One of the greatest headaches of many young
ladies in relationship is the issue of sex. While
they find themselves entangled in love, they also
would not want to offend God by fornicating.
Meanwhile, most young men of today are always
demanding sex before marriage as a proof of
love. If a lady denies her boyfriend (fiance) sex,
he tends to think she either does not love him or
she is seeing another guy. And this throws the
lady into so much confusion. She genuinely loves
the guy but wouldn't want to give in to sex. If
she denies him, she may lose him and if she gives
in too she disobeys God. Sorry to our ladies.
Gentleman, please know that it is absolutely a lie
from the pit of hell that if your fiancee does not
give you sex it shows she doesn't love you. How
can you use sex as a LOVEOMETRE? Have you
never slept with ladies you didn't truly love? If
you haven't then let me tell you that many people
are having sex with people they never love. And
the men are themselves the worst culprits.
If sex is a proof of love then we have to conclude
that prostitutes love all the men they sleep with.
If sex is a proof of love then we have to go about
sleeping with our best friends and even family
members to show how deeply we love them.
Even married couples, do not have sex to prove
their love. They rather have sex because sex is
part of marriage and it is meant for both
procreation and recreation - child birth and
enjoyment. Don't you know that there are married
couples who are not genuinely in love but they
still have sex as a matter of duty or just for
cover-ups?
Surely, sex plays a major role in love affairs. But
Eccl 3:1 says, "For everything there is a
season..." It is never the right season to have sex
in a relationship. This is because sex is a blood
covenant between husband and wife not boyfriend
and girlfriend. Gen. 4:1 says, "Adam knew his
wife". It does not say "Adam knew his girlfriend".
Stop going that far with the lady. If you want to
know about a woman's love for you sex is never
the answer. Leave her alone to serve God right for
your own sake if you truly want to marry her.
Song of Songs 2:7 says, "I charge you, O
daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelle...that you
AWAKEN NOT LOVE UNTIL IT IS TIME".
The gazelle is a very swift animal. It runs at least
96 km per hour. Bible compares romance to the
gazelle. If you start romance at the wrong time
you may crush because you will not be able to
stop it from running your life at top speed. So
until you are married, don't AWAKEN LOVE. Sex
has been the main reason for most broken hearts
and disappointments.
Sex is called love-making because it involves the
body, soul and spirit. Do you want your soul and
spirit to be tied to somebody who is not married
to you? Can you stand the consequences, Mr.
Young Man? Hear the Bible:
"O my son, O son of my womb, O son of my vows,
DO NOT SPEND YOUR STRENGTH ON WOMEN,
YOUR VIGOUR ON THOSE WHO DESTROY
KINGS." (Prov. 31:2)
Sex before marriage can destroy you, even your
Christian life. The funny thing is that it is the
Brothers in Christ who are always worrying the
Sisters in Christ for sex. So God says, "My
son...son of my vow". You are a son of God so
don't waste your energy on women. You should
rather be teaching her chastity and help her serve
God well.
Seeking love from sex is like looking for Jesus in
an empty tomb. Take it easy. When you marry
you will be fed up with sex. Your wife will be
chasing you with it and you will be running away,
saying, "Oh I'm tied, why?". Take time okay, there
is more sleep after death. How many rounds do
you want? Wait patiently. It will soon be laid at
your doorstep and you will notice how stupid it is
to chase sex when you are not married.
If you want a woman to prove her love to you,
allow her some space to be herself. Do not force
your will on her or control her. Her love, by
nature, will push her to do things that will signal
to you that you are her top priority. She will be
ready to marry you, than just have