What a Mother Told Her Daughter
who Was Looking
For a Husband.
.
My Daughter, looking for a husband
is not the same
thing as looking for a job. When you
are looking for a
job, you think of money and luxury.
But when
you are looking for a husband, you
think of love,
commitment and sacrifice. Money
is good but it is
love and commitment that will bind
your marriage.
Do you know what? When your
Father approached
me, I was 21. I still remember that
day. He didn’t
have a car, he used to drive his
mother’s bicycle. I
never used to do make up. We fell
in love. Do you
see this house? I was there when
your Father built it.
I use to come here every day and
supervise the
workers. You see that old red car
outside? We both
contribute money to buy it, it was
our first car. Your
Dad will use it Monday to Friday and
I will use it
weekend, except when one person
need it more
than the other. So, do not be afraid
of starting small.
The most important thing is love,
commitment and
dedication. Behind every successful
man is a
woman and behind every
unsuccessful man is also a
woman, choose where you will
belong. My Daughter,
let a man see the real you and love
the real you.
When you pretend and look like
what
you are not and a man marry you,
then one day when
he begins seeing the real you, that
is where problem
will start. There are some kind of
men you should
avoid or be careful with. If you see
a man always
giving money to people and helping
so many people
but when you visit his home, his
sister looks hungry
and the mother is badly dressed
then be wise. Think
about it. A man that can’t support
his own is not trust
worthy . My Daughter be careful of
a man with too
many secret. Think twice about a
man that keeps too
much to himself. How can you live
with a man you
don’t know anything about? You
have the right to
know his fears and his dreams.
Know what you are
getting into. When I married your
Dad I knew his
plans and I played my role to help
him and here we
are. Watch carefully the way a man
treats his sisters
and people around him, habits are
very hard to
change, if he is treating them bad
then he may treat
you bad. Pay every big attention to
what I am about
to say now, open your ears very
well. If a man ever
hit you while you are arguing, beat
you up for any
reason, do not bring such a man to
introduce to me.
Do not even think of marrying him.
Or else you may
spend every day defending your
life instead of living
your life. There are some men that
don’t give because
they don’t have but there are
others that don’t give
because they are stingy. Think
twice about such men.
If you see a man who drinks too
much every time or
smoke too much, do not expect
him to change
when you marry him. Marry
someone you are sure
you can live with, not
someone you are hopping will
change. Observe the
kind of friends a man moves with,
it has a lot to do
with who he is. My Daughter, I can’t
choose a
husband for you but i have given
you advice that will
guide you. I can’t
wait for you to bring that man
home and I can’t wait
to dance with you on your wedding
day.........

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