• Secret lives of students who pretend to be
virgins at home, but live with campus
lovers
Pretence is a GAME students play with ease.
Before their parents, they wear the borrowed
robes of angels, but they become sons and
daughters of iniquity on campus. A good
number of undergraduates dwell in a
kingdom of deceit, where sex is cheaper than
a pot of porridge.Their trademark of
hypocrisy and lies flourishes both in public
and private universities. They announce their
presence in lecture halls by their ostentatious
display of wealth. While other students are
seated in old rickety chairs in lecture
theatres, they swim in luxury in high-brow
hostels off campus. They live like kings and
queens in their secret palace of love, spending
in a day the income that is above the monthly
earning of their parents or guardians.
Most of them, especially ladies, live for their
partner. They wash the man's clothes, clean
the room and spend quality time cooking
delicious meals, such that an onlooker might
think they are married. The fact is that they
might be single at home, but on campus, they
are married. They live in a love nest with the
lucky guy for as long as four years.
Welcome to the world of campus couples.
Cohabitation, a phenomenon where two
young unmarried people live together under
the same roof, is a common trend on campus.
It is not uncommon to find male and female
students living under one roof as couples
without the consent of their parents. The
habit, termed 'campus couple', has gained
grounds especially in off-campus residence.
Many students, who spoke to Campus Sun,
said cohabitation enables two students in
love to determine their compatibility status,
as they get to study themselves before
marriage. The male student assumes the role
of a husband and the lady takes up the role of
a wife. Neighbours know both of them, as
they are often seen going out together. For
these campus couples, exam period is the
only time that reminds them of academic
work, as they spend a better part of the
semester practising family life.
Investigation by Campus Sun revealed that
these students go for off campus residence
for some reasons, ranging from poor sanitary
conditions of halls of residence, inability to
secure accommodation on campus and
overcrowding. It was discovered that
students cohabit for economic and financial
reasons.
David Odia, a student of the Federal
Polytechnic Auchi (Auchi Poly), defended the
practice, saying that cohabitation unites
future partners. "It is very romantic to live
together as husband and wife, doing things in
common, taking collective decision as a
family. In fact, the period prepares one for
family life. This has helped many
undergraduates to discover their spouses to
which they are happily married today," he
argued.
Narrating her ordeal to Campus Sun, Amaka
Okoro (not real name), an undergraduate of a
federal university, said her inability to secure
accommodation on campus made her to
cohabit with a guy she met during her
departmental week activities. "Ever since I
came here, I am more or less a mother. I do
all the washing, cooking and domestic work.
My academic programme is suffering as I find
it hard to read my books, which is my
primary reason for being in school," she
confessed.
She continued: "I feel bored at times.
Whenever my fiancé and I have a quarrel, he
abuses and molests me which gives me
psychological and health problems."
Asked why she has not left her fiancé's home,
she said her desire for companionship has
made her remain there. When pressed
further whether her parents know of her
situation, she screamed: "No!"
Campus Sun tried to find out if she has ever
been sexually molested by her fiancé ever
since she started living with him, she flashed
a broad smile and left the question hanging in
the air.
Amaka disclosed that some of her friends
living with other male students engage in
vices like stealing, lying and cybercrimes to
raise fund to sustain the relationship.
"Many of them are finding it difficult to
graduate and others have been asked to
withdraw from the university because they
have exceeded the maximum period allowed
for their degree," she disclosed.
When Campus Sun visited Ekosodin and
Osasogie, both off campus residence around
the University of Benin (UNIBEN), and
mentioned the trend to some group of
students, they reeled out in laughter at the
coinage 'campus couples' and attested to the
fact that some of them are practising it.
One of them, a 300 level student of Medical
Physiology, had this to say: "The trend is
rampant here in Ekosodin. Those that engage
in it are the 'happening' girls and guys on the
campus. The practice is really expensive and
as such we respect those that engage in the
act."
He continued: "What most UNIBEN students
do here is to disguise that they are staying in
their fellowship secretariat off-campus, which
is not true. When you properly investigate
the matter, you will find out that most of
them are staying with their boyfriends off-
campus. There was the case of a 200 level law
student whose father is a politician in Lagos.
She was staying with a student-pastor here in
Ekosodin. As a result of her affluence, she
was always demanding money from her
father to sustain the relationship. They later
made her the vice president of the campus
fellowship. You need to see the way this girl
was playing out the role of a wife to the
student-pastor and neglecting her studies.
Her parents became disturbed and told a
relative that stays in the school hostel to find
out where she lives. She was exposed and
that was how the friendship ended."
Mrs. Rachael Omoregie, a social worker and
counselor decried the practice and called for
immediate measures to checkmate it.
According to her, the compatibility status,
which the students are attempting to get, is
not working out. They engage in sexual
immorality. If the lady gets pregnant, her
education is truncated. This practice,
according to her, is responsible for a rise in
the level of girls dropping out of school. She
further stated that the ladies could develop
psychological problem when they experience
heartbreak, which could make them
contemplate suicide.
"Abortion in our tertiary institution can be
attributed to cohabitation. These students are
not ready for parenting and can do
everything within their powers to flush out
pregnancies when they occur. Moreover,
those cohabiting students expose themselves
to the risk of sexually transmitted diseases
(STD's), which can lead to infertility in the
future. In the long run," said a medical doctor
at the University Of Benin Teaching Hospital
(UBTH) who did not want his name in print.
A parent, Mrs. Grace Iyenoma, who resides at
Ekosodin, said, "I wonder what has come
over our undergraduates these days. Going
through the number of students cohabiting
here in Ekosodin leaves one shocked. It is
scripturally, morally and culturally wrong. It
is destroying our values. What goes round
comes around. These students are cohabiting
for nothing but to get space for having sex.
Haven done all these atrocities in school, how
do you expect them to cope well in marriage?
Come to think of it, what if, the compatibility
test fails? Who will marry the girls? The most
annoying part of it is that their parents do
not know about what they are doing. If my
son happens to bring any of such ladies home,
I would chase her out."
Another parent, Mama Iyabor, who is also a
trader at Ekosodin, said cohabiting by
students is good business. "Inasmuch as I
don't like the practice, I cannot help it
because it is making my business boom.
These 'couples-to-be' shop as though they
own the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) and
live big off-campus. In fact, their stay is
helping my business boom. If they stop this
practice, how do you expect me to feed my
children? My business will suffer," he said.
Ese Akpovete, a graduating student of Physics
at the Delta State University, Abraka called
for immediate end to the act. According to
her, the pains from sexual breakups range
from depression and suicide attempts of
some young adults.
Joy Musa, HND 2, Mass Communication, Nuhu
Bamalli Polytechnic (NUBA POLY) Kaduna,
stated that parents have a lot of roles to play
in curbing the practice. According to her,
schools have little or no authority to exert on
students because they (students) are
considered to be adults. "Parents who toil day
and night to see their wards through school
should cultivate the habit of paying them
unscheduled visit in order to find out what
they are doing in school. If students know
that their parents would pay them visit
without prior notice, they would be
restrained in their wild adventure," she said.
EDDY UWOGHIREN
Uwoghiren is a 300 level student, Medicine
and Surgery, University of Benin, Nigeria.

SOURCE : http://www.unibenblog.com/2014/12/single-at-home-married-on-campus.html?m=1

Nice 1

The ladies are the ones to regret it when they depart

campus couple ... d name funny sha. tho its a normal thing here in France

I never knew such thing happened

No wonder Feranmicharles wan go higher institution, so na because of gurls.



institution = where d ugly gurls and shy guyz always find love

Couples life....I don't no how some people would neglet their primary assignment in school and face d secondary assignment...SMH

TheoneandOnlyMe:
In case

in case u die

TheoneandOnlyMe:

Lame, not funny at all. Run along, you bore me.

Babe why na she just said that in a jokingly manner as per spacebookers . . . Btw i asked for your digits the other day . . . Missdebs hope you don't attack my babe i'm sorry

single at home, married on campus, widowed to the world, divorced to the society

Strange

lols

What is this?

It's just the fact. spot on op

end time story

.cohabitation is a killer disease in our campuses

Thanks mods . . . Godwin10 it made frontpage

that's it

Girls

Booked!
Modified;
Its not a new thing here. I know a lotta people living like dis. One of ma neighbours sef don born boy so the 3 live like a functional family. I don't like it tho
It is highly unneccessary and promotes negativity.
I bliv its only an illiterate geh dah would live with a guy and wash for him bla bla bla....nuff said

The long story isn't necessary... It is common in all universities.

ok

Once they co-habit, Abortion is certain

There is one thing that remains constant as long as living a couple's life on campus is concerned and that is sex, more sex & much more sex.
Wetin be my own self

I wouldn't blame em , little or no sex education ,
Youngin's bear the burden of learning about sex On their own ,coupled with peer pressure....

Dis kind thrash nor dey unical jor

that's how we roll .

that stuff is too long... with d title I get it all, but mhen, im a lazy reader... Someone summarize plz