Thi is one question I have always loved to ask people. Something came up recently again and I thought of sharing it here and getting views of nairalanders.

A friend has the AS genotype. He met an amazing lady whose genotype is AC. Scientifically, they aren't supposed to get married to each other to avoid bringing an SC child into the world.

I felt bad when my friend told me but I was forced to ask myself again. Why do we get married? Is it for the purpose of raising children or is it because we loved each other as man and woman in the first place?

Now, my friend is on the verge of losing that very amazing lady on the grounds of incompatibility. What if she were AA and she doesn't give birth when they marry? What happens?
If they want kids, can't they adopt and save themselves the headache that comes with the thought of bringing an SC child into the world?

To me, marriage is beyond giving birth really. That's my opinion however. I know we all have different opinions.

I'll appreciate responses from matured folks. Thanks

Cc: lalasticlala. Ishilove. Mynd44

I will comment later, let me wait for others to come

well, its for the purpose of finding a soul mate, but the package must come with healthy kids and a good cooking talent. . otherwise is better to stay single

P.S if there are no children, do you think you will be here to post dis

I'm getting married for kids and to spend the rest of my life with my soulmate, live together, train our kids together and grow together if God permit which I know he will.


And finally to answer the "why are you still single?" question lolz

We get married for the purpose of raising a family, cos humans are communal in nature.
We all need soul mates friends etc, @Edubestconsult ever wondered why even the most hardened criminals goes crazy when put in "solitary confinement"

Different reasons. Tradition, societal pressures, religious reasons, green card, children, love and to ritualise your commitment, legal advantages are some examples

Why do u have two balls?

I never ever wanted to marry. I fell in love and got married. Didn't really think why. Just knew I had found the one, period.

Procreation and companionship.

lawrenzi:
I will comment later, let me wait for others to come

are you still waiting?

megareal:
I never ever wanted to marry. I fell in love and got married. Didn't really think why. Just knew I had found the one, period.

phenomenal

Mskrisx:
Why do u have two balls?

that is Ur own answer? Dahsokay

1bkaye:
Different reasons. Tradition, societal pressures, religious reasons, green card, children, love and to ritualise your commitment, legal advantages are some examples

thanks for sharing

DozieInc:
We get married for the purpose of raising a family, cos humans are communal in nature.
We all need soul mates friends etc, @Edubestconsult ever wondered why even the most hardened criminals goes crazy when put in "solitary confinement"

ur point is valid

Catalin:
I'm getting married for kids and to spend the rest of my life with my soulmate, live together, train our kids together and grow together if God permit which I know he will.


And finally to answer the "why are you still single?" question lolz

the last part got me

mengho:
well, its for the purpose of finding a soul mate, but the package must come with healthy kids and a good cooking talent. . otherwise is better to stay single

P.S if there are no children, do you think you will be here to post dis

Lol. I weak

Thanks to everyone who commented on the post. Obviously, children are important in a marriage. I also agree.

What I am trying to say is that it shouldn't be made to look like that is the only reason we go into marriage. I don't know, perhaps my thoughts are different, I think I'll decide to marry a lady because I love her. That's d first!

I am not going to marry her because I expect her to give me babies. I mean what if we marry and children don't come. What happens Children are beautiful addition to any marriage. Being AS and AC/AS shouldnt be a big deal really. We can decide to adopt babies IMO if we think we need to have babies and we do not want to risk bringing a sickle cell child into the world.