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GET THAT UNCLEAR RELATIONSHIP DEFINED

The sun was just setting in the crowded city of Port Harcourt. It was about 5pm in the evening and most people were just rushing home from their offices. Drivers blared their horns desperately out of impatience from the slow moving traffic jam, and many pedestrians were trying to make their way from one side of the road to another.

Tom, a banker, apparently exhausted from the day's work, was famished, tired and frustrated having spent two hours already trying to get home. As usual, he had no clue of what he was going to eat when he gets home, as he was still single. While moving forward, and at the same time trying to make up his mind on what to eat, he heard a loud sound behind his car and could have been thrown out of his seat but for his seatbelt.

"Oh no! Not now! Not again!" Tom mumbled under his breath. He stopped the car and yanked his door open in rage. He walked briskly to the car behind him and just as he opened his mouth to spit venom on the defaulting driver, he sees this ravishingly beautiful blond seated across the driver's seat. He swallowed the air and chewed his words.
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It was the beginning of a beautiful relationship.
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Her name was Jennifer. They became very close to each other. They saw each other often. They talked often on the phone. They both enjoyed each other's company and they were headlong into each other emotionally. But the relationship was neither platonic nor intimate. And that was because Tom had still not said anything worthwhile. And Jennifer lacked the courage to ask him the relevant questions.

Many singles are involved in relationships very similar to that of Tom and Jennifer today. Unknown to them, they have been ignoring a very dangerous relationship red flag.
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When two mature adults are involved in a relationship, and such a relationship has gone way past a platonic relationship, has become very emotional, with the two parties very fond of themselves and no one, especially the lady, seems to know where the relationship is headed or what the terminal point or destination of the relationship is, then they are both courting a disaster soon to happen.

For instance, when Jennifer's friends began to enquire about what's up with her and Tom. She responded "I just like him, he's my male best friend." The thing is, when you are both single and you allow a man get that close to you, your emotions will eventually get involved, and then it becomes really risky and dangerous. If you are currently experiencing this, you need to press the pause button on that relationship now and ask the man what exactly his purpose in your life is. Otherwise, you stand a chance of being heartbroken sooner or later.

Any relationship where two people are really fond of themselves, really close to themselves, and see themselves very regularly, they need to sit down and tell themselves where exactly they are going. Not doing this is a major cause of most marital delays in many people's life. It is a recipe for heartbreak because while you are a best friend to somebody, he may actually be planning to marry another person.

If he's so close and he's not saying anything, call him, sit him down and ask him what he wants. Ask him, we are so close, who are we? Get him to define the friendship. If he says "We are just close friends." Ask him, how close are we? If he's still not ready to give you the right answer, tell him "when people are this close, it's usually to marry each other. So what are you saying? Who are you to me?"

I know many ladies will find this very difficult to do because it sounds like you are trying to force the guy to commit to you or something. So the question is, at what point should you ask him questions along this line? When you feel your heart is getting very drawn to him. When you get to that point when you want to sleep, and you can't because you are so engrossed in thinking so much about him. But I must add here that this takes a lot of courage, but you can and must do it for your own good.

It is easy for men to hang around women because they have little or nothing to lose. But it is bad for a woman because she has so much to lose. The biological clock for a man and a woman is very different, they don't hit 12 o'clock at the same time. A lady's clock is much faster.

Many people are unable to see the waving red flags in relationships on time, and this has created many bad marriages. Because of that, most people now wish they can reverse the time and go back to yesterday and be unmarried. Many who are married wish they were never married. Many others are praying that their partners will die so that they can remarry.

In most cases, God was busy shouting "Hey, stop!" He was giving them all the signs, and yet they were unable to recognise it until they tied the knots. And some, even after they have recognised the red flag, still go ahead with the marriage. And in the end, when things turn awry, they begin to point their fingers towards their village, their grandmother, and so on.

Do the needful now if you must avoid pointing accusing fingers. Life is too short to be at the mercy of a bad marriage.

Effiong Edentekhe
The Word Carpenter.
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