and goes for it. 11 out of 10 times!

Why should a woman wait 4 d man 2 always initiate sex?That mentality is so wrong.Seduce ur man wen u wanna get laid jor.

kendraloops:



Pardon my ignorance, but can guys fake org@sm? Thought once they come, that's it! Educate me please. As for guys going straight to the point, i know what I'm saying. A woman's make up is diff from that of a guy. Once junior is up, guys are good to go but its diff for a lady. Have you ever tried having sex with a lady who's very dry "down there?" How did it feel??

The brain controls most of these things so when the woman knows all the guy's gonna come n do is hump away, she doesnt bother trying to stimulate her senses cos she knows there's nothing in it for her.

For a long time, men have been known to lead while the woman follows. The woman would lead only if she knows its gonna be worthwhile. By worthwhile, i dont mean she must reach 0rgasm(how many women even do sef) but there should be some sort of satisfaction for her. please face it, some guys are just damn selfish in bed.
their slogan is " so far i come, nothing concern me"

@ kendra

Just as I suspected , ignorance truly is bliss for girls isn't it?

If you read my post you would note that I said us guys have been bashed about being selfish lovers for generations and because of that we have had to become Professors in the act,swallow pills(Viagra,Cialis) and concoctions (man-power drink etc) just so we can make girls happy with us in bed if men were all as uncaring as you paint us then why would we put ourselves through that crap?!

You are one of the girls who still thinks 'if he ejaculated then he 0rgasmed, hah! Outdated thinking!
If both of us made love and your body went through a natural process of releasing one of your eggs through your falopian tube into your ovum and I told you that it was 'proof' that you had 0rgasmed how would you react? Probably laugh your @ss off at my blatant ignorance! So imagine what I did when I read what you posted about when guys 'come'

In men 0rgazm and ejaculation are TWO separate events not one and the same. Just because I ejaculated doesn't mean you rocked my world honey!!! Get over yourself

As far as faking 0rgasms goes, it that into the false mindset I just explained above. Us guys KNOW you girls still think our ejaculation is proof of 0rgasm. So we simply tap into that mindset, it really isn't so hard

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2344662/Yes-men-fake-Astonishing-true-Here-brave-men-confess-all.html

It's one of our best kept secrets. You gals think you know us inside out and us guys ALLOW you to wallow in your ignorance because how do you teach a gal who thinks she knows it all?

That's why i asked you to educate me bro. Just hearing this ever(yea!). You don't have to be harsh about it. And my post wasn't referring to all guys, i said some. Same way not all women are shy about making the first move.

Thanks for the information though it was passed with the intent to ridicule.

kendraloops:
That's why i asked you to educate me bro. Just hearing this ever(yea!). You don't have to be harsh about it. And my post wasn't referring to all guys, i said some. Same way not all women are shy about making the first move.

Thanks for the information though it was passed with the intent to ridicule.

@ kendra

If I came across as too harsh... My bad not trying to knock you down really but I'm happy you were able to look past my alleged 'ridicule' and pick the message even If you didn't care much for the messenger, kudos to you for that

Just as you were passionate about pointing out SOME guys who are all about their needs , I was also passionate about pointing out that SOME gals are sooo clueless,thinking they are Gods gift to men in bed.

Hopefully you will educate yourself better and your gal friends who still think that way

kendraloops:
For some women, it might simply be due to their orientation or how they've been handled in past relationships. They might have been taught that a woman's place is just to receive and never to initiate, if not, she'll be termed a "loose" woman. Such person might carry that into her marriage and it will take a while before she can shake off such wrong behaviour.

Hubby has to be patient and also watch out for signs she might give. The "I'm tired, i have headache" excuse most women give is because they ain't looking foward to having sex mainly because oga just "goes straight to the point". No pre-intimacy, nothing nothing. He just wants direct entry, lol.

50 gbosas for you ,just wrote what I had in mind

shindarayo:
Y would I wait formy huby to initiate sex wen conji hold m finnish.conji na bastard ooo.me I love making love to my huby and I alwsys initiate it even if huby isnt in d mood just 2minute of speaking to his instrument he wld b all alert

Nice 1 bold lady. Its abnormal n useless fronting 4 a wife not 2 initiate sex. what cud she be shy of? As 4 me i dont like pretenders 1 bit.
.

YES!
Na dem da tin dey hungry pass!
I'd rather go SHOPPING!

kendraloops:
For some women, it might simply be due to their orientation or how they've been handled in past relationships. They might have been taught that a woman's place is just to receive and never to initiate, if not, she'll be termed a "loose" woman. Such person might carry that into her marriage and it will take a while before she can shake off such wrong behaviour.

Hubby has to be patient and also watch out for signs she might give. The "I'm tired, i have headache" excuse most women give is because they ain't looking foward to having sex mainly because oga just "goes straight to the point". No pre-intimacy, nothing nothing. He just wants direct entry, lol.

Lmao! Dumbness.

I've no time to watch anybody's body movement. If the wife is horn-y, she should simply demand for sex not passing signs or signals!

As a wife, if you're shy to demand sex from your hubby, why then is he your hubby?

If you're horn-y, simply tell your husband you want sex and not passing moronic signs and signals!

mifavour:
my opinion.... when I feel like making love I initiate the whole stuff. a times I know when my hubby's in the mood so I initiate it too and he loves it.

Thank you!

Don't mind these hypocritical puss-ies!