In more ways than one, the emotional traumas associated with infertility are well known especially to those who have been waiting for long to have children. While increased availability of counseling and support networks has attempted to understand and meet the needs, there are instances in which some of the most intimate problems couples encounters are still poorly discussed, because of embarrassment, lack of knowledge or maybe simply because of a lack of time.

Talking about sexual problem is always the best place to start. Usually, open discussion between the couple will find a solution but this is often a very difficult subject for many people. Just finding the right words to use can be confusing. Yet there are several pertinent questions related to sexual intercourse and its relationship with infertility. We will be discussing some of these today.

Making love can become an ordeal for a couple that has been trying very hard to conceive for quite a while. Take the case of the Adedayos; As man and wife, this couple has tried almost everything including scheduled sexual encounters all for the purpose of achieving a successful pregnancy. Lately however, this couple has discovered that the sexual act has become no more than a mechanical activity more for the benefit of achieving a particular objective rather than to fulfill any sexual desire. Both discovered they no longer had any sex drive or the kind of passion they used to have for each other. So what has gone wrong?

The answer is quite simple. Love making may become disappointing when a couple that is trying to conceive feels that the purpose of sex is simply for pregnancy and when this is not readily achieved the whole purpose of making love becomes a failure. It is not surprising therefore that infertility can have a devastating effect on the sexual relationship of such couples. However, it must be remembered that sexual relationship has other benefits. Not only does making love have an immediate physical pleasure, it also provides a physical closeness which gives the comfort and support which is essential for all relationships.

It is often very difficult to preserve these other pleasures when life is dominated by the desire to conceive. Once it becomes realized that it is as a result of the intrusion of having “sex on demand” that has challenged the intimacy in the relationship, the problem is half solved. Once a couple no longer takes time to enjoy sex like before, this kind of scenario is bound to crop up.

What Couples Can Do

What can be done in this situation is for the couple to learn to spend time together and refocus attention on each other?

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Couples going through infertility should also get closer to God. He is the ultimate comforter