can you refuse to grant her the request of being her bridesmaid on her wedding day because you find her annoying or you hate her?

its allowable.. esp if u are Jealous the annoying person u hate is getting married before u..


there is no point ruining her wedding pictures

It is always ok to say no when you can't or don't want to do something. While most people would consider being a bridesmaid a big honor, it is not an obligation, and you are at liberty to say no if you wish. I will encourage you to tell her ASAP, so that she can have time to find another maid if need be. I understand that sharing the news might be uncomfortable and she might be hurt, but you want to give her enough time to make the necessary adjustments.

You could also just suck it up, deal with it, and be her bridesmaid. She asked you. Among all her other friends and relatives, she picked you to be there for her on her wedding day. The friendship you share must mean a lot to her, otherwise she probably would not have approached you with the request. And all you have to do is show up, and put on a smile for the camera. However, if your relationship with her is as annoying and hateful as you described in your post, then it is probably best to decline the request. I wouldn't want someone who hates me to be my bridesmaid, you wouldn't want that, and I'm pretty sure she doesn't either.

Is it that you find her annoying or that you're yet to get a man and the thought of someone marrying is annoying you.


Either way, put off your hate for one day and accept the honour, it won't remove anything from you.


Learn to be gracious especially as a woman.

But if the hatred is too much, then by all means refuse the request. If you don't refuse, then I do not want to hear tales by moonlight about whatever is your grudge. Put a sock in it.

Why would she ask you to be her bridesmaid if you hate her? That feeling is mutual, not one sided.

Nl stories require suspension of disbelief.

You're becoming a big girl o




op follow tpias advice

tpiadotcom:
Is it that you find her annoying or that you're yet to get a man and the thought of someone marrying is annoying you.


Either way, put off your hate for one day and accept the honour, it won't remove anything from you.


Learn to be gracious especially as a woman.

But if the hatred is too much, then by all means refuse the request. If you don't refuse, then I do not want to hear tales by moonlight about whatever is your grudge. Put a sock in it.

If i am having 99% signal quality, i will accept but if i am experiencing BAD OR NO SIGNAL on my brains, i will decline the request. This is how my brain works... sorry my DISH works...

If the hate is that much I guess the bride would have known and not ask u to be her bridesmaid, for her to have asked I believe she values u so put on a nice smile for the day

See how people kill themselves unknowingly...




You are innocently inviting someone you think is your friend meanwhile she has been seriously hating you.



@OP you must be a very good actress for her not to see beyond your facade...