So i was talking with someone about this and she was like you'll marry your husband,not your kids. I think husbands are alright,but when i get married and have kids,my children will be the most important things in my life. Then i brought in a little illustration: if you were in a situation where your husband and your child were going to die and you could only save one,who would it be? As for me it's a no-brainer. I'd save my kid. What would you do,and who do you think should be more important in a marriage?

Now that's were a lot of women go wrong. . .they focus their whole attention on the kids neglecting their husbands. . .only a woman who's husband wasn't worth it would say she would neglect him and save her kid. . .

The reason why we should all pray for guidance when making decisions that concerns choosing a life partner. . .because if you have a good man. . .a man who has always and would always stand by you. . .then he'll be important to you. . .


As for me. . .my husband would be as important as my kids cus he is not only the father of my children. . .but the vow I would take at God's altar already joins us together as one. . .so he is not just a husband but also part of me!

The reason why God ordained marriage was becos of
1 .Companioship 2.procreation 3.Fullfilment of destiny.Out of these 3,2 goes to the husband.You can get married without having kids if both ccouples agree on that.
My dear sister,ur husband shld come first after ur God and before ur children.Never allow ur children to come btw u and ur husband cos the moment you leave ur husband and pay more attention to the children,he man will go out to seek for attention from another person which will lead to extra marital affair.Dont blame him then cos u pushd him out.
If u find urself in the situation u described,ur husband first cos u can hv more kids later but if u choose ur kid,u will live the rest of ur life with regrets cos ur kid's attention an d affection can not replace ur companion's[husband] affection and love for u.

ThoniaSlim:

Now that's were a lot of women go wrong. . .they focus their whole attention on the kids neglecting their husbands. . .only a woman who's husband wasn't worth it would say she would neglect him and save her kid. . .

The reason why we should all pray for guidance when making decisions that concerns choosing a life partner. . .because if you have a good man. . .a man who has always and would always stand by you. . .then he'll be important to you. . .


As for me. . .my husband would be as important as my kids cus he is not only the father of my children. . .but the vow I would take at God's altar already joins us together as one. . .so he is not just a husband but also part of me!

I totally support ur contribution.
Thank u.

ThoniaSlim:

Now that's were a lot of women go wrong. . .they focus their whole attention on the kids neglecting their husbands. . .only a woman who's husband wasn't worth it would say she would neglect him and save her kid. . .

The reason why we should all pray for guidance when making decisions that concerns choosing a life partner. . .because if you have a good man. . .a man who has always and would always stand by you. . .then he'll be important to you. . .


As for me. . .my husband would be as important as my kids cus he is not only the father of my children. . .but the vow I would take at God's altar already joins us together as one. . .so he is not just a husband but also part of me!

word

in addition , its my husband(he comes first) because have known him b4 the kids

I vote for the husband. Maybe that's just because I'm one,

otukpo:

My Kids will always come first.

Poor him.

nikkykay:


My dear sister,your husband shld come first after your God and before your children.Never allow your children to come btw u and your husband cos the moment you leave your husband and pay more attention to the children,he man will go out to seek for attention from another person which will lead to extra marital affair.Dont blame him then cos u pushd  him out.

My Husband is my utmost priority, He is my god after God, I live to worship and adore him.

agabaI23:

Poor him.

Nothing like poor him. i will always love him and take care of him. But for my kids

otukpo:

Nothing like poor him. i will always love him and take care of him. But for my kids

God save him.
I hope you won't mind if he makes the kids his own priority? You will be the first to complain of neglect.

BTW If you do not have kids nko?

Of course my Husband.

ThoniaSlim:

Now that's were a lot of women go wrong. . .they focus their whole attention on the kids neglecting their husbands. . .only a woman who's husband wasn't worth it would say she would neglect him and save her kid. . .

The reason why we should all pray for guidance when making decisions that concerns choosing a life partner. . .because if you have a good man. . .a man who has always and would always stand by you. . .then he'll be important to you. . .


As for me. . .my husband would be as important as my kids cus he is not only the father of my children. . .but the vow I would take at God's altar already joins us together as one. . .so he is not just a husband but also part of me!

My sister you have said it all, because letting my husband go is as well as letting my self go, because two of us are one.

Well thats my own point of view, some people may have a contrary view.

ah, thoniaslim, u cute, pweety, beautiful all that.lol. u in the states?what city?

All are important

Now that's were a lot of women go wrong. . .they focus their whole attention on the kids neglecting their husbands. . .only a woman who's husband wasn't worth it would say she would neglect him and save her kid. . .

The reason why we should all pray for guidance when making decisions that concerns choosing a life partner. . .because if you have a good man. . .a man who has always and would always stand by you. . .then he'll be important to you. . .


As for me. . .my husband would be as important as my kids cus he is not only the father of my children. . .but the vow I would take at God's altar already joins us together as one. . .so he is not just a husband but also part of me!

my dear truer words have not been spoken.

well my husband should be more important if only he deserve it ooo. not all these good 4 motin men of this days

ThoniaSlim:

Now that's were a lot of women go wrong. . .they focus their whole attention on the kids neglecting their husbands. . .only a woman who's husband wasn't worth it would say she would neglect him and save her kid. . .

The reason why we should all pray for guidance when making decisions that concerns choosing a life partner. . .because if you have a good man. . .a man who has always and would always stand by you. . .then he'll be important to you. . .


As for me. . .my husband would be as important as my kids cus he is not only the father of my children. . .but the vow I would take at God's altar already joins us together as one. . .so he is not just a husband but also part of me!

good point

THE kinds I think so

A [GOOD] husband should come first, before the kids. What happens when the kids get to their teen years and start living their lives for themselves? We should recognize that although kids are important, they will one day leave the house and start living their lives for themselves.
Your husband meanwhile, is still supposed to be with you, living with you and being the companion that God said that he should be

incase that there is no kids nko? and also that death come and i am the one to choose i will rather chose kid because my husband is there for me and will replace the kids more than hundred fold if he likes

fellas,
u gurls ve bombard and outlined a lot of points for the poster (Don_Ese125 ).
you made her lack what to say even to the point of finding it shameful to appreciate your comments cos she has read post of those experienced than her.

i was waiting to read her response but still not available, except on d grounds dat the husband is invaluable. BUT MY DEAR HUSBAND FIRST OF ALL (its been ordained by God)
check this out T[b]honiaSlim[/b] and nikkykay from beginning

@ otukpo is tym u get ur act rite!

afanda:

@ otukpo is tym u get your act rite!

I don talk my own. Both are valuable and important but i still place my kids first.

I expect more women to respond not men.

Men should wait to be asked "Wife or kids" b4 they come.

Who's More Important In A Marriage? The Husband Or The Kids?

Me.

husbands

otukpo:

not all men wld remain with u alone if u are unable to give them a child. At least 90% of them wld go for a second wife

can u stay wiv a man that can pregnant a lady? the lady wld choose to marry some else - 99.99% female wld do dat.

true be told - Husband are SEMI-GODS!

@ otukpo,i respect ur opinion even thou its nt rational. we r all entitiled 2 dat.

@OTUPKO - are u from benue state? pls send me an email (cld NOT find urs from your profile).

Cheers!

otukpo:

If there are no kids, that wld be different. And mind u, not all men wld remain with u alone if u are unable to give them a child. At least 90% of them wld go for a second wife or get a child outside. Nigerian society for e.g.

There are really some nice and wonderful husbands, but most Nigerian husbands are so unfaithful that u wld'nt consider someone who cheats on u even in the broad daylight to your kid.

I love kids bu if I marry, my wife will be my priority compared to any child. she will be with me when the so called kids are away. The time they only come home for one or 2 days. I can count how many times i have been with my parents in recent years.

But if she chooses to make the kids her priority.

I will make the kids my Ultimate priority. She will be the first to complain.

- @Allboyz. it is men like u that make women like us choose our kids b4 our husband. imagine the ego of refering to yourselves as semi gods. na who tell u so.