I want to share my experience with p*rn for two reasons: first, to show that it has long term effects on the partners of those addicted and second, to show hope.

My husband and I have been married 3 years and we
have an 18-month-old son. We have a steady income and a good home. Everything appears normal from the outside looking in. However, we’re going through what I would deem as the hardest trial of our relationship, and it is a direct result of p*rnography use.

My husband, (we’ll call him Dave) grew up in an
environment where no one checked his internet use or talked to him about p*rnography. It was a fairly angry home and the kids were left to take care of themselves for the majority of the day. Dave discovered p*rn through a friend when he was 10 and his friend had found it through his dad’s magazines. It sparked Dave’s curiosity—which is normal—but no one was there to warn him about the difference between healthy $exuality and the lies of p*rnography. He got drawn into p*rn for the next 7 years, obviously graduating into more hardcore p*rn as time wore on. He had $exual relationships with girls in high school, but in his words, wasn’t really that interested in the girls themselves. He and his friends also mistreated girls during school, in $exually disrespectful ways. He had a lot of anger during that time, which I attribute a good portion of to the fact he was addicted to p*rn.

Fast forward several years to when I first met my
husband. He was very active in our church, he was
academically successful, financially smart, and very
charismatic and motivated. I never would have guessed that he had been addicted to p*rnography. We eventually got married and things seemed so good for the first six months of our marriage. But it wasn’t long until I started sensing a difference in him. He was still very good to me, but he didn’t seem as into me. We worked hard on our relationship and adjusting to living together and I went back to feeling mostly normal. The only thing that seemed weird to me was that he didn’t want to have $ex with me at least 70% of the time it was brought up. I felt so rejected every time, but told myself maybe I was just too $exual or forceful about it.

Time went on, and we had lots of fun together. We found out we were pregnant after our first anniversary and I was so excited! Maybe this would change how he saw me —I would be the strong, beautiful woman who gave him a child. About 2 months after our son was born, I had a feeling I needed to look through my husband’s phone.

Before we were married we had agreed to give each
other all our pa$$words, so that there could be no
secrecy about the things we viewed or did online. I
honestly don’t know what I was expecting to see. But I definitely wasn’t prepared for what I found.

The article he had last read on his browser was, “I’m not attracted to my wife anymore.”

I felt sick. When he came home, I confronted him about it. He blew it off saying that he just sort of felt like that at first when our son was born, but now he felt normal again. I let it go, and tried to forget it, but there would be times that he seemed dead behind the eyes. Like he was just going through the motions in our marriage.

I had been so confident in myself when we started dating four years earlier. I knew myself, I knew what I wanted in life, and I felt beautiful, intelligent, and talented. That has left over the past three years. With each rejection and period of disconnect between us, with each article I find stating that my husband just didn’t think I am beautiful or $exy anymore, I feel I am not good enough. I started
becoming obsessed with making myself as physically
“perfect” as I possibly could. I spent hours trying to make my skin look glowing and air brushed and started eating under 1,000 calories a day in attempt to lose my ‘mom pooch’ from having our son. I seriously considered trying to pay for a brea$t augmentation because all of the hot women have much larger breasts than I do. I tanned, did facials, kept my nails, eyebrows, body hair, and makeup
perfect. But I never felt like it made any real difference. In fact, most of the time Dave didn’t even notice.

This year, we have finally started going to a counselor to try and help him. This year he finally told me that he hasn’t felt attracted to me since about 6 months into our marriage, and that he still loves me, he just didn’t find me attractive. As we’ve been to counseling sessions, I’ve been able to understand more that this has absolutely nothing to do with me, and everything to do with the unrealistic expectations that p*rnography created for Dave so long ago.

Today, my husband hasn’t actively viewed p*rn for nine years and yet it’s still a third party in our marriage. p*rn has serious long-term effects and they can affect everyone who comes in contact with the addict. My husband developed a certain level of OCD where he feels like he has to be perfect spiritually to make up for the time spent viewing p*rn. He doesn’t enjoy any down time because his mind still wanders to inappropriate thoughts out of habit so he stays constantly busy. He has missed milestones with our son because of that. Our marriage has been strained because of that. p*rnography’s effects are serious.

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interesting

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Quite pathetic... I feel for you.

masturbation and porn always do more harm than good. he masturbates that's why he sees his wife as being useless in that area.

many men (and women) use p0rn to fullfil the void within them. they are sexually empty and desire things that their partner cannot (or dont want to) provide, due to social/religious beliefs etc. so many men (and women) are into sexual practices that they cant openly practice with their partner, and therefore they use the internet to get some sort of satisfaction. sometimes a simple talk can make all the difference but many people out there are simply too stuck to remotely satisfy their partner... or too shy to let them know what turns them on. a man (or woman) who has an healthy satisfying sex life wouldnt need the internet to get their groove on.

Have considered giving him a head ?

After a good head, u can now lead his d*ck straight down to ur porny, women you really need to be creative with sex.

If ur hubby so love IndecentStar then act like one with him.

trapQ:
masturbation and porn always do more harm than good. he masturbates that's why he sees his wife as being useless in that area.

it all depends on why the person watches p0rn... if the guy/girl is into sad0mas0/bestiality/kinky stuff etc while their partner aint and dont want to hear about it, then i would understand why a person would be sexually lacking/unsatisfied and watch p0rn to get off.

HerexG:
Have considered giving him a head ?
After a good head, u can now lead his d*ck straight down to ur porny, women you really need to be creative with sex.
If ur hubby so love IndecentStar then act like one with him.

head is a just a preliminary to get the "engine running" or to complete the job... but what is in that person's mind (when he is about to explode) is what is important. many men have to close their eyes and fantasise about other things that turn them on before they can explode.
a lady could be the best lay in the world and yet still not satisfy a man who desires other men. so no matter how creative a woman will be, she can never satisfy such man. sadly the African society is so fake that many rather marry for the wrong reasons with women they aint attracted to, and settle sexually by watching p0rn. its as simple as that.

Make i browse porn small.

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WTF!!!!

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Another long thingz, ok sue him for bigamy.

old school......friends+ dating then courtship= stable marriage.
Nowadays....dating for few months or some years straight to marriage= wahala marriage.