I am from SE where identity is very important in maintaining a family lineage. The problem I have is that " when we 're growing, we the first three sons were using our grandpa's name for surname instead of our general family surname. Then, we started our primary school with the same grandpa's name as surname;but when I was not around, my two brothers changed theirs to our general surname instead of the one we used in primary school.
Even, my monogamous parents once told us that we can bear any surname provided is acceptable, though, they still use general surname. Now, am through with my high institution , still bearing my grandpa's name as surname. The problem is that anytime we go out together and were told to give our identity, mine will always sound difference. Even, the other time, I was on a trip to see Dad, and was delayed so much because my surname with the one Dad used weren't the same.
I am so embarrassed for this challenge and need your advice in order to pass through this stress. The thing is so serious that I can't use my brother's or sister's name as next of kin for fear of embarrassment, talk more of inviting them to the state in the future.

Please House, what should I do? I'm confused.

Lala come o

RIP English!
Rule 21
File for a name change by approaching the appropriate authorities. Swear an affidavit at a court of competent jurisdiction, and make a newspaper ad announcing the name change. You can start from there

Change your name to the general surname if it bothers you so much. A sworn affidavit and newspaper publication is all you need...I think.

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GogetterMD:
RIP English!
Rule 21
File for a name change by approaching the appropriate authorities. Swear an affidavit at a court of competent jurisdiction, and make a newspaper ad announcing the name change. You can start from there

And the Mouthpiece of the gods have spoken...
Op take this advise

What happen to 'change of name'?

My guy, go to the nearest newspaper office close to you and tell them you want to apply for a change of name. They will tell you the requirements. You will need passport, a sworn affidavit obtained from court and a token amount of money..

Better still, you can go and hustle and make alot of money. Once you become a billionaire, your sisblings will be the one to change their surname to the one you are bearing.

McCarlito:
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And the Mouthpiece of the gods have spoken...
Op take this advise

I reject that picture or suggestion in Jesus name.

What sort of devilish opinion is that?. Please, count me out of that image

ify2016:

I reject that picture or suggestion in Jesus name.

What sort of devilish opinion is that?. Please, count me out of that image

And I bet u will take that advise cos that's the only way
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ify2016:

I reject that picture or suggestion in Jesus name.

What sort of devilish opinion is that?. Please, count me out of that image

I am certain you are not in Nigeria, talk to a friend in Nigeria to help you with a court affidavit. You will definitely need a new international passport. Do a change of name and add your family name to your grandfather's name. Assuming 'Ikenga' is your grandfather's name and Ifechukwu is your own name, while Okeke is your family name, now do a change of name to bear Ifechukwu Ikenga Okeke.

Too much traditional orientation sef is wahala.

You ought to have changed it before going to d states. However its not too late, I don't knw how its done in d US but in Nigeria u can go for a change of name in a court of law(high or magistrate or supreme). You would be given an evident sworn affidavit after which you would publicize it on a renowned newspaper

Both the affidavit and newspaper are now your documents forever. It would read that all former documents bearing the old name remain valid

McCarlito:
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And the Mouthpiece of the gods have spoken...
Op take this advise

the gods have spoken

ify2016:

I reject that picture or suggestion in Jesus name.

What sort of devilish opinion is that?. Please, count me out of that image

There goes someone with such a narrow mind. As if the picture has any influence on your life.
Little wonder you find yourself in a quandary with a non issue such as changing of name.
That's a sound advice up there. Either act on it, or keep rejecting your shambolic superstitious belief in Jesus name.

ify2016:
I am from SE where identity is very important in maintaining a family lineage. The problem I have is that " when we 're growing, we the first three sons were using our grandpa's name for surname instead of our general family surname. Then, we started our primary school with the same grandpa's name as surname;but when I was not around, my two brothers changed theirs to our general surname instead of the one we used in primary school.
Even, my monogamous parents once told us that we can bear any surname provided is acceptable, though, they still use general surname. Now, am through with my high institution , still bearing my grandpa's name as surname. The problem is that anytime we go out together and were told to give our identity, mine will always sound difference. Even, the other time, I was on a trip to see Dad, and was delayed so much because my surname with the one Dad used weren't the same.
I am so embarrassed for this challenge and need your advice in order to pass through this stress. The thing is so serious that I can't use my brother's or sister's name as next of kin for fear of embarrassment, talk more of inviting them to the state in the future.

Please House, what should I do? I'm confused.

This is not enough for an identity crisis.

The exact same thing is happening in my family. I could meet my cousins and wouldn't know we are related cos we use various surnames.

I use my grandpa's name as my surname which is not even his surname, but a name he is well known for in our home town.

my youngest siblings use my dad's middle name as their surname, ( cos it sounds cool and modern) and my dad allows it.

now my dad uses four names. his first name, middle name, and hyphenate two surnames.

If you're so bothered about it, go for the official change of name at the court and publish as well.

Joavid:


This is not enough for an identity crisis.

The exact same thing is happening in my family. I could meet my cousins and wouldn't know we are related cos we use various surnames.

I use my grandpa's name as my surname which is not even his surname, but a name he is well known for in our home town.

my youngest siblings use my dad's middle name as their surname, ( cos it sounds cool and modern) and my dad allows it.

now my dad uses four names. his first name, middle name, and hyphenate two surnames.

If you're so bothered about it, go for the official change of name at the court and publish as well.

hi ow r u doin, wanted to ask if u cud do me a favour

tpapi:
hi ow r u doin, wanted to ask if u cud do me a favour

mmkay

Joavid:


mmkay

can we talk thru email

tpapi:
can we talk thru email

let's start here.

ify2016:

Even, my monogamous parents once told us that we can bear any surname provided is acceptable, though, they still use general surname.

This right here is the exact reason for your situation and I'm sure you will also tell your kids the same thing... then in maybe 30years from now, one of yours will be undergoing the same crisis.

I'm particularly respectful of history, and I would like my lineage down to the 10th generation to be able to trace their ancestry straight up to my grandfather without hassles and unnecessary detours.
I honestly don't know why people cause confusion for themselves by themselves all in a bid to appear trendy and contemporary.

Just imagine nuclea family members bearing different surnames, LOL...
I honestly didn't blame the immigration officer who denied my little cousin his settlement visa on the first application because his daddy thought a British sounding surname is way cooler and then changed his, while the innocent kid still had the old one on his birth certificate.

The easiest most logical piece of advice has been given already above.
Mine is: Don't go telling your children or wife to bear whatever surname they want.

tpapi:
hi ow r u doin, wanted to ask if u cud do me a favour

Not tpia/tpiar/tpiander/nlposter/etc

crackhaus:

This right here is the exact reason for your situation and I'm sure you will also tell your kids the same thing... then in maybe 30years from now, one of yours will be undergoing the same crisis.

I'm particularly respectful of history, and I would like my lineage down to the 10th generation to be able to trace their ancestry straight up to my grandfather without hassles and unnecessary detours.
I honestly don't know why people cause confusion for themselves by themselves all in a bid to appear trendy and contemporary.

Just imagine nuclea family members bearing different surnames, LOL...
I honestly didn't blame the immigration officer who denied my little cousin his settlement visa on the first application because his daddy thought a British sounding surname is way cooler and then changed his, while the innocent kid still had the old one on his birth certificate.

The easiest most logical piece of advice has been given already above.
Mine is: Don't go telling your children or wife to bear whatever surname they want.

I once had a discussion on this.

I don't even like the modern idea of hypenating the husband's first name and surname.

Soon, everyone is lost.

Unlike previously, when you mention a surname, you could almost trace their ancestry.

nlPoster:


Not tpia/tpiar/tpiander/nlposter/etc