1. You Can Not Chase Money And Women At The Same Time - Even when so many fathers have made this mistake in their youthful days they still end up failing to tell their sons that one can not hunt for money and women at the same time. It is either one makes money and then start chasing women or the other way round.

2. A Man Gets More Respect Based On His Pocket - This point is not trying to encourage crime or ungodly acts in other to make wealth but to face reality. It is a known fact that both within the home front and the society at large, a man is respected the more according to how comfortable and financially free he becomes.

3. Women Can Make Or Ruin You - So many fathers even when they know the truth of the power of any woman, still shy away from enlightening their sons on the critical hidden powers a woman possesses. From the days of Adam, Samson, Solomon, Abacha and other notable men, we have seen how a man can either rise or fall through the power and influence of a woman. A man should therefore thread as softly as possible when dealing with a woman.

4. A Woman Can Smell A Successful Man From Miles Away - Women naturally have an hidden instinct of knowing a man who is successful or have the tendency of being successful in the future. So many women have stuck to a struggling and upcoming man against their parents wish of marrying an already made man. A woman will say things like “he has a bright future”, “he has potentials” or “he will be a great man in future”. Ladies who have uttered such words and stuck by their men have never gone wrong. Example is how Michelle Obama stuck with Barack through thick and thin.

5. A Woman Doesn’t Like A Weak Man - When fathers tell their sons never to give in to a woman’s pressure, they mostly advise their sons to be forceful on issues to prove he is the man of the house. When in reality, women prefer men who say less and do more, rather than the ones who keep talking but do less. The latter is the typical meaning of a weak man but fathers always advice to do such to prove he is the king of the house.

6. Women Appreciate Men With Fatherly Characters - Most men always miss out on this and as such never advise their sons to be a father figure to their wives. Women are best at doing this but every woman wants a man who sits her down to advice her, reason with her, give her constructive criticisms and above all, believe in her.

7. It Is Easier To Catch A Cheating Man Than Catch A Cheating Woman - Most men till date don’t know that it is far easier to get caught cheating as a man than catching a woman who cheats. A woman can make a man ‘father’ every single child she has but only her knows who the
biological father is, while a man can hardly keep it as a secret from his wife when he has a love child outside the matrimonial home.

I disagree with no 1

@frankycomputers

#1 is utter rubbish, this is what ignorant clueless uneducated people will say to feel better about their sorry lives. money and women are two different things that should never be mixed or associated.
here is a clue that sons MUST know: a lady that gets in the way of your money affairs (aka work) instead of helping you grow in your money affairs, should be dropped INSTANTLY!

#2 is another pile of garbage... yes, men in poor countries, like Nigeria (where most are living in poverty), DO indeed look up to rich men, but is that really the reason we should teach our kids to respect someone?! HELL NO!!!!!
here is a clue that sons MUST know: People should be respected because of their CHARACTER, ACTIONS, MORALS, INTEGRITY and MANNERS.

#3 you are ABSOLUTELY right about that, and therefore this is the reason we have to teach our sons to always respect the proper women out there, but to watch out for the demons out there (aka hoes, skanks, goldiggers etc)

#4 there is nothing wrong with success, and therefore our sons shouldnt care whether women can smell it or not. instead we must teach our sons how to recognise the demons out there (aka hoes, skanks, goldiggers etc) who will try to come and have a piece of what they did NOT help them to achieve.
here is a clue that sons MUST know: women who did NOT value you when you were down have NO place in your life when you finally make it.

#5 nobody (whether man or woman) wants a weak person in their lives PERIOD! but at the same time, there is nothing wrong with someone who has weaknesses. you just have to figure out a way to balance their weaknesses with your strength. also, no man should force their partner to do anything they are not willing to do, marriage is not slavery if you are not happy with the actions of this person, then find the right person for you to marry.
here is a clue that sons MUST know: better a person that is open with their weaknesses (so you guys are prepared and can work on it), instead of someone who pretends to be strong, and in reality is weak... but you will only discover it when the damage is done.

#6 have more faith in women, instead of making them look like lil' kids who need guidance in marriage/life. many women dont need to be lectured/advised because they simply are mature in their heads and know how to act right in life; many women dont need to be reasoned with because they have common sense; many women dont need to be criticised because they know how to act RIGHT in life/marriage... and last but not least, if you dont believe in your woman then you have no business being married to her.

#7 lol, does it really matter who cheat better in marriage?! cheating is cheating, whether you get caught or not. many men out there dont even care if they get caught because many women out there cant do shiit about it. when so many women out there sell themselves to the 1st rich donkey that comes their ways, no wonder they keep quiet about cheating.
btw if you raised a child since its birth to adulthood then you ARE indeed that child's father (whether biological or not) dont get it twisted!

The poster above me nailed it!!!!!!!!

I wished my oldman discussed such matters with me. It would have saved me precious time than learning through experience.

Although with such experiences of mine, I would elect to ground and arm my kids on values and principles and give them freedom to experience existence. No room for expo only room for shared ideas once they get into trouble.

@ OP, I understand your perspective. Atimes, I wonder if I signed a contract before coming on earth to experience all lessons it has to teach. I'm still open to learning more and more.

Number 2 is a big fat lie. Gone l are the days parents teach their kids to respect elders. Even kids are wise. If you don't have money they will just pass beside you and not even care about greeting you. Some mothers also disrespect their kids father in their presence eg stupid man, useless father etc. Some mothers even gossip about their husbands to their children and badmouthing him thereby making the kids disrespect their father

more so it's very easy for mothers to instigate their kids against their fathers when they don't have money. Or haven't you seen were a mother will be telling her son don't give your father money, he's a very stupid man. He will use the money in beer parlour or be carrying prostitutes around even when they know it's not true. Can anyone do that to a rich man? This is nigeria were our society is very peculiar o

MRBrownJ:
@frankycomputers

#1 is utter rubbish, this is what ignorant clueless uneducated people will say to feel better about their sorry lives. money and women are two different things that should never be mixed or associated.
here is a clue that sons MUST know: a lady that gets in the way of your money affairs (aka work) instead of helping you grow in your money affairs, should be dropped INSTANTLY!

#2 is another pile of garbage... yes, men in poor countries, like Nigeria (where most are living in poverty), DO indeed look up to rich men, but is that really the reason we should teach our kids to respect someone?! HELL NO!!!!!
here is a clue that sons MUST know: People should be respected because of their CHARACTER, ACTIONS, MORALS, INTEGRITY and MANNERS.

#3 you are ABSOLUTELY right about that, and therefore this is the reason we have to teach our sons to always respect the proper women out there, but to watch out for the demons out there (aka hoes, skanks, goldiggers etc)

#4 there is nothing wrong with success, and therefore our sons shouldnt care whether women can smell it or not. instead we must teach our sons how to recognise the demons out there (aka hoes, skanks, goldiggers etc) who will try to come and have a piece of what they did NOT help them to achieve.
here is a clue that sons MUST know: women who did NOT value you when you were down have NO place in your life when you finally make it.

#5 nobody (whether man or woman) wants a weak person in their lives PERIOD! but at the same time, there is nothing wrong with someone who has weaknesses. you just have to figure out a way to balance their weaknesses with your strength. also, no man should force their partner to do anything they are not willing to do, marriage is not slavery if you are not happy with the actions of this person, then find the right person for you to marry.
here is a clue that sons MUST know: better a person that is open with their weaknesses (so you guys are prepared and can work on it), instead of someone who pretends to be strong, and in reality is weak... but you will only discover it when the damage is done.

#6 have more faith in women, instead of making them look like lil' kids who need guidance in marriage/life. many women dont need to be lectured/advised because they simply are mature in their heads and know how to act right in life; many women dont need to be reasoned with because they have common sense; many women dont need to be criticised because they know how to act RIGHT in life/marriage... and last but not least, if you dont believe in your woman then you have no business being married to her.

#7 lol, does it really matter who cheat better in marriage?! cheating is cheating, whether you get caught or not. many men out there dont even care if they get caught because many women out there cant do shiit about it. when so many women out there sell themselves to the 1st rich donkey that comes their ways, no wonder they keep quiet about cheating.
btw if you raised a child since its birth to adulthood then you ARE indeed that child's father (whether biological or not) dont get it twisted!

Number 1too is also false. You cannot chase two things at the same time and not loose both. Meanwhile Mr Brown jay long time. Howve you been? Quite a while. You've been off nl for a long time hope nothing?

MRBrownJ:
@frankycomputers

#1 is utter rubbish, this is what ignorant clueless uneducated people will say to feel better about their sorry lives. money and women are two different things that should never be mixed or associated.
here is a clue that sons MUST know: a lady that gets in the way of your money affairs (aka work) instead of helping you grow in your money affairs, should be dropped INSTANTLY!

#2 is another pile of garbage... yes, men in poor countries, like Nigeria (where most are living in poverty), DO indeed look up to rich men, but is that really the reason we should teach our kids to respect someone?! HELL NO!!!!!
here is a clue that sons MUST know: People should be respected because of their CHARACTER, ACTIONS, MORALS, INTEGRITY and MANNERS.

#3 you are ABSOLUTELY right about that, and therefore this is the reason we have to teach our sons to always respect the proper women out there, but to watch out for the demons out there (aka hoes, skanks, goldiggers etc)

#4 there is nothing wrong with success, and therefore our sons shouldnt care whether women can smell it or not. instead we must teach our sons how to recognise the demons out there (aka hoes, skanks, goldiggers etc) who will try to come and have a piece of what they did NOT help them to achieve.
here is a clue that sons MUST know: women who did NOT value you when you were down have NO place in your life when you finally make it.

#5 nobody (whether man or woman) wants a weak person in their lives PERIOD! but at the same time, there is nothing wrong with someone who has weaknesses. you just have to figure out a way to balance their weaknesses with your strength. also, no man should force their partner to do anything they are not willing to do, marriage is not slavery if you are not happy with the actions of this person, then find the right person for you to marry.
here is a clue that sons MUST know: better a person that is open with their weaknesses (so you guys are prepared and can work on it), instead of someone who pretends to be strong, and in reality is weak... but you will only discover it when the damage is done.

#6 have more faith in women, instead of making them look like lil' kids who need guidance in marriage/life. many women dont need to be lectured/advised because they simply are mature in their heads and know how to act right in life; many women dont need to be reasoned with because they have common sense; many women dont need to be criticised because they know how to act RIGHT in life/marriage... and last but not least, if you dont believe in your woman then you have no business being married to her.

#7 lol, does it really matter who cheat better in marriage?! cheating is cheating, whether you get caught or not. many men out there dont even care if they get caught because many women out there cant do shiit about it. when so many women out there sell themselves to the 1st rich donkey that comes their ways, no wonder they keep quiet about cheating.
btw if you raised a child since its birth to adulthood then you ARE indeed that child's father (whether biological or not) dont get it twisted!

abegii 2 d philosopherz above me^^^
yuh guyz talk tew much ssssh!
d guy don talk tru
abeg leave matta!

Op, yuh r right jare

write a fact for people to see not condemning my quote ,its more mature to had to it than to condem it

dangotesmummy:
Number 2 is a big fat lie. Gone l are the days parents teach their kids to respect elders. Even kids are wise. If you don't have money they will just pass beside you and not even care about greeting you. Some mothers also disrespect their kids father in their presence eg stupid man, useless father etc. Some mothers even gossip about their husbands to their children and badmouthing him thereby making the kids disrespect their father

more so it's very easy for mothers to instigate their kids against their fathers when they don't have money. Or haven't you seen were a mother will be telling her son don't give your father money, he's a very stupid man. He will use the money in beer parlour or be carrying prostitutes around even when they know it's not true. Can anyone do that to a rich man? This is nigeria were our society is very peculiar o

again, you cannot force a woman to respect you, and if she doesnt, you can only blame yourself for that. as for your sons, by the time they start making their own money, they will have a BRAIN to evaluate your actions, without the need of their mothers telling them stories about you.
btw: if a man (or his child's mother) always need to borrow money from their adult children then something is seriously wrong in what these guys are doing in life.

dangotesmummy:
Number 1too is also false. You cannot chase two things at the same time and not loose both. Meanwhile Mr Brown jay long time. Howve you been? Quite a while. You've been off nl for a long time hope nothing?

bro, what you wrote above makes no sense. during working hours, you do whatever hustle you gotta do in life, and after these hours, you relax and enjoy life with your chosen woman. it's called getting your priorities RIGHT, in two separate areas of your life that dont have anything in common. you dont date 24hrs a day, you date before or after work. so why should dating and life hustles be a problem?

- some people do BS jobs for years in order to bounce into a better position in life, thats a hustle.
- some people have 2 or 3 jobs in order to be able to make ends meet, thats a hustle.
- some people work hard and save money for years in order to buy their dream home etc, thats a hustle.
- some people will spend their energy on BS "get rich quick" schemes, and fail miserably, thats a hustle.
- some people will cheat, con, defraud, rob, kill people for money, thats a hustle.

if these above men dont have a good woman to go to after their daily grind then these men better check their priorities in life. sadly, we have too many clueless youngsters today who are foolishly told to "simply" make money and then they will have women mysteriously fall on their lap, lol!

you are talking like all the clueless people that are looking for these "get rich quick" BS scheme, in order to flaunt some cash and get golddiggers hunt you down... but the reality of life is that hustle is a JOB and you hustle all your life, you never stop, whether you are the local mechanic or Dangote. the day you make a million $$, then you now aim to make two million $$; the day you have your own company then you will hustle/work hard to make it grow/expand into a bigger company; if you are a salesman today, then you will hustle and work hard in order to be promoted as the manager, and maybe the CEO someday.

btw yeah am good, been on and off from NL since i lost my main ID.

i never said a day after work with your wife is bad young men i said given attention to too things at a time is bad,,,,

Lol Mr Brown Jay you can like to deceive yourself sha

If a man doesn't have money if he likes let him know book pass prof wole soyinka or speak grammar pass prof Patrick obiagbon a regular nigerian woman will not respect you talk less of send you. It's in civilized societies that intellect is respected and celebrated . Here it is about how fat your pocket is

MRBrownJ:


again, you cannot force a woman to respect you, and if she doesnt, you can only blame yourself for that. as for your sons, by the time they start making their own money, they will have a BRAIN to evaluate your actions, without the need of their mothers telling them stories about you.
btw: if a man (or his child's mother) always need to borrow money from their adult children then something is seriously wrong in what these guys are doing in life.



bro, what you wrote above makes no sense. during working hours, you do whatever hustle you gotta do in life, and after these hours, you relax and enjoy life with your chosen woman. it's called getting your priorities RIGHT, in two separate areas of your life that dont have anything in common. you dont date 24hrs a day, you date before or after work. so why should dating and life hustles be a problem?

- some people do BS jobs for years in order to bounce into a better position in life, thats a hustle.
- some people have 2 or 3 jobs in order to be able to make ends meet, thats a hustle.
- some people work hard and save money for years in order to buy their dream home etc, thats a hustle.
- some people will spend their energy on BS "get rich quick" schemes, and fail miserably, thats a hustle.
- some people will cheat, con, defraud, rob, kill people for money, thats a hustle.

if these above men dont have a good woman to go to after their daily grind then these men better check their priorities in life. sadly, we have too many clueless youngsters today who are foolishly told to "simply" make money and then they will have women mysteriously fall on their lap, lol!

you are talking like all the clueless people that are looking for these "get rich quick" BS scheme, in order to flaunt some cash and get golddiggers hunt you down... but the reality of life is that hustle is a JOB and you hustle all your life, you never stop, whether you are the local mechanic or Dangote. the day you make a million $$, then you now aim to make two million $$; the day you have your own company then you will hustle/work hard to make it grow/expand into a bigger company; if you are a salesman today, then you will hustle and work hard in order to be promoted as the manager, and maybe the CEO someday.

btw yeah am good, been on and off from NL since i lost my main ID.

Then as for the sons Mr Brown jay you don't know many nigerian mothers have strong influence over their sons and some of them know how to bad mouth their husbands so that their adults sons will be looking at them in a bad light based on what their mother has said. It's only few sons that can be objective but the kain omo mummy wey full here ehen. Awon my mummy said kind of men

when people write i just laugh@brown specify your location let me give u a date on friday come with your woman tell her how rude i am how stupid i am and let her see my doing this Friday and see what she will call me after giving you both a ride home in my venza.......lets try it is all about fun.....

@brown....u try..but please be realistic.... One...you can chase two things at a time..but priority is the key or else you will losee both..if you don't have money yet..do not chase women..cos if eventually u get that woman and you don't make money in tyme...she will leave you for a man that has it..its not her fault...women like success!!! Two........unfotunately our morals in this part of the world has been jettison..peoplenow respect money and power over intergrity and loyalty,that's a fact...I agree with oda points though..nice one

dangotesmummy:
Lol Mr Brown Jay you can like to deceive yourself sha

If a man doesn't have money if he likes let him know book pass prof wole soyinka or speak grammar pass prof Patrick obiagbon a regular nigerian woman will not respect you talk less of send you. It's in civilized societies that intellect is respected and celebrated . Here it is about how fat your pocket is

yes, you are right that many Nigerian women would value a man via his wealth, but thats because these lazy women are looking for a free ride, and sadly, many clueless men are falling for this stoopid act. men are to be blamed for these women's foolish actions!

here is a simple clue for you: if your woman is with you because of your money then A) that union is based on how much money you have (aka ashewo and her customer), and not the type of man you are; B) just like pay as you go, the day your money finishes, is the day you will realise that your were alone all along (what kind of BS stressful union is this?); and most importantly C) if money is what attracted this ashewo/goldigger to your life, then i am sorry to say that you are just a "temporary" measure until she can find a man with more money than you. what a miserable life to live!!!!

now, i dont know about you, but i would rather settle for something REAL, with someone who truly cares for me as a person (whether rich or poor), instead of some phoney r/ship based on money, with someone who probably dont give a fukc about who you are as a person, and is only interested in what she can get from you.

you should value a woman by the character she possess (and nothing else), but if 9ja men see this goldigging/ashewoism BS as something to value in a woman, then we are certainly doomed... but hey, to each their own!

Lol many relationships in nigeria is more of a trade by barter, do me I do you or mutual benefit thing.you spend money on the girl, she becomes more like a sex machine or trophy wife aka talk when I say you should talk and keep quiet when I say you should. Nothing like love. Kilonjebe.its a matter of convenience or paying for the services that's why you see some nigerian women running after a rich man even if he has 50 wives They don't care at least they'll be guaranteed a free house car and monthly salary. All they need to do is spread their legs anytime oga comes and when money goes off they go to the highest bidder and they carry another mans child to another man's house. At the end of the day they have kids for four different men in a bid to live a life they're not ready to work for. Besides what work will you do being a rich man's 10th wife. Just eat sleep watch keeping up with the kardashians and go to party.


So blame the men for encouraging lazy women and luring them with car and money and if you talk you will be labelled enemy of progress or bad belle who doesn't want her to give testimony in church for how the Lord has blessed her with a wonderful husband who provides all her needs

MRBrownJ:


yes, you are right that many Nigerian women would value a man via his wealth, but thats because these lazy women are looking for a free ride, and sadly, many clueless men are falling for this stoopid act. men are to be blamed for these women's foolish actions!

here is a simple clue for you: if your woman is with you because of your money then A) that union is based on how much money you have (aka ashewo and her customer), and not the type of man you are; B) just like pay as you go, the day your money finishes, is the day you will realise that your were alone all along (what kind of BS stressful union is this?); and most importantly C) if money is what attracted this ashewo/goldigger to your life, then i am sorry to say that you are just a "temporary" measure until she can find a man with more money than you. what a miserable life to live!!!!

now, i dont know about you, but i would rather settle for something REAL, with someone who truly cares for me as a person (whether rich or poor), instead of some phoney r/ship based on money, with someone who probably dont give a fukc about who you are as a person, and is only interested in what she can get from you.

you should value a woman by the character she possess (and nothing else), but if 9ja men see this goldigging/ashewoism BS as something to value in a woman, then we are certainly doomed... but hey, to each their own!

dangotesmummy:
Lol many relationships in nigeria is more of a trade by barter, do me I do you or mutual benefit thing.you spend money on the girl, she becomes more like a sex machine or trophy wife aka talk when I say you should talk and keep quiet when I say you should. Nothing like love. Kilonjebe.its a matter of convenience or paying for the services that's why you see some nigerian women running after a rich man even if he has 50 wives They don't care at least they'll be guaranteed a free house car and monthly salary. All they need to do is spread their legs anytime oga comes and when money goes off they go to the highest bidder and they carry another mans child to another man's house. At the end of the day they have kids for four different men in a bid to live a life they're not ready to work for. Besides what work will you do being a rich man's 10th wife. Just eat sleep watch keeping up with the kardashians and go to party.

bro, you are mixing the issue here... it doesnt matter how many women a rich man wants to have OR what they want to do if/when they become rich, the issue here is when young men believe (or are raised to believe) that they MUST have money before they can seek for a partner. do you see where i am getting at?! yes, a rich man will attract a lot of goldigger, but at the end of the day, both rich and poor men have equal chance to meet a GOOD woman.

So blame the men for encouraging lazy women and luring them with car and money and if you talk you will be labelled enemy of progress or bad belle who doesn't want her to give testimony in church for how the Lord has blessed her with a wonderful husband who provides all her needs

you are almost making it sound like its bad to be successful, lol!!! remember, what i am saying is that the value of a man lies in his character/morals/integrity etc, not his wallet, no matter how some women would have you to think otherwise.

babyfaceafrica:
@brown....u try..but please be realistic.... One...you can chase two things at a time..but priority is the key or else you will losee both..if you don't have money yet..do not chase women..cos if eventually u get that woman and you don't make money in tyme...she will leave you for a man that has it..its not her fault...women like success!!! Two........unfotunately our morals in this part of the world has been jettison..peoplenow respect money and power over intergrity and loyalty,that's a fact...I agree with oda points though..nice one

yes, priority is essential in life, thats why we spend up till 8 hrs per day at works (some even more) whie we only spend an hour or two per day (at best) dating. there is time in the day for hustling, and time also for women, no biggie! its when men want to impress women with massive BS that there is a problem in mixing the two. if you meet a good woman and she leaves you because you have no money then LET HER GO and count your blessings, because she is a liability!

we have to get our priorities in LIFE back, no matter how these lazy women would have you believe otherwise. GOOD MORALS/INTEGRITY etc is what really matters in marriage, and the reason so many fail is because they focussed on money!!!!

Nobody should do any business with this guy(frankycomputer) he is a fraudster and has been arrested by the police. i just received a call frm the police with his number asking if i was duped also. be warn