Love… doesn’t force itself on others, isn’t always ‘‘me first,’’…Love puts up with anything… always looks for the best, never looks back, but keeps going to the end.’’

In a building, the foundation bears the weight of the entire structure that rests on it, as well as any future anticipated weight. The Foundation is the underlying structure that supports a building from underneath. Everything rests on the foundation and if well built, the structure stays firm and unmovable.

Just as the foundation of a building is important, so is the foundation of our relationships. The weight or quality of a relationship depends on the foundation it is built on and seeking power or control is not a firm foundation for a relationship. Relationship is not meant for a party to exercise control.
A lot of us grew up in homes where our fathers exercised complete control over our mothers. In such homes for instance, the words of mothers are not taken to heart if they are allowed to speak at all. Or in homes where fathers often beat up their wives saying; ‘How dare you talk? Who is in charge here?”

In some homes where the mother is more financially stable than the father, she may begin to exercise some level of control in the name of, “Who pays the bills?’’ Those who grow up with such foundation tend to adopt it in their approach to relationship: seeking control. The truth about seeking control is that it shows you are not truly free.

‘Truly free people free others’’

Some think having control or exercising power is how they command respect. But the truth is respect does not spring from having control but from setting people free. It springs from love and to love means to set the soul of another completely free and accept them for who they are, appreciating their uniqueness. True power isn’t....

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