Regular folks have a glorified view of the pursuit of scientific research. They believe that science is this organized, structured by rules when gathering facts for research, this is far off from the truth. Science is often eccentric, filled with twists, undertaking in uncharted territories, lots of wrong turns, bogus findings, and the intermittent remarkable success.

Contrary to popular belief, this is a good thing! Scientific research was based upon trial and error, with this, there is no guarantee for success, it leads inexorably to a hefty dose of failure.

In fact, scientists all through history have used failure to guide the scientific process, viewing mistakes as an indispensable part of research.

Now how do we translate this to our beloved children; our students?

Ngozi was an A student, she excelled at all of her academic work. She always won prizes at the end of the school year and loved the sweetness of winning.
Seated in the auditorium, amist her classmates, she loved the sound of her name being expressed over the speaker system; all necks craned in her direction; mumbles of ‘she again’ It was in her blood. She was determined that she was going to win overall best student when it was time for graduation.

This was her ultimate goal, the culmination of four years’ sweat and perseverance. She had easily made it every year on the Dean’s list and was favored to graduate Summa Cum Laude (1st Class.) Getting Magna Cum Laude wasn’t an option. No one of merit ever finished second. That would simply be a defeat. Failure was not something she was accustomed to or prepared to deal with.

Then Richard transferred to her school, he was par excellence personified. In her mind, however, Ngozi knew the competition was tough. It was to be all or nothing. Her parents certainly wouldn’t congratulate her on getting second place.

Thoughts of failure inundated her every waking thought and she quickly became her own worst enemy. With each passing day she grew filled with doubts about her abilities.

Fear of defeat insidiously crept into her resolve and she felt defeated already. She the constant victor had become the trounced scholar. On graduation day, she numbly stared as Richard delivered the Best Student’s speech. Failure by default was a bitter pill.

Ngozi had become wiser and she didn’t know yet. Previously she had known how to win because it had been all that she had known, but now she had also experienced the bitterness of defeat. This would prove to be very valuable over time.
She would go on to become a researcher who worked in a teaching hospital, writing publications and presenting at conferences. She was a fore-runner in her projects and was known to always preserve through difficulties. All of this would have been impossible without the lesson she had learned at college.

Though the story of Ngozi is a made up one, it’s a familiar one. Far too often children are frozen into inaction by a deep-seated fear of failure. The truth though is that wisdom grows with the number of attempts one makes, not merely the number of successes. Scientists know this wisdom forever, as attested to by Thomas Edison when referring to his work with light bulbs.

Scientific history has a lot of eureka moments—from Archimedes’ bath to Newton’s apple—but the scientific process entails lots of false starts that are vital to the advancement of science. Newton was wrong about two little things—time and space. Yet we would never consider Newton a failure. His flawed model led to Einstein’s incredible breakthroughs.
Almost all of science might be considered a failure, because scientific discoveries are continually being worked upon. Scientists progress from failure to failure as they move toward success in the short-term …knowing that there is a proclivity to be proven incorrect yet again. There is nothing to be feared in being wrong.


How do we translate this to our children? How do we make failure a positive outcome to them? We need to create an environment where failure, as a step toward improvement, was merely a motivation to keep going. To give your children the ability to be tenacious, teach them how to fail without fear, because they will unavoidably fail at something someday.

Scientists have learned that they are not their failed experiments, though the outcomes of those experiments might be considered as such. They are able to separate themselves from scientific outcomes. We should teach our children the same principle.
This is concisely expressed than by the Irish poet Samuel Beckett:
“EVER TRIED. EVER FAILED. NO MATTER. TRY AGAIN. FAIL AGAIN. FAIL BETTER.”

The next time you are faced with failure, get up and say; “Let’s do that again!” After all, the best way to convey the message of successful failure to our children is by example.