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The Beef Between Africans & African Americans: Why Can’t We Get Along? by kinibigdeal(m): 12:42am On Apr 24, 2015
By Guest Writer Tanikia Thompson

“You’re not African American, you’re American. You guys just say African American so you can have some relation to Africa.”

These are the words that were spoken to me from a Nigerian lady that I attended college with. It was hurtful to hear her say this. I have traveled to Zambia twice and the first time was challenging. In a debriefing session I explained to the white people on the trip, that my entire life I had been told that I am African American, and here I was in Africa and had no culture to call my own. When a man in the market realized that I couldn’t speak Bemba he told my Zambian host that I should be ashamed of myself for not knowing my language. He didn’t know that I wasn’t from Zambia, because everything about me along with the rest of the African American community screams Africa. While in Zambia, I noticed how the people looked just like African Americans back home. It was very evident that African Americans are from Africa.
There are two major problems at hand: not enough African Americans acknowledge that they are Africans and not enough Africans acknowledge that African Americans are African. I’m sure growing up we have all heard the “You look like you African” jokes. Well that cruel joke has followed us to adulthood. How can a Black person look like an African, when they are African? And why is that meant to be offensive? I will admit that it wasn’t until after my voyage to the Motherland, that I began to take ownership of my African roots. What’s weird is when I say that I’m African around African Americans that know me, they look at me like I’m crazy and question me. I respond by saying “You’re African too!”
On the other hand I have heard Africans speak like the Nigerian lady who told me that I wasn’t African. Is the history of slavery not enough explanation on how we separated from our homeland? That isn’t American history; it’s African and American history. There are African Americans like myself who have gone through major identity crisis’ and struggled over the fact that we have no knowledge of what country in Africa we came from. Just because we weren’t born in Africa, don’t strip us of our African identity and heritage.
What frustrates me is I can see how the media has played a crucial role in dividing us. In America they have presented Africa to us as the Dark Continent with uncivilized people. To an extent we have believed everything we’ve seen on television. I remember on my first trip to Africa I was scared that some random men were going to break into the house I was staying and rape me. How crazy is that? In Africa they have presented African Americans as all being uneducated, rappers, thugs, and hoes. It was very irritating when the Africans would try to use slang with me. The media alone has caused us to form stereotypes about each other.
This is an issue that frequently comes up in my diverse circle of friends, so I wanted to share it with you guys. I leave you with this question:
At what point did African Americans stop being African? When we got off the slave ship?
Yo I tell you the rest when I see you… Peace!


http://ourlegaci.com/2010/05/19/the-beef-between-africans-african-americans-2/

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Re: The Beef Between Africans & African Americans: Why Can’t We Get Along? by Raiders: 12:51am On Apr 24, 2015
I didn't know there is beef between Africans and African Americans
Re: The Beef Between Africans & African Americans: Why Can’t We Get Along? by Penssuwa(m): 3:40pm On Apr 24, 2015
kinibigdeal:

By Guest Writer Tanikia Thompson

“You’re not African American, you’re American. You guys just say African American so you can have some relation to Africa.”

These are the words that were spoken to me from a Nigerian lady that I attended college with. It was hurtful to hear her say this. I have traveled to Zambia twice and the first time was challenging. In a debriefing session I explained to the white people on the trip, that my entire life I had been told that I am African American, and here I was in Africa and had no culture to call my own. When a man in the market realized that I couldn’t speak Bemba he told my Zambian host that I should be ashamed of myself for not knowing my language. He didn’t know that I wasn’t from Zambia, because everything about me along with the rest of the African American community screams Africa. While in Zambia, I noticed how the people looked just like African Americans back home. It was very evident that African Americans are from Africa.
There are two major problems at hand: not enough African Americans acknowledge that they are Africans and not enough Africans acknowledge that African Americans are African. I’m sure growing up we have all heard the “You look like you African” jokes. Well that cruel joke has followed us to adulthood. How can a Black person look like an African, when they are African? And why is that meant to be offensive? I will admit that it wasn’t until after my voyage to the Motherland, that I began to take ownership of my African roots. What’s weird is when I say that I’m African around African Americans that know me, they look at me like I’m crazy and question me. I respond by saying “You’re African too!”
On the other hand I have heard Africans speak like the Nigerian lady who told me that I wasn’t African. Is the history of slavery not enough explanation on how we separated from our homeland? That isn’t American history; it’s African and American history. There are African Americans like myself who have gone through major identity crisis’ and struggled over the fact that we have no knowledge of what country in Africa we came from. Just because we weren’t born in Africa, don’t strip us of our African identity and heritage.
What frustrates me is I can see how the media has played a crucial role in dividing us. In America they have presented Africa to us as the Dark Continent with uncivilized people. To an extent we have believed everything we’ve seen on television. I remember on my first trip to Africa I was scared that some random men were going to break into the house I was staying and rape me. How crazy is that? In Africa they have presented African Americans as all being uneducated, rappers, thugs, and hoes. It was very irritating when the Africans would try to use slang with me. The media alone has caused us to form stereotypes about each other.
This is an issue that frequently comes up in my diverse circle of friends, so I wanted to share it with you guys. I leave you with this question:
At what point did African Americans stop being African? When we got off the slave ship?
Yo I tell you the rest when I see you… Peace!


http://ourlegaci.com/2010/05/19/the-beef-between-africans-african-americans-2/
Op I'm very sure u are a Nigerian.
Re: The Beef Between Africans & African Americans: Why Can’t We Get Along? by kinibigdeal(m): 3:45pm On Apr 24, 2015
Penssuwa:

Op I'm very sure u are a Nigerian.

Ofcourse I'm..
Re: The Beef Between Africans & African Americans: Why Can’t We Get Along? by Nobody: 3:50pm On Apr 24, 2015
no beef... except one african american girl that would come on this culture section and go dey vibrate for everybody... i can't remember her username though!
Re: The Beef Between Africans & African Americans: Why Can’t We Get Along? by RandomAfricanAm: 8:36pm On Apr 24, 2015
Meh, this seems like one of those cases of the "vocal minority" I find that these people are usually folks from immigrant heavy places like (NYC, DC, etc.) people such as myself who didn't grow up in immigrant heavy places like that don't seem to spout that kinda stuff. My interaction with people on the continent, newly from there, or grew up outside of places like NYC,DC, etc are cool ass hell when I speak to them.

You are always going to have the odd man out no matter were they come from especially if they had a hard childhood but the overwhelming majority of people I meet from Africa are ok.

Example:
I liken it to something I saw about women complaining about being harassed on the street. They blow it up as though it applies to every women in the U.S. even though it's basically a dense urban issue in a place like NYC. In the south most people drive everywhere because things are so spaced out. People are barely in a position to speak to people who aren't there immediate neighbors unless they are in a store, school, work, or parking lot. The culture is just different down here but you have certain women screaming from the hip as though their problems are reflective of everyone else's experience.



That's life, that's humanity I guess.
Re: The Beef Between Africans & African Americans: Why Can’t We Get Along? by Moblord(m): 8:43pm On Apr 24, 2015
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