My girlfriend (Her Dad - Igala, Her Mum - Igbo) and I have been dating for 3 years and when she informed her family of our plans to get married, they strongly opposed her. They only gave one reason - He is from Edo state. She seems to be succumbing to her family pressure and I need to do something fast before I lose her. I've met and pleaded with her mum but she remains adamant (Her Dad is late). I need some valuable advice urgently. Pls assist.

pregnate d girl, Dem go change thier minds by force.

Pray about it. The mum might have had a bad relationship with her husbands people and is trying to protect her daughter. If you are serious about getting married, then take an uncle to speak to her on your behalf. It will re-assure the mum that her daughter will be accepted. Might not be 100% but it's better than nothing. Igbo people are more traditionally than tribalisitic, a lot of people don't get that.

manmustwac:

pregnate d girl, Dem go change thier minds by force.

Who said so

Knock her up!

chika98:

Knock her up!

Chika things have changed oo

Kunbee:

Chika things have changed oo

They love each other and they want to marry abi? Ehen Knock her up before her family confuses her . It CAN work my sister

manmustwac:

pregnate d girl, Dem go change thier minds by force.

chika98:

Knock her up!

No mind them ooo. Impregnate wetin?

chic2pimp:

No mind them ooo. Impregnate wetin?

Poster the time is of the essence. Get to work!

chika98:

Poster the time is of the essence. Get to work!

@ POSTER

I talk am again make you no mind dem. No go knock up anoda man pikin ooo.

chic2pimp:


@ POSTER

I talk am again make you no mind dem. No go knock up anoda man pikin ooo.

As if you won't do much more in his shoes.

chika98:

As if you won't do much more in his shoes.

I refuse to buckle under pressure


Abeg don't corrupt me oooo.

chic2pimp:

I refuse to buckle under pressure


Abeg don't corrupt me oooo.

I won't dare. Remember you are a "good" boy

chika98:

I won't dare. Remember you are a "good" boy

Why do you find it so hard to believe? .

If you are seriously bent on marrying her, then get her pregnant. It's that simple.

He shouldn't rush to pregnant the girl because the family says they would not allow you to marry their daugther simply because you are not the same tribe. If that what they want as for me i will leave the girl and seek for another. Why i say so is that there is reason for everything.

Only narrow minded, ignorant and silly people discriminate on the basis of tribe, social status, colour, etc. On the one hand, you guys are both grown ups and capable of making your own decisions.
Lack of parental consent is not an absolute contradiction to getting married. You may enlist the help of close and more matured relatives to intervene and get her mum to agree. However, she may only do this reluctantly, and pose problems for you guys in the future. So, think deeply before you leap. Go with your head rather than your heart. Nigerians are quite conservative. These may be early warning signs to call your proposed union off.

snowdrops:

Only narrow minded, ignorant and silly people discriminate on the basis of tribe, social status, colour, etc. On the one hand, you guys are both grown ups and capable of making your own decisions.

That is not true. People (anyone and everyone) discriminate any and every time.

We all have a tendency to belong to groups based on people we feel have things in common with ourselves and as such show some favoritism to those people. But when it becomes a problem is the intensity and how it affects our thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
If we believe that tribe is a primary determinant of human capability and that a particular tribe or its members is/are inherently inferior to ours, then there is a problem.

snowdrops:

We all have a tendency to belong to groups based on people we feel have things in common with ourselves and as such show some favoritism to those people. But when it becomes a problem is the intensity and how it affects our thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
If we believe that tribe is a primary determinant of human capability and that a particular tribe or its members is/are inherently inferior to ours, then there is a problem.

I think you're reading too deeply into such a case.

Get rich she will roll over and start calling you son.

Easiest way to get an igbo man's consent to marry his daughter is to knock her up big time. He will worship and beg you till you marry her.