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Is It Ever Possible?? by MherihGold(f): 8:46pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
Hello Is it ever possible for a woman who has a female daughter and a maid to have equal love for them? With Nigerian mentality,women with housemaid don't treat them well. An example you see a with a female child and her housemaid who's also a maid attending different schools ofcourse the real daughter attending the best school. I am opportuned to stay with my aunty who has a maid and I see how things are. She loves the maid tho but there is a big difference. Yes I know the love might not be equal... So is it ever possible for a woman to love a maid the way she loves her children or should I just stick to the African mentality |
Re: Is It Ever Possible?? by ifex370(m): 8:55pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
MherihGold: it is possible... but women look at maids and all they see are slaves... who so to say are privileged to be in a family like theirs... change that mentality and you have the solution |
Re: Is It Ever Possible?? by mutter(f): 8:57pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
You probably cannot love her like your daughter but you can treat her like one. When in Nigeria, I did just that. They got the same kind of treatment, school, cklothing and all. We ate together and went out together. People believed they were part of my family. My friends criticised me for it but I believed they were very important to me. I entrusted my kids to them, so they were very significant in my life. We also did the chores together. If is your duty to treat eveyone in a dignified manner and youwould derive a great satisfaction from it. I think it is so wrong to exploit these young girls. They are seperated from their families and work hours on end. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ever Possible?? by ifex370(m): 9:07pm On Nov 19, 2014 |
mutter: thank you |
Re: Is It Ever Possible?? by MherihGold(f): 2:42am On Nov 20, 2014 |
ifex370:Hmmm alright |
Re: Is It Ever Possible?? by MherihGold(f): 2:43am On Nov 20, 2014 |
mutter:True...very good tho |
Re: Is It Ever Possible?? by afrobaby(f): 10:16am On Nov 20, 2014 |
It's a mind set thing. I don't think i can even have a maid until we build a mansion that may be hard for me to maintain alone, even at that, I can decide to bring in a niece, nephew or cousin whose parent are not as financially stable as we are. When you see your maid as a maid, you can never love her as much as you love your daughter. But when you start seeing her as your child (the child you could have had), and she starts seeing you as a mother that could have given birth to her, then it makes it very easy. If you can't love your maid and treat them right, then don't get a maid, because the way you treat her will be passed to your children whenever you are not there. They were also born the same way you gave birth to your kids, not just fortunate as your baby. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ever Possible?? by 2goodbobo(m): 3:28pm On Nov 20, 2014 |
Ever heard of the saying "Blood is thicker than water"? 1 Like |
Re: Is It Ever Possible?? by MherihGold(f): 11:49pm On Nov 20, 2014 |
2goodbobo:Lolz true |
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