what are those bad habits you really want to stop?





mine are: Greediness, impatient and not being contented with what i have.

SkinnyDude:
what are those bad habits you really want to stop?





mine are: Greediness, impatient and not being contented with what i have.

exactly my problem

Osahon7:
exactly my problem

what are you doing about them?
how do they affect your life?

Sss..self service before s£x

I'm glad I saw this topic. I hope those with solutions on how to drop these habits come. I have some habits I want to drop; impatience and a little bit of anger. I don't get violent or shout when I get angry, instead I sit quiet and just boil.

The thing is I intend to get angry too often and I want to stop it. Pls I need suggestions on how to curb these habits
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LordReed
Adesiji77
MizMycoli

Godmother:
I'm glad I saw this topic. I hope those with solutions on how to drop these habits come. I have some habits I want to drop; impatience and a little bit of anger. I don't get violent or shout when I get angry, instead I sit quiet and just boil.

The thing is I intend to get angry too often and I want to stop it. Pls I need suggestions on how to curb these habits
.
CC

LordReed
Adesiji77
MizMycoli

You may the find the following useful:

ON ANGER

Dr. Redford B. Williams states in JAMA: “The simplistic advice, ‘when angry, let it out,’ is unlikely . . . to be of much help. Far more important is to learn how to evaluate your anger and then to manage it.” He suggests asking yourself: “(1) Is this situation important to me? (2) Are my thoughts and feelings appropriate to the objective facts? (3) Is this situation modifiable, so that I don’t have to have this anger?”

Proverbs 14:29; 29:11 “He that is slow to anger is abundant in discernment, but one that is impatient is exalting foolishness. All his spirit is what a stupid one lets out, but he that is wise keeps it calm to the last.”

Ephesians 4:26 “Be wrathful, and yet do not sin; let the sun not set with you in a provoked state.”

Frank Donovan, in his book Dealing With Anger—Self-Help Solutions for Men, recommends: “Escaping anger—or, more specifically, escaping the scene and other people in your angry episode—is a strategy which has special importance and value at the higher levels of anger.”

Proverbs 17:14 “The beginning of contention is as one letting out waters; so before the quarrel has burst forth, take your leave.”

Bertram Rothschild, writing in the journal The Humanist, states: “Anger . . . is primarily one’s personal responsibility. The reasons to become angry exist in our heads. . . . The few times anger worked for you pale in comparison to the multitude of times it made things worse. It is far better not to produce the anger than to experience it.”

http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102002089?q=dealing+with+anger&p=par

ON IMPATIENCE

Consider the following recommendations.
Identify the causes:
The things or situations that make you impatient have been called impatience triggers. What triggers your impatience? Are there specific individuals who try your patience? Perhaps your mate, parents, or children are the principal impatience triggers in your life. Or are your triggers usually time related? For instance, are you likely to lose your patience when you have to wait for others or when you are running late? Do you lose your patience when you are tired, hungry, sleepy, or under some type of stress? Do you more often lose your patience at home or at work?

Simplify your life:
According to Professor Noreen Herzfeld, who teaches computer science at Saint John’s University, in Minnesota, U.S.A., “people really can’t multitask. The brain cannot concentrate on several things simultaneously.” She adds: “Over time, multitasking erodes our ability to pay focused, close attention, and this eventually eats away at traits such as patience, tenacity, judgment, and problem solving.”
It is difficult to cultivate patience when you are stressed from having too many things to do, too many places to be, and too many people to stay in touch with. Dr. Jennifer Hartstein, mentioned earlier in this series, warns: “Fundamentally, stress is the cause of much of our impatient reactions.”
So, “slow down and smell the roses,” as the old adage says. Make time to enjoy life. Make time to establish deep friendships with a few people, rather than pursuing shallow friendships with a huge network of people. Budget your time, and set your priorities wisely. Beware of time-wasting hobbies and gadgets.

Be realistic:
Have a realistic view of life. First of all, in real life, things do not always happen as fast as we wish. Accept the fact that time moves at the speed of time and not at the speed of your expectations. That is patience. Second, remember that you cannot always control your circumstances.

Instead of losing your patience over circumstances that are beyond your control, try to identify things that you can control. To illustrate, rather than getting angry over a delayed bus or train, try to find another way to get to your destination. Even walking might be better than giving in to impatience and anger. If waiting is the only option, use the time to do something productive, such as doing some meaningful reading or writing down your plans for future activities.

The reality of life is that it does little good to worry over things that you cannot control. The Bible aptly says: “None of you can add any time to your life by worrying about it.”—Luke 12:25, Holy Bible—Easy-to-Read Version.

http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102012444?q=impatience&p=par

Godmother:
I'm glad I saw this topic. I hope those with solutions on how to drop these habits come. I have some habits I want to drop; impatience and a little bit of anger. I don't get violent or shout when I get angry, instead I sit quiet and just boil.

The thing is I intend to get angry too often and I want to stop it. Pls I need suggestions on how to curb these habits
.
CC

LordReed
Adesiji77
MizMycoli

Examine yourself, you may have lingering issues bothering you. Unresolved issues have a way of making us edgy and start affecting unrelated issues which is why we don't seem to know why we feel angry over stuff that we can usually deal with. Even impatience is tied to this sometimes. I try to visualise life as a series of compartments with each bit and relationship having its own compartment, it helps me separate issues like work from family, family from friends and friends from business. And it helps, I never bring the frustrations of office home and start reacting negatively towards my family. You can find a similar healthy coping mechanism, some people use sports, others like to unwind in solitude, find one that suits you and is not destructive.

@Adesiji77

Your post is packed and a lot of the wordings really got to my heart. But one that stood out for me was

" First of all, in real life, things do not always happen as fast as we wish. Accept the fact that time moves at the. speed of time and not at the speed of your expectations."

Thanks a lot for this. This saying I will post somewhere and meditate on regularly.

@ LordReed

Once again I have seen wisdom in your advice to me. Years I have some unresolved issues and I guess my anger is stemming from there. A lot of these issues are being worked on though and I hope to have them settled soonest. Thanks for taking out the time to offer this advice.

Godmother:
@ LordReed

Once again I have seen wisdom in your advice to me. Years I have some unresolved issues and I guess my anger is stemming from there. A lot of these issues are being worked on though and I hope to have them settled soonest. Thanks for taking out the time to offer this advice.

Always my pleasure.

Godmother:
@Adesiji77

Your post is packed and a lot of the wordings really got to my heart. But one that stood out for me was

" First of all, in real life, things do not always happen as fast as we wish. Accept the fact that time moves at the. speed of time and not at the speed of your expectations."

Thanks a lot for this. This saying I will post somewhere and meditate on regularly.

You are welcome

However, the credit should go to the source of the information.

Cheers!

MizMyColi:
Hi Godmother
I am really sorry about the late reply.

I think the posters above me have elucidated quite well on the matter.

I don't know much about your spirituality.
I'd like to ask you some questions which might sound totally off, but I believe can help.

Do let me know if you're up for it

Sure you can. Pls go right ahead. If they are too personal though maybe u shud pm me

Also my spirituality is sound. I believe in God and have a personal relationship with Him.

1. Yes

2. No

3. Sure He gets angry but forgets when I ask for forgiveness.

4. Had a reasonably close relationship with him before his death.

5. I alternate, sometimes I bottle, sometimes I don't.

6. Hell no! If I were to pray for such a person sef its 'fall down and die prayer'.

7. Heard this b4 but somehow I don't believe it.

8. Yup. An ex

1. Yes

2. No

3. Sure He gets angry but forgets when I ask for forgiveness.

4. Had a reasonably close relationship with him before his death.

5. I alternate, sometimes I bottle, sometimes I don't.

6. Hell no! If I were to pray for such a person sef its 'fall down and die prayer'.

7. Heard this b4 but somehow I don't believe it.

8. Yup. An ex

9. Getting married to the love of my life and thriving in my biz.

10. Err... Don't understand this last question.

Cc MizMyColi

MizMyColi:
@Godmother Dear.
You're still on my mind.

I have to ensure all my faculties are settled, I don't wantu type jaga jagaly

I will PM you because, part of the reply I've typed is somewhat personal.

No wahala.
Thanks dearie. Appreciate and expecting the PM