Presently, I am in this dilemma. My bossom friend is getting married tomorrow and I didn't get the ashoebi for the following reasons:

1) She is not really into any lucrative business neither is she employed. Her husband to be is a hustler as per he also doesn't really have a steady income. As a result of this, I decided that instead of the 10k ashoebi, the 10 of us should contribute and give them a tangible sum of money which I think will be of help to the couple.

2) The attire is what I can not wear after the wedding so why spend that much for a day? (my thoughts).

3) We are expected to buy shoes of the same colour also. As we know as ladies, bags must follow. this one give or take one kind 7k go drop again o.

I have decided to contribute 5k to the bridal shower taking place later today since the organiser mentioned that they needed money to buy more drinks (see what I mean?).

Am I a bad person for not buying the ashoebi or does it mean I don't love my friend?