I have dealt with this topic before but the question
keeps coming up in nearly all the meetings I hold,
and so I want to revisit this issue again.
Is kissing a sin? That is a question on the lips of
many young people who are serving God, but
cannot seem to keep away from kissing each
other as an expression of their love.
True to it, and as a counselor, I know there are
many Christians who are doing this regularly. As a
young man myself in courtship, I never had jeru
trip with my fiancée then, but I kissed her a few
times and I really felt guilty about it. In fact, the
feeling I had was that the Holy Spirit was grieved
at it. So, I am not oblivious of what you are going
through exactly.
Now, having been married for some years, about
sixteen years, I can tell you, that the strong urge to
kiss as singles is just more of the devil trying to
trip you than an expression of love! Folks in
western countries might find this ridiculous as
well, since they are more liberal and they often
greet as well with no lust attached.
Some of us go ahead and quote the scripture to
justify this act. Well, in a very a straight forward
way, you will never find a scripture that forbids
kissing or that says, “thou shall not kiss.” In fact
what you find are scriptures that seems to be
encouraging kissing, and that in the New
Testament!
All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another
with an holy kiss. (1 Corinthians 16:20 KJV)
Salute one another with an holy kiss. The churches
of Christ salute you. (Romans 16:16 KJV)
Doesn’t this mean that God wants us to kiss?
The instruction to kiss that we see in the above
verses and in some more places are verses that
we have to consider in their cultural contexts.
The Jews usually kiss one another with a kiss,
somewhat on the cheek and not a direct mouth-to-
mouth kiss or some French kiss!
This is why Judas kissed Jesus Christ. He was
just greeting him. It’s like a handshake.
And while he yet spake, behold a multitude, and he
that was called Judas, one of the twelve, went
before them, and drew near unto Jesus to kiss
him. (Luke 22:47 KJV)
Kisses with Jews as described above is a form of
greeting in their culture, hence Paul termed it as
Holy Kissing.
In Nigeria, we don’t kiss one another with a kiss.
Hence, the Jewish kiss is holy, but the Nigerian
kiss is not holy! In non–Jewish states, a kiss
outside wedlock between two people who are in
love, behind closed doors will not be holy because
it will lead to some unholy things!
The initial kiss might even be holy, but after a
while, the law of progression will step in and
before you know it, kissing will lead to some other
things.
If I come into a meeting with my wife and an usher
grabs my wife and plants a kiss on her, I will
remove my suit and fight! Why? We don’t greet
each other with some mouth-to-mouth kiss! If
your handshake dey too long sef, I fit suspect you,
not to talk of a kiss!
If you and your fiancée are kissing each other
behind the church and as your pastor, I bump into
you, who will apologise? It’s you! If as your Pastor,
I’m kissing my wife behind the church, and you
bump into us, who will still apologise? It is still
you! Because we are married!
You see after marriage, if you want to kiss
yourself 24 hours a day for the next one month;
God is okay with it! Why? Your body belongs to
each other! But after marriage, you will know that
it is not all about kissing! It is about school fees,
and house rent and pampers! You won’t feel like
kissing all the time! So why would you want to
jeopardise your relationship with God with what
you can do as long as you want eventually?
The idea of holding on is where maturity is, and it
is all about self-control. This is what separates
the boys from the men! Ability to delay
gratification!
Young ladies, when a guy comes and says, “let’s
kiss,” you don’t submit your lips like you are
submitting paper in examination hall. The power of
life and death lies in your mouth! If the guy is
hungry, why must it be your mouth that he would
eat? If he is really hungry, doesn’t he know where
they sell Kpomo (treated cowhide) in the market?
For married people, feel free to kiss yourselves! If
your spouse loves it, then go ahead and give it! It
won’t be a sin!
But for singles, always have this at the back of
your mind that when you are in love, what you did
with him or her, the last time you met will not
satisfy you the next time! It is a law, so you need
to consciously guard against that.
Finally, let me say, it is not wise to meet
somebody and the next thing is that you are
kissing! There are people you kiss, and your jaws
are locked. Ther are people you kiss, and as it
were, you cannot pray again. There are strange
mouths you kiss for five minutes, and it leads to
regrets for the next five years! There are poeple
you kiss, and your destiny is arrested. If you
doubt that, ask Jesus, for it was the kiss of Judas
that led to his arrest!
Good Morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I have understanding of God's word and I have self
control
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, teach me self control by your Spirit
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
A man without self- control is like a city broken
into and left without walls. (Proverbs 25:28 ESV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
If you have been kissing outside wedlock, decide
to stop today

ON GOD