Dear nairalander,

i kknew a guy about three years ago in church. he is so nice and caring anf later we bacame real close friends and during this period i do have recurring dreams about us getting married and he also. He proposed last year and ever since he proposed i have stopped having those dreams and my feeling for hi. before he proposed has dropped. when we were still friends, i always wished he could be my hubby.

please i need urgent replies as soon as possible as i want to be i. the right track

thank you all.

This is a very awkward situation. How is it that your feelings for him could change all of a sudden? Perhaps you just had a crush on him and mistook it for something concrete/longlasting. but now that its established you both can be together, the crush faded. Its more like a guy doing all he can to get a lady and when he finally does, he starts to relax and misbehave. Kinda childish. I dnt think you know what you want.

As for the dreams, me thinks you were just thinking about him a lot thats all. Be very sure that what you feel for him is concrete enough to lead to marriage. If no, its best you remain friends till you are sure of what you want. Feelings change. more reason why you shouldnt base choosing a partner for marriage on just feelings alone. Personality, compatibility and lifestyle matters a lot.

thanks sophyrocks. We are still together and planning for wedding soon but i just want to be sure if i am right. i still like him but the initial feelings before he ptoposed is not there again. I actually wanted him real bad then but now that that i knkow more about him, i feel he may like someone else. And maybe he might have promused a lady marriage before. i am just confused.

ttymyluv:
thanks sophyrocks. We are still together and planning for wedding soon but i just want to be sure if i am right. i still like him but the initial feelings before he ptoposed is not there again. I actually wanted him real bad then but now that that i knkow more about him, i feel he may like someone else. And maybe he might have promused a lady marriage before. i am just confused.

Did you guys date at all before he proposed? and 4 how long? I want to know if u guys moved from friendship straight to proposal. Why are you afraid that he could have another lady? Has he ever shown u reasons/actions/words to prove that?

Having a hard time understanding you.
What exactly are you asking?

ttymyluv:
thanks sophyrocks. We are still together and planning for wedding soon but i just want to be sure if i am right. i still like him but the initial feelings before he ptoposed is not there again. I actually wanted him real bad then but now that that i knkow more about him, i feel he may like someone else. And maybe he might have promused a lady marriage before. i am just confused.

You are confused.

That aside, it seems you had puppy love towards him (infatuation). No point in getting married to someone if you aren't sure. Marriage is meant to be a lifetime commitment, so make sure he is what you really want.

ttymyluv:
thanks sophyrocks. We are still together and planning for wedding soon but i just want to be sure if i am right. i still like him but the initial feelings before he ptoposed is not there again. I actually wanted him real bad then but now that that i knkow more about him, i feel he may like someone else. And maybe he might have promused a lady marriage before. i am just confused.

Obviously you are!
Give yourself sometime to know what exactly you want..... He mayn't be the one for u; rather, you mayn't be the one for him, either way, you need time to be certain....
Don't be in a rush to conclude... Like what my efe has said, "it is a life time commitment"... Be careful.
So you won't get stuck with anoda woman's blokos, it could be deadly.

@ ttymyluv

It's called INFATUATION and not infactuation.

Please take note.

shaggy007 thanks.