As humans we have expectations of other people, animals, plants, everything around us including life in itself. We get disappointed when they are not met because they are expectations - we believe they should.

The only justification for our disappointment is that we have made commitments. For most of us unfortunately, this is not so.

Realistic expectation is selfless in nature – You meet the interest of the other first. It is Justice driven – demand based on (nature of) what you give, there must also be freewill – don’t force result for realistic expectation responds based on input, and finally consistency – result depends on consistency of action. This rule applies to all aspects and activities of human life.

Do We Have A Lead?
1. Selflessness
God created us for a purpose – as vicegerents or deputy to sustain (add value to) His creation (what He has created). To do this, we require certain (levels of) values or qualities. He created us in His image, devolved these requisite qualities to us all, equally irrespective of sex, color, tribe, wealth, religion, etc.


In His proactive nature (still in selflessness), God did not create humans until He created the earth with seas, oceans, rivers, sunlight, moon, rainfall, seasons and everything we would need to sustain life in order to develop these qualities. He did not create fish until He created water. What if a meal becomes monotonous? He created species of animals, crops and fruits. Everything was created and ready before our arrival.

He gave all these without reservation or recourse to our commitment or willingness to meet His expectations.

2. Justice
His expectation of us is based on what is universally or equitably given to humans – his qualities or spirit. Wealth (money), children, long life, good health, color, sex, tribe, education, class, religion are not equitably distributed or common to all humans. His expectations of us to add value is not based on those. Whatever you do with money for instance, His interest is the spirit (of selflessness, justice, freewill, etc) that drives it. This cannot be bought or monetized.

The same applies to Freewill and Consistency of action

So He has an expectation of us, to:
1. Develop these qualities (first to maturity), and then
2. Sustain (add value to) creation

And His expectations are realistic. Therefore to make your expectation of your friend, spouse, employer, nation or your creator realistic, you must first:
1. Meet his/her expectations, and without recourse to whether he/she would be able to meet yours (Selflessness)
2. Be fair in your expectations (measurable based on your input) - Justice
3. Be consistent in fulfilling your own obligation - Consistency
4. A forced value cannot endure. You must not force an expectation - Freewill

TWOSAM is a Value Orientation Organisation

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