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Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by sonnie10: 1:58pm On Aug 12, 2015
Take heart, and God would continue to give you the courage to bear the loss. One thing I would advise people in Nigeria is to learn CPR . That is one skill I have not regretted acquiring. Just about 6 hours of training and you are certified. In most emergency situations, time is of essence, every second counts. Before getting medical help from the professionals, CPR is a life saver especially in Cardio cases. The difference between Nigeria and the western countries is that we are never prepared for eventualities. Again learn CPR and if you can, have an AED and a First Aid box at home and know how to use them. God bless you.
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by OG1BABY(f): 2:00pm On Aug 12, 2015
I understand your feeling brother, I was once there. All is well. RIP to the dead sad sad
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by misspicy(f): 2:01pm On Aug 12, 2015
thecreativeguy:

Really? They died on the same date? My mum died in her late fifties, yours?
Not the same date buh almost the same pattern of death and same lifesyle and testimony from people,all those 6 things you listed sounded like you were talking about her
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by NgwaManNaija4LF(m): 2:06pm On Aug 12, 2015
thecreativeguy:
There are two dates in every year which i don't use to forget. The first is April 23 (my birthday); while the second is December 23 (Christmas day). But this year, another date has being joined with these two dates which I can't forget every year. The new date is June 10. It was the day i lost my mother. Though i don't like remembering what happened on that day, i will try telling you bits about it.

It was a wednesday. She woke up early before many others, like many other days, and after preparing herself, went to her shop for the day's business (her shop is beside our house). That morning, she talked to people, washed her clothes, and attending to customers. In fact, when she finished washing her clothes, she was happy because the sun shone that day (the previous days were rainy).

Well, I was just recovering from malaria. I was inside and she called me. I answered her by coming to the balcony, while she was downstairs. She ask me to come and help her call those that will supply water for her tank, and I told her am coming. Before going to meet her, I decided to relax a bit.

Few minutes later, when I went downstairs to her shop, I saw her siting on the chair in her shop, in a posture that made me feel instantly that something is wrong somewhere. I was relutant going in at first, because I was feeling 'What if it's what i'm thinking? But soon, a young girl want to buy something and i use that medium to go in to where she is, telling her 'Mummy, they want to buy something.' But she's gone (though not totally gone then). But when we get her to the hospital, she's gone.

It's a painful incident. But there are lessons we all can learn from her death.

1. The Distance Between Life And Death Is Just A Step Away: You wouldn't know the real meaning of this if you haven't experienced it. Someone you talked to just few minutes ago, and in the next minute, the person is gone.

2. People Will Talk About You When You're Gone: My mum's death was a big loss to not only we her immediate family, but everyone that knows her. Why? Because of her good deeds. She's known by some as 'Iya Alaanu' (a mother who pity and help). She's a good woman. There are many people she had helped and still planned to help. When she died, everyone (ibos, yorubas) keep lamenting how good a woman she was.

What would be said about you after you are no more is determined by how you live your life today. If you want people to talk good about you when you're gone (in a way that will make life easier for your children you're leaving behind), do good always.

3. When Making Plans, Think Death: My mum's old mother died this year (during the elections) and the final burial ceremony is being scheduled to hold in early Septemeber. She's already making preparations for it (buying shoes and other things). But lo, she didn't even live to withness the final burial ceremony of her mother!! What a world!

Thus, in every plan you make, always think about death. And if you make plans and you live to execute it, thank God for it please.

4. Don't Hide Things From Your Family, You Don't Know When You'll Die: My mother rarely hid things from we her children. Infact, few days before she died, she do tell us about the types of dreams she do have (i wished i've taken them much serious) When my mother died, before many consolers and outsiders came, myself and my sister had cleared her money with some important documents of she have from where she keeps them.

In anything you do, let your family know about it- you don't know when you will die.

5. You Will Die, But Your Legacy Lives On: My mother trained me and my siblings using what i will call a 'classic approach'. There are certain things i see others do to their parents, and i wonder if i can dare try that with my mum. My mum trained us in a 'no-nonsence' way, making me and my siblings to be outstanding (though not perfect).

Now that she's gone, her legacy lives on. You know, even now, when doing something, i do think about her opinion (like, 'Will she like this if she's around?)

Thus, everyone of us should strive to live lifestyles of good legacies so that when we are gone, our good legacies will live on. Parents should teach their children well; in a way that, when you are gone, your legacies will leave on.

6. Life Is Vanity: My mum is working on her own house project- she couldn't complete it. Many sees her as a 'big woman'; but she take none of her money with her. She had lots of clothes, shoes, bags (you trust women), but they were distributed. In fact, the one she put on the day she died was burnt with fire- she takes none along!

Life is vanity. There is nothing we bring to this world that we will take along while leaving. Don't make wealth and success a do-or-die affair. Don't look for money in wrong ways. Women, don't sell your body for money. Guys, don't do wrong fradulent things to get money. They are all vanities!!!!

Ha. Mummy, so you've left your boy alone. You really suffered for your children, but didn't wait to eat your labours. I want to make you proud. I have lots of plans for you. But if you are seeing me wherever you are now, by God's Help, i promise to make you proud. Ha. Life is not just fair. Ha. Good night ma.

www.creativeguyhub.com/2015/08/6-things-you-can-learn-from-my-mums.html?m=1

Be strong man, I can feel your pain. It is well.
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by sead(f): 2:06pm On Aug 12, 2015
I buried my own dis year January...she was fifty - four...she had stroke for two years...it didnt just paralysed her body, it also seized her voice..what hurt the most is she couldn't talk to me for two years...@Op, atleast u hav ur siblings unlike me who dont hav any buh I know wherever she is she is happy that I cud be able to pick up my life and continue althou its not easy

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Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by Spydamannn(m): 2:08pm On Aug 12, 2015
Life goes On,Take Heart
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by alabijohn: 2:09pm On Aug 12, 2015
Sorry bro. May God comfort you and others she left behind.
A great lessons from your write-up for those who care.
God bless
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by Nobody: 2:12pm On Aug 12, 2015
@thecreativeguy

It is good to see that the death of a loved one taught you so many things. And I hope that people will learn from your experience. I never knew your mum but she must have done something right with you. Her legacy lives on, indeed.

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Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by MrsAnyanwu(f): 2:14pm On Aug 12, 2015
Rip mum nd to dose dat hv departed ,I cried while reading this ....OP pls take heart, such is life plsss

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Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by jeski(m): 2:21pm On Aug 12, 2015
hemorrhagic cerebrovascular accident is a sudden loss of neurological function as a result of ruptured vessels within the brain, it's a common cause of sudden death especially in elderly people with hypertension ( of which many remains undiagnosed till complication sets in) . it occurs while patient is active doing normal activity .
how can we prevent this
* regular medical check up , esp baseline blood pressure and blood sugar monitoring most especially for pple older than 45yrs
* compliance to medications with a physician control and monitoring
* healthy lifestyle. .....,amount others
hypertension and diabetis are killer diseases , get tested , get treated
@dr jeski

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Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by Dexema(m): 2:25pm On Aug 12, 2015
May she find eternal rest. Amen
Its quite funny that I havent seen any1 castigate the OP or his late mom for being from the "South West" or from "redmud land"...this says a lot about us being humans and having God given lives first before we become part of a tribe or region. The good news is that not only death unifies us life also does,so lets live,love &touch lives while we can because thats what will matter when we are gone.

Love Nairaland
Love Naija

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Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by nwadiuko1(m): 2:42pm On Aug 12, 2015
Op.....I. Definitely know how u feel cos av lost some loved ones......though not any of my parents.....

The latest. Is kc a childhood friend who was just like a biological brother, 2 weeks back on a sunday nigga told me he needed money to take care of one girl that got pregnant for him
He asked for 10k, I told him I wouldn't allow him use my money for abortion......but when he persuaded I said ok on tuesday I l give him......only to reach their crib on tuesday to see his sisters dreary eyed.......nigga was electrocuted on monday night......I. Still haven't found the name to give to the way I felt that day......wetin kc dy find enter control switch?


One silly part is I don't knw the girl that got pregnant for him......and he was the only son!
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by ewizard1: 2:43pm On Aug 12, 2015
Sorry for your loss bro.
May she R.I.P.P
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by corektchic: 2:44pm On Aug 12, 2015
We share a very similar story dear. I'll add that while you are alive do all u can to train your children by teaching them good morals and d ability to b independent. they are your primary responsibility. They are the only people whose existence was as a result of your decision. if you leave them and face others, nobody will take care of them o! If not for d wisdom GOD gave to my mum to make sure we had d best quality of training, we would hv been suffering. people will only say things n sing her praises but very few will reciprocate to d children
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by Nobody: 2:51pm On Aug 12, 2015
I gat ur lessons vividly but the one i took more seriously is d one u didn't mention.. "She called to help her get a water tanker but u decided to relax small"

Always be available when needed cos there is a chance u may get to change something by God's grace

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Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by whoisuche: 3:02pm On Aug 12, 2015
thecreativeguy:
There are two dates in every year which i don't use to forget. The first is April 23 (my birthday); while the second is December 23 (Christmas day). But this year, another date has being joined with these two dates which I can't forget every year. The new date is June 10. It was the day i lost my mother. Though i don't like remembering what happened on that day, i will try telling you bits about it.

It was a wednesday. She woke up early before many others, like many other days, and after preparing herself, went to her shop for the day's business (her shop is beside our house). That morning, she talked to people, washed her clothes, and attending to customers. In fact, when she finished washing her clothes, she was happy because the sun shone that day (the previous days were rainy).

Well, I was just recovering from malaria. I was inside and she called me. I answered her by coming to the balcony, while she was downstairs. She ask me to come and help her call those that will supply water for her tank, and I told her am coming. Before going to meet her, I decided to relax a bit.

Few minutes later, when I went downstairs to her shop, I saw her siting on the chair in her shop, in a posture that made me feel instantly that something is wrong somewhere. I was relutant going in at first, because I was feeling 'What if it's what i'm thinking? But soon, a young girl want to buy something and i use that medium to go in to where she is, telling her 'Mummy, they want to buy something.' But she's gone (though not totally gone then). But when we get her to the hospital, she's gone.

It's a painful incident. But there are lessons we all can learn from her death.

1. The Distance Between Life And Death Is Just A Step Away: You wouldn't know the real meaning of this if you haven't experienced it. Someone you talked to just few minutes ago, and in the next minute, the person is gone.

2. People Will Talk About You When You're Gone: My mum's death was a big loss to not only we her immediate family, but everyone that knows her. Why? Because of her good deeds. She's known by some as 'Iya Alaanu' (a mother who pity and help). She's a good woman. There are many people she had helped and still planned to help. When she died, everyone (ibos, yorubas) keep lamenting how good a woman she was.

What would be said about you after you are no more is determined by how you live your life today. If you want people to talk good about you when you're gone (in a way that will make life easier for your children you're leaving behind), do good always.

3. When Making Plans, Think Death: My mum's old mother died this year (during the elections) and the final burial ceremony is being scheduled to hold in early Septemeber. She's already making preparations for it (buying shoes and other things). But lo, she didn't even live to withness the final burial ceremony of her mother!! What a world!

Thus, in every plan you make, always think about death. And if you make plans and you live to execute it, thank God for it please.

4. Don't Hide Things From Your Family, You Don't Know When You'll Die: My mother rarely hid things from we her children. Infact, few days before she died, she do tell us about the types of dreams she do have (i wished i've taken them much serious) When my mother died, before many consolers and outsiders came, myself and my sister had cleared her money with some important documents of she have from where she keeps them.

In anything you do, let your family know about it- you don't know when you will die.

5. You Will Die, But Your Legacy Lives On: My mother trained me and my siblings using what i will call a 'classic approach'. There are certain things i see others do to their parents, and i wonder if i can dare try that with my mum. My mum trained us in a 'no-nonsence' way, making me and my siblings to be outstanding (though not perfect).

Now that she's gone, her legacy lives on. You know, even now, when doing something, i do think about her opinion (like, 'Will she like this if she's around?)

Thus, everyone of us should strive to live lifestyles of good legacies so that when we are gone, our good legacies will live on. Parents should teach their children well; in a way that, when you are gone, your legacies will leave on.

6. Life Is Vanity: My mum is working on her own house project- she couldn't complete it. Many sees her as a 'big woman'; but she take none of her money with her. She had lots of clothes, shoes, bags (you trust women), but they were distributed. In fact, the one she put on the day she died was burnt with fire- she takes none along!

Life is vanity. There is nothing we bring to this world that we will take along while leaving. Don't make wealth and success a do-or-die affair. Don't look for money in wrong ways. Women, don't sell your body for money. Guys, don't do wrong fradulent things to get money. They are all vanities!!!!

Ha. Mummy, so you've left your boy alone. You really suffered for your children, but didn't wait to eat your labours. I want to make you proud. I have lots of plans for you. But if you are seeing me wherever you are now, by God's Help, i promise to make you proud. Ha. Life is not just fair. Ha. Good night ma.

www.creativeguyhub.com/2015/08/6-things-you-can-learn-from-my-mums.html?m=1

Take heart and be strong.
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by bigtt76(f): 3:02pm On Aug 12, 2015
Sad. May Her Gentle Soul Rest in Peace. Amen. Be consoled.
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by chris4gold(m): 3:06pm On Aug 12, 2015
Really sad, i experienced similar thing this month too, but to an area sister. We talked for over 7minutes on phone on the first of Aug asking where she is going to celebrate her birth day in Aug 4 with her husband, caused she wedded last year Sept. Bisola Janet died on that same day she came into this world d 4th of Aug. Still can't believe she has gone!

Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by Setaje(f): 3:12pm On Aug 12, 2015
cry. God forgive me. God forgive me. God forgive me!

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Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by cecegorgeous(f): 3:13pm On Aug 12, 2015
I undastand very well wot it means to loss a moda.my moda died in my hands 2013 in my final yr it wasn't easy den.bt I still thank God
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by Nobody: 3:15pm On Aug 12, 2015
Sorry Bro
This was the same Way I lost my Child hood friend just 4days Back .#Rest in Peace Chidera Ayanwu.
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by pussygotlips: 3:17pm On Aug 12, 2015
Fvck the universe and what it thinks of me, I'm only trynna please my creator.
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by carus001: 3:19pm On Aug 12, 2015
MrCork:



...I ask if she lightskin & yor reply was Nigeria....Bro is simple English grama difficult to under stand ther in Nigeria? (no ofeinse) undecided
mr cock u are a bastard watin dey do u you dey do mumu dem dey correct u u dey Bleep up u dey crase mak I no catch u 4 edo I go kill u
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by lampardizik(m): 3:29pm On Aug 12, 2015
Sorry but christmas day is Dec 25

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Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by Nobody: 3:37pm On Aug 12, 2015
Gwan2:
[b]Losing a Mother "untimely" is one of the worst experience in life......
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Am the only son of my mother among three children...meaning not only am i her means of stamping authority in the family but also her next of kin.......The affinity between me and my Mum was like the relationship between the tongue and saliva.
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She drove her car out of the house on this fateful day in the month of May and headed to work, around 2pm, me and my two sisters were sitted in da parlour discussing, suddenly a call came in from my dad, ordering us to rush to a certain hospital....on arrival, we met my mum in d emergency ward gasping for breath with a drip hanging on her.....Her colleague said my mum was driving her and suddenly pulled over and laid her head on the car's steering without making a move afterwards....It was diagnose by the Doc as a partial stroke that affected her speech
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After some medical abracadabra and Gods grace she survived and was brought back home after a month in the hospital, meanwhile we were optimistic that one day she could talk and move around when on this fateful day 19th June 2011, after i escorted a friend that came visiting....On my way back i heard a shout from my sisters......Rush back home only to see mums lifeless body with her tongue out sitted on the parlor couch......She was just communicating with her sisters (She culd hear but culdnt speak) before she gave up.
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My lessons is derived from this premise...........A strong pastor asked my sister to come along with mum during the church wednesday service for prayers but my sister was so occupied....intending to make it to the pastor on Sunday........Unfortunately mum gave up the ghost at 11pm on saturday'....(To God be the glory anyway)
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Delay can sometime be dangerous or atimes deadly.....................RIP Mum.[/b]
take heart fella.

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Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by Nobody: 3:41pm On Aug 12, 2015
MrCork:



...is she lightskin?(no oofeinsece) angry
shocked u need sense! angry grin
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by mekybabe1: 3:54pm On Aug 12, 2015
My dear, pls take heart. Holy spirit that consoled me n my siblings when we lost our mum, will do same for you.
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by gmacnoms(m): 3:55pm On Aug 12, 2015
I couldn't help but cry, ND it with tears i'm writing dis. my dad died lonely cos I was in skuul ( final year uniben) ..... my parents seperate due to my dad's carelesness. and mum has a very carin husband who has bin more dan a father to me and my sister.... my dad died lonely, TB killed him. I can't stop cryin now...... I js wished I did so many things and did so many sacrifices. I love my dad, but he ddnt live d life he planned. and dts d main reason i'm tryin my best to b devoted to God, so dat d devourer won't cum near my family anymore. his last words to me I remember was *Pls make sure you are very close to God

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Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by Codyt(m): 4:14pm On Aug 12, 2015
Afraid to lose mine... Good lord.. Please protect our mothers that are still breathing.


My heart goes to you Bro. Am sorry for your loss.
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by Haywhymido(m): 4:19pm On Aug 12, 2015
MrCork:



...is she lightskin?(no oofeinsece) angry
u quote d op to say dis nonsense Seek help bro
Re: 6 Things You Can Learn From My Mum's Death. by odinese(m): 4:19pm On Aug 12, 2015
Khutie:
take heart bruh... After d death of my dad, I khan't stop wondering if wah Bracket xaid in deir song z really true... "why e be xay d gud dey die and for d bad na dem dey survive" . Buh wah I believe in dis life z dah even tho we re short of glory of God due to our sinful nature, never will our God look beyond d gud deeds of our souls... My dad always have lyk 10 to 15 visitors every Sunday mawning buh after his funeral, I khan hardly remember any of d faces dah visited (dem don run four forty), we re nw on our own for nearly 10years and stl surviving due to d love of most high God.

I pray God to give yhur d fortitude to bear d lost and strengthen yhur sorrowful heart. Also have in yhur heart dah as long as dere z life, hope will always been our garment of comfort.
Bro we are dsame. my dad also past away 10years ago, and since then nobody have asked us how things how school how life... But I know that God is with our family for keeping my mum and we the children strong and hardworking till today...just thanking God for life, as Wizkid said!.
#peacebewithyou.

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