Assalamu alaikum brothers & sisters,
Let me start off with a hadith from Abu-Dawud that says 'Of all the lawful acts, the most hated to Allah is divorce'.
Today we see or hear so many Muslim couples threatening to or even outrightly divorcing their spouses for reasons too small to justify these actions. There are few things we need to conceptualise during these satanic temptations;
1) There is no such thing as a perfect being; Every person has his/her shortcomings either known or unknown, so even if you feel your spouse can be replaced, know that you have about 3.5billion other imperfect options to choose from.
2) Allah loves those that are patient; The Qur'an tells us about how patience is a virtue loved by the Almighty and how the patient ones will reap from their actions on the last day.This is known to most of us but yet we seek to choose the most detestable of lawful acts to that most beloved by Allah.
3) Noone in this world can truly love your children like their mothers; If that 'replacement' is caring towards your children, Alhamdulillah, but know that there is only 1 'mother's love' or bond..In a famous hadith from Sahih Bukhari, we learnt that Allah's mercy is far greater than that of a mother to her son.Perhaps this is to show us the peak of mercy in human interrelations is that between a mother and her son and to further teach us of the greater mercy of Allah, which is beyond our peak..
4) Marriage is never a 'they lived happily ever after' story..but it's a story that you write yourself, so u can make sure the good scenes outshine the bad..
5) Are those people advising you to take a divorce married or not?? Then does it mean they have a 100% perfect spouse?? And then why are they still married?? People try so hard to keep and mend their marriage but yet find it so easy to advise others to quit..
6) Broken homes are the worst kind of homes; Imagine how you two are trying to instill discipline on your kids..Now imagine how only one of you can handle that herculean task..take a sample number of how many young drug addicts/deviants are in your society.now count how many amongst them are victims of broken homes..
There is an entire surah in the Qur'an on divorce (Surah At'talaq:65) and even therein Allah swt offers help, ease, guidance and reconciliation for those who believe/entrust Him..
Let us learn to look before we leap..
may Allah (swt) always guide and choose what is best for us in this life and the Hereafter..

May Allah show us the way, ftc

Jazakunmu lah

Jazakalah Khairan brother, may Allah make it easy for us. Ameen

May the Almighty Allah bless the OP and all the contributors and all muslim accross the globe. Jumat mubarak.

Amin na yah Alllah,JazakaAllahu khairan for the message

may Almighty Allah continue to guide and bless our paths. jazakalah khairan op

Jazakullahi Khairan

That hadeeth is daeef and not reliable. Allâh dont hate divorce and you should refrain from quoting a hadeeth which is not reliable.

The prophet PBUH said one of the things that pains him most is seeing a Broken home

AbooUthaymeen:
That hadeeth is daeef and not reliable. Allâh dont hate divorce and you should refrain from quoting a hadeeth which is not reliable.

Allah permits divorce yet Allah hate it. Allah gives enough room for reconciliation but if you couldn't make up then divorce to avoid conflict. i don't know hadith about it but according to quran though

hibee14eve:

Allah permits divorce yet Allah hate it. Allah gives enough room for reconciliation but if you couldn't make up then divorce to avoid conflict. i don't know hadith about it but according to quran though

what's your proof that Allâh hates divorce?

Asalam Alaikum, mmmmnnn....i have heard this over and over in the course of me separating with mine. Sometimes I wonder why in a bid to satisfy our personal desires we tend to cleverly modify God's words... Allah subuhana watallah didnt just make it permissible for no reason...its ultimately to create harmony. Of course as humans we tend to misuse it. Just as it is with marrying more than one wife... Most women keep saying there's a clause there's a clause... Haba, fear God...it is permissible simple but if it should be done then the fear of Allah is enough to guide you in doing it right. men would fornicate and then convert it to second wife... That's also wrong... No one can deceive Allah it's only ourselves we Decieve. Back to the issue of separation. Honestly, words can't totally express how wronged I feel. We live in a society where ones a muslimah sees her fellow muslimah in distress and automatically take her side without proper investigation... And even when they do they still allow that sentiment overide their judgement. Injustice never helps anyone on the long run... It only further creates enmity. I am sorry some Islamic counsels get it wrong by just preaching to both sides... Sometimes it's knowing how to give justice and knowing how to correct effectively... Pampering isn't always the answer. Not everyone is compatible... Let's respect that... Not all unions must be kept together... A lot of people would take years to die in silence looking for peace knowing fully well it isn't in their spouse yet all in the name of forcing the union we endlessly search for what isn't in existence. Harmony can't be forced. The same way love can't be forced... It's built by two.. Not one...yes I agree it takes time for ppl to come around... But then who mends the damages. Where trust is lost, where there's to much hurt...meehn not all marriages work... Allah in his mercies knows that n that's why it is permissible. I totally agree... In all patience and perseverance is sooo key...but there are limits... may Allah help in giving the wisdom to know the limits and how best to decide to be or not to be

hibee14eve:

Allah permits divorce yet Allah hate it. Allah gives enough room for reconciliation but if you couldn't make up then divorce to avoid conflict. i don't know hadith about it but according to quran though

Proof?

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AbooUthaymeen:


what's your proof that Allâh hates divorce?

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Among lawful things, divorce is most hated by Allah.” (Reported by Abu Dawud) The spouses should avoid divorce as much as possible. If they have difficulties and problems they should try to work out their differences and seek help from their relatives, friends or professional counselors. However, if the differences are irreconcilable then divorce is permissible, but it should be done in a decent manner.

HayatH:


Proof?

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Among lawful things, divorce is most hated by Allah.” (Reported by Abu Dawud) The spouses should avoid divorce as much as possible. If they have difficulties and problems they should try to work out their differences and seek help from their relatives, friends or professional counselors. However, if the differences are irreconcilable then divorce is permissible, but it should be done in a decent manner.

hibee14eve:

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Among lawful things, divorce is most hated by Allah.” (Reported by Abu Dawud) The spouses should avoid divorce as much as possible. If they have difficulties and problems they should try to work out their differences and seek help from their relatives, friends or professional counselors. However, if the differences are irreconcilable then divorce is permissible, but it should be done in a decent manner.

and i just told you that the hadeeth is daeef, didn't i?

broken homes are not the worst kinds of home. A abusive home is bad.

For some marriages, divorce is the best thing to happen. Let's stay away from sensationalism, its things like this that makes people stay in abusive, unhappy and frustrating marriages.

hibee14eve:

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Among lawful things, divorce is most hated by Allah.” (Reported by Abu Dawud) The spouses should avoid divorce as much as possible. If they have difficulties and problems they should try to work out their differences and seek help from their relatives, friends or professional counselors. However, if the differences are irreconcilable then divorce is permissible, but it should be done in a decent manner.

The hadith is weak, unfortunately it's very popular among students and lecturers of Islamic studies starting from the ssce level to PhD. in fact it's like a verse of the Quran to some of them.

may Allah save us.

Of course no one loves divorce but in many cases it's the only option left after all means of reconciliation have been exhausted.