I remember years back in Akwa Ibom where I served, in one of the fellowship lodges Ikot Abasi, we believers disputed on this issue:
See my point: Sex in marriage is still borne out of lust but its permissible i.e not sinful...A couple must copulate but the process is still of lust and sexual appetites which are permitted within the context of matrimony!
Now I advised that every married believer must not be given to sex in marriage to an extent that He cant control his sexual appetites...You see, the stories of adultery is getting too much that every married believer needs to destroy lust from its root and not keep feeding it in marriage as it were food.
In as much as we are married, pls lets still control our sexual urges...You see men now get angry cos the wife is too tired to have sex, they carry the sad face everywhere even to Church, some have even said a man can do anything he likes with his wife and even watch pornography to learn what? A jobless man now has 7-10 children, xtian brother, u need to watch it!
In conclusion, Paul said 'all things are lawful but not expedient, I wont be brought under the power of anything'...Sex even in marriage shouldnt be so dominant as if thats the only reason marriage was instituted by God.
This is strictly my opinion! Any believer should feel free to share.

Bro. Enshy,
Unbelievable that you wrote this. I am gonna do a thread in the Family section today or tomorrow about this very topic. It's some heavy stuff & will probably be a little controversial...but I'm gonna put a disclaimer out before people get offended...it's not for everyone.
You are very correct about what you wrote though.

MZLady39:
Bro. Enshy,
Unbelievable that you wrote this. I am gonna do a thread in the Family section today or tomorrow about this very topic. It's some heavy stuff & will probably be a little controversial...but I'm gonna put a disclaimer out before people get offended...it's not for everyone.
You are very correct about what you wrote though.

Thanks Sister In Christ, you see these days a woman cant leave the maid with her supposed believing husband..its not safe anymore..A wife goes on a short journey, believing husband has impregnated someone...That ugly thing 'Lust' has to be checked..Marriage cant be used to cover up! If you dont checkmate it, it will embarass one someday and destroy his testimonies in Christ.
Ill put my eyes on that section so I can read through and contribute positively to the thread.

You are on point! Some people are entering into marriage to cover up their lust! But it is still there.

enshy:

Thanks Sister In Christ, you see these days a woman cant leave the maid with her supposed believing husband..its not safe anymore..A wife goes on a short journey, believing husband has impregnated someone...That ugly thing 'Lust' has to be checked..Marriage cant be used to cover up! If you dont checkmate it, it will embarass one someday and destroy his testimonies in Christ.
Ill put my eyes on that section so I can read through and contribute positively to the thread.

Brother,
Will be up tomorrow..for sure. Sorry but I got caught up and can't do it today. I'm looking at how much info to put up..but it's coming.

MZLady39:


Brother,
Will be up tomorrow..for sure. Sorry but I got caught up and can't do it today. I'm looking at how much info to put up..but it's coming.

Ok..God help you.
Ill be xpecting.
Try to cover polygamy!

enshy:
I ...You see, the stories of adultery is getting too much that every married believer needs to DESTROY LUST FROM ITS ROOT and not keep feeding it in marriage as it were food.
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Religious folks are really interesting pieces of comic relief.

What's is "LUST" in the context of love relationship?

"LUST" (sexual attraction) is an ESSENTIAL and NORMAL physiological process that MUST occur if reproductive (along with pleasure and bonding) activity must take place in sexual organisms.

This process is purely hormonal ("spirit of lust" is an ignorance induced balderdash).

If you wanna destroy "lust" from its root, then you will have to destroy your brain (that's the root of sexual hormones).

Those who live on religious beliefs, are in for a lot of caps.

akintom:



Religious folks are really interesting pieces of comic relief.

What's is "LUST" in the context of love relationship?

"LUST" (sexual attraction) is an ESSENTIAL and NORMAL physiological process that MUST occur if reproductive (along with pleasure and bonding) activity must take place in sexual organisms.

This process is purely hormonal ("spirit of lust" is an ignorance induced balderdash).

If you wanna destroy "lust" from its root, then you will have to destroy your brain (that's the root of sexual hormones).

Those who live on religious beliefs, are in for a lot of caps.

Bro lust was made for me and not me from lust.
I was created to have dominion, I dont know of you?
Is hunger not natural? So I must eat like a glutton till Im obesed? All things are lawful for me but not expedient, I wont be brought under the power of any.

enshy:

Ok..God help you.
Ill be xpecting.
Try to cover polygamy!

Good afternoon (your time),
Part 1 is up. I'll be back later. It's early morning here for me and I have other obligations to take care of first....but will definitely be back. Take care

enshy:

Bro lust was made for me and not me from lust.
I was created to have dominion, I dont know of you?
Is hunger not natural? So I must eat like a glutton till Im obesed? All things are lawful for me but not expedient, I wont be brought under the power of any.

so, in your mind, you can't control your appetite.

And you will need to pray to be able to do that?

akintom:
so, in your mind, you can't control your appetite.

And you will need to pray to be able to do that?

I doubt if you are in town. Are you not aware of increasing cases of obesity, rape, porn, children birth in poor homes, incests, murders, hate, fights, drunkeness all over the world? Aint these pointers to the fact that people are ruled by desires n appetites?
Pls consult google on your device to be better informed as this thread isnt for that.
If you refuse to be biased, its clear enough, you will my motives nd intentions.
Thanks.

MZLady39:


Good afternoon (your time),
Part 1 is up. I'll be back later. It's early morning here for me and I have other obligations to take care of first....but will definitely be back. Take care

Thanks sister in Christ! Ive seen the appetizer.

MZLady39:


Good afternoon (your time),
Part 1 is up. I'll be back later. It's early morning here for me and I have other obligations to take care of first....but will definitely be back. Take care

Thanks sister in Christ!

enshy:

Thanks sister in Christ!

Part 2 is up....

enshy:

I doubt if you are in town. Are you not aware of increasing cases of obesity, rape, porn, children birth in poor homes, incests, murders, hate, fights, drunkeness all over the world? Aint these pointers to the fact that people are ruled by desires n appetites?.
Thanks.

For your information, statistics shows a significant decrease, (when 21st century was compared to prior centuries) in most of the criminal acts that you listed above, in this age.


And one major variable that has brought about decrease in most savagery acts, is the increasing secularity (breakaway from religious control) of human society.

akintom:


For your information, statistics shows a significant decrease, (when 21st century was compared to prior centuries) in most of the criminal acts that you listed above, in this age.


And one major variable that has brought about decrease in most savagery acts, is the increasing secularity (breakaway from religious control) of human society.

Do you by chance know how many years there is in a century? If your statistics captures info by centuries, pls ild disregard it! I make comparisons in the last decade years. Im on mission for a glorious furture so I cant be im shadows of the past! We are not where we need to be and there is need for all to control emotions and appetites..Why is there rape, fraud, child molestation, increase in teen sex and abortions? Everyone knows majorly sexual perversion is on a GP rise...Lust is the cause and we must fight it!
This age is too advanced! Let us all look forward!!!

enshy:

Do you by chance know how many years there is in a century? If your statistics captures info by centuries, pls ild disregard it! I make comparisons in the last decade years. Im on mission for a glorious furture so I cant be im shadows of the past! We are not where we need to be and there is need for all to control emotions and appetites..Why is there rape, fraud, child molestation, increase in teen sex and abortions? Everyone knows majorly sexual perversion is on a GP rise...Lust is the cause and we must fight it!
This age is too advanced! Let us all look forward!!!

I leave you to your illusionary crusade.

To succeed, you will have to whirlwind into the age of inquisition.

Your anachronistic approach will greatly be embraced there.

akintom:
I leave you to your illusionary crusade.
To succeed, you will have to whirlwind into the age of inquisition.
Your anachronistic approach will greatly be embraced there.

You have got no choice. No one fights right and wins! However, to the myopic, this is illusionary! A Xtian mind resonates at my frequency and you dont have one!!! Dont forget basic geometry 'parallel lines dont meet' We are far apart!!!!!

enshy:
You have got no choice. No one fights right and wins! However, to the myopic, this is illusionary! A Xtian mind resonates at my frequency and you dont have one!!! Dont forget basic geometry 'parallel lines dont meet' We are far apart!!!!!

just as reason is parallel to religious faith.

akintom:
just as reason is parallel to religious faith.

Reason could either be evil or good!
If parallel to religion, your guess is as good as mine!!
The reasoning is evil!!!
However, I dont celebrate religion, I celebrate Faith in Jesus and I preach it to the glory of God!!!!
I have become the headache of the devil n his cohorts.

Activityj:
You are on point! Some people are entering into marriage to cover up their lust! But it is still there.

Thanks bro..You got the point!

enshy:

Reason could either be evil or good!
If parallel to religion, your guess is as good as mine!!
The reasoning is evil!!!
However, I dont celebrate religion, I celebrate Faith in Jesus and I preach it to the glory of God!!!!
I have become the headache of the devil n his cohorts.

Just how have you confirm, that you're some headache to devil?

akintom:

Just how have you confirm, that you're some headache to devil?

'The true light shineth and darkness comprehendeth it not'..

Sex in marriage is not borne out of lust. Lust is an overwhelming desire for something that is not yours. Married couples can have as much sex as they want pls. Forget all that. But I agree with you that porn is a no no, marriage or not.

babiskinado:
Sex in marriage is not borne out of lust. Lust is an overwhelming desire for something that is not yours. Married couples can have as much sex as they want pls. Forget all that. But I agree with you that porn is a no no, marriage or not.

Thanks bro.
Quick one: what is porn borne out from? not lust, then what?
Lust is a strong sexual desire. This is Love Eros!
The same desire n feeling towards sex a poor teen has is what the married man has. The difference is the married man is permitted morally/scripturally, the other is under sin!
Same process, same desire, same hunger, same feeling! My bro Xtian Men need to pray more!

Lust to SEX is what Hunger is to Food! In both cases, we need to have power to control our appetites!

SEX in marriage is sacred and has its bounds!
Dont be ruled by lust, curtail it lest it embarasses you when your wife is away for 30mins...
That lady is your maid, sister in law or wife's friend; dont touch her lest you fall into shame.
Be a Man: A Man has Will! Dont do it!

While we believe sex in marriage must be enjoyed, lust should still be curtailed..
Sex was made for Man not Man for Sex..Pls stay within bounds!