Pride is a weakness that destroys self. The carrier of pride is self, the victim of pride is also self. The same way the owner of bad manners is self and the victim is self.

It is like a bad disease, when you are inflicted with it, it keeps eating up the affected part until it gets into your entire body system and eventually kills the whole body.


I have come across people who want you to be the way they are, they want you to share their negative moods, and they don’t see any reason why you should be happy when they are not. It doesn’t matter whether you live in the same room with them, or you live across the street, once they see you, they become unhappy, don’t be carried away by their greetings and well wishes, they most of the time, don’t mean well.

Because of selfish nature of man, most humans with negative behaviors want others to be affected by their own negative attitude towards life. They are not complete unless they have made someone else sad.

They want you to be sad when they are sad, and in fact want you to be unhappy in their short moments of happiness. All of their anger is on someone else for a set-back they experience.

I use to have a neighbor, in a few words I will describe him… he is in his mid-thirties, has a bad leg which he got following one of his bad choices in life while in school as a member of a cult group.

He had a misunderstanding with a rivalry cult member because of his pride and arrogance and his leg was broken, he was lucky not to have had his life taken.

Ever since he got disfigured following the broken leg, he has disliked everyone that looks better than him, especially anyone who lived close to him that seems to be doing better that he is. At every given opportunity he makes sure he vexed his anger on such persons even when the person is not aware of what the problem is.

He oppressed every girl he managed to date, treating them very badly because he felt inferior. Most of the girls he dated, dated him out of pity and because he talked a lot and boosted his own ego, so most people did not get to know him well, until they have been in close contact with him, and the bubble bursts.


Because of this odd lifestyle of his, he wanted to be above where he should, he placed himself where he wasn’t and couldn’t meet up. He pried into everything around, trying to know about everyone.

He eventually married someone older than himself and even much bigger in size than he is. I remember my sister once saying, the wife could beat him, if they should go into physical fighting.

When I first met him, was when he newly packed into the house where I live. He had no job, and desperately married the woman; she had money and sponsored the entire wedding and two years house rent, while he comes out to announce how he had done those things.

His true behavior started showing up after about a year when he got a job with a printing press. All the bad manners which had hidden evolved and he flaunted himself at people, oppressing his neighbors and anyone with police, using the little money he manages to get off his job to sponsor negative behaviors. However he never won any case that I am aware of, he ends up being humiliated but never learned from each mistake.

When he eventually bought a car, he turned his neighbors into gate men and when the gate is not opened or shut for him, he left it opened.

For every bad mannered people, they always have their fall time that is if they actually don’t fall every day. Soon, his car started developing series of troubles; he began to have problems at his place of work and a serious marital problem.

When his wife bought another car and sold the old one she was using, he schemed all he could to ensure that she left the new car for him. This led to series of family crisis to the extent of their separation.

Even as this was happening, he kept on putting his frustration on the neighbors; he would do things to hurt people around him every time he had a brawl with the wife.

If you don’t know him like I do, you would wonder why he picked on you.


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