Hi, I have known this Nigerian lady for a few years now through the local playgroup. Now I was not a very close friend as such. Anytime I would meet her she would try to bless me with holy water and qoute biblical passages so I viewed her as being quite a religious person. However some time went by and her phone is off for six months at a time and she is not seen around (she goes to UK to get welfare there aswell) so I presume she just travelled.

I bumped into her on the street recently and she said that her child (she never married) had been sick in the hospital as she was living without electricity for 4 months (which is true) I felt so sorry for her and the child and invited them for dinner. I made various phone calls to try and get her electricity switched back on (she gets 250 from social a week and its a council accomodation). I made appts for her here and there with organisations that may be able to assist her. sadly I spent some money and time preparing a hot meal for her and the child here alone when my husband was at work. She never even showed up nor did she ring.

It has now transpired that she has been letting out the property illigally to people and they were not paying the bills and is known to the police. She doesnt even live at the address. You woul never believe it to meet her. But as someone said earlier you never know someones motives. Just feel a little let down thats all.

So your friend is not nothing but a fake thief, right?

Well does it not look that way?

Oh well, there are many pretenders around. Just be happy you never got involved by her and never fell for those her religious rituals. Who knows if she wasn't using them to get customers.

Yeah ya just dont know,

Dont let that weigh u down. Not everyone could be trusted, u know,

like the other poster said don't let it get to you also please don't change because sometimes we run into con artist and some times we run into people who genuinely need help.

hey in this case I will say don't judge untill you have walked a mile in their shoes.

I would keep my distance, too much drama

It is too tricky to judge based on your submission. I honestly don't see why anyone should condemn the woman until he hear the other side of the story.


There is more explaining to do. Yet, it may be true that you are taken for granted. And it may not be true, If the police are aware, then there is something you don't know that the police know. Find it, and the make your judgement after knowing why she did what she did.

When you help, help for the sake of helping. Don't bother yourself with "thank yous" and "well dones." Thank yous will never add a nanometer to your stature. It doesn't matter if the beggar buys crack with your money, just follow your heart. God who sees secret things would pay you back openly.

Leilah, keep the food in the fridge ur oga will help u eat it