TIPS FOR GODLY A MARRIAGE
There are some things we need to know about marriage, marriage is not the idea of any man, its not a tradition neither is it any lands culture, marriage is not for boys and girls. Marriage is orchestrated by God and its for MEN AND WOMEN, because its all about responsibility.
Maturity is not by age, a man can be forty years of age and can still not keep a home while a boy of twenty-five can, so maturity is not by age.
I want any one going through any form of hurt, heart break or emotional torture to know that marriage is designed from God for helps and also for a better life not for torment. Genesis2:18, Joshua23:10, Matt18:19
HOW TO GET INTO MARRIAGE
COMMIT IT INTO THE HAND OF GOD: Psalms 37:5, because marriage is not a culture or tradition, that is why we must fully commit our relationships into the hand of God, he is the one to establish it. Don't ever go into marriage with your five senses, do it with the help of God.
LOOK FOR THE RIGHT PERSON: Proverbs 18:22, it is the responsibility of the man to find a woman and its the responsibility of the woman to make herself available. There are some things that must guide us when searching, first the person be it man or woman must a child of God, fully born again, practising Christianity and not religion, 2corin6:14, secondly the both of you must agree, Amos 3:3
MAKE YOUR PROPOSAL

RECEIVE APPROVAL FROM GOD: proverbs 16:25, this has to do more with women, please don't ever get carried away with what you see and just assume that he is the right man for you, still go to your closet and receive approval from God the author of marriage, remember there is a path that seems right to man but the end is destruction. A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.
PROTECT THE RELATIONSHIP: but don't defy the bed, heb13:4
THE HUSBAND IS THE ORDAINED LEADER OF THE FAMILY: Eph5:23, mark10:42-43 No matter the status of a woman, even if she is the head of state once she is back home she is to be submissive to her husband fully because he is the head of the family. And as for MEN, you are not the head by mouth, you must take full responsibility by showing good examples.
HUSBANDS ARE ORDAINED AS PHYSICAL PROTECTOR AT HOME: Eph5:23, the husbands responsibility is to protect the wife and children, both spiritually and physically, God is the invisible banner over every Christian home but man is the visible banner over every Christian home.
HUSBAND IS ORDAINED AS THE MAIN PROVIDER AT HOME: 1Tim5:18, matt19:5, God is "JEHOVAH JIREH" so as every man, men are "HOME JIREH". Its possible to give without loving but impossible to love without giving. If you are not ready to take responsibility of your wife then there is no need to leave your father's house and cleave to a woman.
HUSBAND IS THE MAIN TRAINER OF THE CHILDREN AT HOME: 1tim3:4, child training and upbringing is the covenant responsibility of the man.
WIFE'S ARE ORDAINED HELPER: Gen2:18, pro31:10, wife's should come into a man's life to help him not to hurt him, to be a genuine supporter, not a liability. And all women should know that you are not an opportunist. Wife is supose to be a co-provider pro31:15-16, they are also suppose to be a co- trainer with their husband.
WIFE'S ARE THE MAIN PLATFORM FOR HOSPITALITY AT HOME: Pro31:30-31, wife should be open hearted, kind and polite. NOTE: Its not the size of the house that attracts people, its the heart of the mother or wife that brings people and when people comes God open his windows and shower down his blessings.
Women don't ever maltreat any one especially your house help, treat her like your own child.
NOTE: The responsibility of the man is to operate on the platform of love. Don't ever marry someone you don't love!
http://www.loveofgodoutreach.com/2016/02/having-lasting-and-godly-marriage.html#.VrRMqo7TVDt

Nice write up OP. But let me ask, how on earth can one confirm if a lady is his wife? What is the medium of concrete confirmation?

People really don't really want to ear this part, but the blunt truth is that the only way is GOD, its only God that knows the true intent of man, he is the one that can see what no one else can see, besides every thing revolves around God and GOD revolves around every........if you are truely desperate in getting a good life partner, you will be willing to pay the sacrifice of praying intensely and privately and fasting too.Thank you