I met a guy through a friend of mine, he asked for a relationship, and I decided to give it a trial, hoping that I could have feelings for him and the relationship would work out.
As each day goes by, I don't feel anything for him cos of the following reasons:
1. He's Slim..I like chubby guys.
2. We're of the same height, I'm even alil bit taller.. I've always wished to have a man who's taller than myself.
3. Finally, I don't like the color of his teeth,Loll..This may sound funny, but its the truth.
I know some people might say I'm being picky, but I'm not cos its not too much to desire from the kinda man I wanna be with and hopefully settle down with.
This guy calls me often and chats me up..I play along by reciprocating the call sometimes.
I don't have feelings for this guy, I've been thinking my feelings for him will grow but it hasn't ..sometimes I feel like telling him the reasons I don't like him, but I decide to hold it back so I don't make him feel sad.
I've known him for just 2 weeks..Please wat can I do or how should I go about it??


Do I just come out straight and tell him it can't work out cos he's really having high hopes about everything...Or is it possible I love him eventually someday(which I'm not really sure of)
Please advice me! Matured advice from adults ONLY!!

fleeky:
I met a guy through a friend of mine, he asked for a relationship, and I decided to give it a trial, hoping that I could have feelings for him and the relationship would work out.
As each day goes by, I don't feel anything for him cos of the following reasons:
1. He's Slim..I like chubby guys.
2. We're of the same height, I'm even alil bit taller.. I've always wished to have a man who's taller than myself.
3. Finally, I don't like the color of his teeth,Loll..This may sound funny, but its the truth.
I know some people might say I'm being picky, but I'm not cos its not too much to desire from the kinda man I wanna be with and hopefully settle down with.
This guy calls me often and chats me up..I play along by reciprocating the call sometimes.
I don't have feelings for this guy, I've been thinking my feelings for him will grow but it hasn't ..sometimes I feel like telling him the reasons I don't like him, but I decide to hold it back so I don't make him feel sad.
I've known him for just 2 weeks..Please wat can I do or how should I go about it??


Do I just come out straight and tell him it can't work out cos he's really having high hopes about everything...Or is it possible I love him eventually someday(which I'm not really sure of)
Please advice me! Matured advice from adults ONLY!!

Is he rich? Work in an oil company? Etc??

Girl, I got this to say to u.


God allows people to come into our lives for a reason. From what I see, ur lists in a man are just vague and unimportant. I still think u r a young girl.

Good people neva last, the man u may be shooing away might turn out to be Godsent.

op you have no issue. why should you date someone you don't love? you cant force love so tell him the truth and be free.

Alhajalondon:



Is he rich? Work in an oil company? Etc??

Londoner Alhaja e ku ishe oluwa.

Cutehector:
Girl, I got this to say to u.


God allows people to come into our lives for a reason. From what I see, ur lists in a man are just vague and unimportant. I still think u r a young girl.

Good people neva last, the man u may be shooing away might turn out to be Godsent.

well, I'm not as young as u think, I'm old enough to be in a relationship and get married somedaym
Tnxx for ur contribution.

fleeky:
well, I'm not as young as u think, I'm old enough to be in a relationship and get married somedaym
Tnxx for ur contribution.

dnt mention

I can't .

Alhajalondon:



Is he rich? Work in an oil company? Etc??

Answer this question
fleeky

pickabeau1:


Answer this question
fleeky

Pick, we all know the answer naa

pickabeau1:


Answer this question
fleeky

Are you rich and work in an oil company?
Even I'd its a no
I will still follow you like a bee and honey
Its me and you on this forum

.<<<<<<<<KEY POINT<<<<<<<<<<<

OH!!!!! He is slim..................

MY God!!!! he is not tall Enough........

Jezzzzz!!!! The colour of his teeth......

Hmmm!!! I have to play long........

just look at this key points in your statement and tell me how this sound to you. how old are you 16? because it sound to me like a JS3 girl statement.

I suggest you wait a little while to grow up. you are not matured enough to handle a long term relationship for now.

Do you like talking to him? Have you guys gone on a date? If yes and you're not still feeling him, please let him know "hey you're a really nice guy but I'm not sure we are working out. Let's be friends". Once you say that, do NOT act like a chic who will date him if he keeps pursuing her (no accepting gifts from him, no calling him after 8pm. to have heart to heart convos, no constantly messaging him when he changes his dp). Because that behaviour will be read to him that he had a chance, so he should try harder when the reality is that you're stringing him along. So treat him like a regular dude (call randomly, feel free to ignore him, no accepting gifts or dates disguised as 'hanging out').

If you treat him as a friend and maybe change your mind, then let him know. If he's still into you, alrighty. If you still don't send him, at least you didn't waste him. time and give him false hope and you and he can find people who care.

What attracted you to him in the first place? If they're stronger than the turn offs, then give him a chance. .. if not, quit the relationship. ...

Kimoni:




Pick, we all know the answer naa

Let's hear from her na
This is however without prejudice to the fact that she may not really be into the guy

Let her move on then

Dyt:

Are you rich and work in an oil company?
Even I'd its a no
I will still follow you like a bee and honey
Its me and you on this forum

Morning
I am not rich and still praying for breakthrough
God that has seen me this far will not desert me

pickabeau1:



God that has seen me this far will not desert me

Dunno why this got me laughing
Do you mean seen you this far on women cases or which?


Even at that
I won't leave you alone
Till you attend to my needs

Dyt:


Dunno why this got me laughing
Do you mean seen you this far on women cases or which?


Even at that
I won't leave you alone
Till you attend to my needs

As per hustle naa

I must hammer not by scam oooo

pickabeau1:



Let's hear from her na
This is however without prejudice to the fact that she may not really be into the guy

Let her move on

German

Kimoni:


German

Which one be German again

pickabeau1:


As per hustle naa

I must hammer not by scam oooo

Don't say just you jor
Say we
Me inclusive

We*you, your wife, your kids and my own family, you know we are one already

Dyt:


Don't say just you jor
Say we
Me inclusive

That one name small do
Once A is sorted, Z is settled
No shakement

How has the day been so far

Op,find a way to break it down to him that the relationship will not work out.There's no point stringing him along.

pickabeau1:


That one name small do
Once A is sorted, Z is settled
No shakement

How has the day been so far

Same as every other day
Ilongthroatfor something new

Richy4:
.<<<<<<<<KEY POINT<<<<<<<<<<<

OH!!!!! He is slim..................

MY God!!!! he is not tall Enough........

Jezzzzz!!!! The colour of his teeth......

Hmmm!!! I have to play long........

just look at this key points in your statement and tell me how this sound to you. how old are you 16? because it sound to me like a JS3 girl statement.

I suggest you wait a little while to grow up. you are not matured enough to handle a long term relationship for now.

Excuse me dude! What I desire in my man is not a big deal..Every individual have wat they desire from a spouse or how they want their spouse to be. YOU can't date or marry any female that comes ur way. Just the way u have ur spec,same way another person does..
For the records I'm old enough to even have 2 kids already..if u think my reasons are not cogent enough,then u don't know wat attraction and admiration mean in a relationship/marriage.

Onegai:
Do you like talking to him? Have you guys gone on a date? If yes and you're not still feeling him, please let him know "hey you're a really nice guy but I'm not sure we are working out. Let's be friends". Once you say that, do NOT act like a chic who will date him if he keeps pursuing her (no accepting gifts from him, no calling him after 8pm. to have heart to heart convos, no constantly messaging him when he changes his dp). Because that behaviour will be read to him that he had a chance, so he should try harder when the reality is that you're stringing him along. So treat him like a regular dude (call randomly, feel free to ignore him, no accepting gifts or dates disguised as 'hanging out').

If you treat him as a friend and maybe change your mind, then let him know. If he's still into you, alrighty. If you still don't send him, at least you didn't waste him. time and give him false hope and you and he can find people who care.

tnxx..this is one of the most meaningful comment so far..Tnxx once again!

Dyt:


Same as every other day
Ilongthroatfor something new

We all do

May God help us

Let him go.

fleeky:
Excuse me dude! What I desire in my man is not a big deal..Every individual have wat they desire from a spouse or how they want their spouse to be. YOU can't date or marry any female that comes ur way. Just the way u have ur spec,same way another person does..
For the records I'm old enough to even have 2 kids already..if u think my reasons are not cogent enough,then u don't know wat attraction and admiration mean in a relationship/marriage.

Why did you open the thread at all? You know what you want and it is good to know what one wants. Go for what you want and don't settle for less.

PresVA:
What attracted you to him in the first place? If they're stronger than the turn offs, then give him a chance. .. if not, quit the relationship. ...

Tnxx

fleeky:
Excuse me dude! What I desire in my man is not a big deal..Every individual have wat they desire from a spouse or how they want their spouse to be. YOU can't date or marry any female that comes ur way. Just the way u have ur spec,same way another person does..
For the records I'm old enough to even have 2 kids already..if u think my reasons are not cogent enough,then u don't know wat attraction and admiration mean in a relationship/marriage.

You are a confused human being!

Why did you decide to date him in the first place if he didn't tick your criteria?
And you say you're old enough to have two kids...well, even some 16year olds are old enough to have two kids.

You're not serious.

Ewuro4:


I can't .

Loooooool
Yes u can.
Try

Dyt:


Are you rich and work in an oil company?
Even I'd its a no
I will still follow you like a bee and honey
Its me and you on this forum

Pickabeau1 u don dey pursue married woman too?