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The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Kondomatic(m): 12:01pm On May 15, 2017 |
We all are quick to condemn domestic violence, which is good because no one deserves to be abused physically or otherwise but there's something about domestic violence that we rarely discuss or condemn and that's what this post is about. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Nobody: 12:05pm On May 15, 2017 |
Interesting. Educating and enlightening. |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Kondomatic(m): 12:07pm On May 15, 2017 |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Nobody: 12:23pm On May 15, 2017 |
Nice thread. In the same way you are trying to let us know women are not the only victims _ you should also get rid of the stereotype that only women say hurtful things/nag. If the only thing done to initiate attack is run mouth, then you would agree with me lots of Nigerians would be dead by now. Nigerians are one of the most uncouth people in the world. Also, I've seen the media ask why. Nairalanders do ask why... Instigators are held accountable, that's why we do ask "why" but we just don't feel it's reason enough. There would always be instigators. Maybe we should also get used to the fact that, there would always be violent people too. #Leave&Live. In our fight against domestic violence, we tend to forget kids. Madam inflicting wound on house helps, father flogging kids like thieves. I believe there is no reason enough for this. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by mzjaney(f): 12:32pm On May 15, 2017 |
weldone op...
made sense. |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Kondomatic(m): 12:39pm On May 15, 2017 |
PaperLace:It's impossible to detail out the causes of domestic violence in single thread. I just needed the above example to drive home my points and I believe the purpose was achieved. It's ok for you to find faults in my post though, people find faults in the Bible but it still serves its purpose, likewise my post. Readers can grasp the message without turning the thread to a male vs female gender fight. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Kondomatic(m): 12:39pm On May 15, 2017 |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Nobody: 12:41pm On May 15, 2017 |
That still doesn't give a man the right to use violence on his wife, and vice versa. That is not a justifiable excuse to be violent. "But if the only time he hits you is when he's tired of your troubles then work on yourself. Grow up and control your tongue and temper". |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Nobody: 12:42pm On May 15, 2017 |
Kondomatic:K... |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Kondomatic(m): 12:44pm On May 15, 2017 |
NotOfThis:There's no excuse but there are reasons. If we take care of the reasons then excuses will die naturally. 1 Like |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Nobody: 12:48pm On May 15, 2017 |
Kondomatic: 99% of the time, a reason isn't a reason at all; it's an excuse. 1 Like |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Kondomatic(m): 12:49pm On May 15, 2017 |
NotOfThis:Alright |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Obembem: 2:57pm On May 15, 2017 |
well well, this is a rational post trying to butress the fact that 'sometimes' people (male and female) sway away and let their emotions, habits take over which are the reasons for domestic violence. An elder who is very gentle, married a good wife too, but the woman doesn't know when to stop when she's angry. Over the years they've been good together and but any slight misunderstanding the wife is on rampage. The man has been coping until one day, they had a misunderstanding the man was trying to walk out, the woman blocked the way, kept pushing him, pushing till the man gave her a slapped her and pushed her away, she said she never expected it. So most times our actions determine what's coming next, no sane man will love to violate his wife. I never ever support domestic violence for once, infact patience is the key but the truth is like the OP said everyone has a limit 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Fkforyou(m): 3:38pm On May 15, 2017 |
Nice points. It's just irrational to expect someone to bottle up all the time whenever he is pissed. He is bound to snap, heck, even cats, as cool as they are do snap once in a while whenever they are pushed to a limit. |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by bukatyne(f): 4:27pm On May 15, 2017 |
Interesting. |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Kondomatic(m): 8:17am On May 16, 2017 |
Fkforyou:Exactly my point. They keep saying walk away, walk away instead of telling the other person to stop causing troubles. There was a time we went to resolve one issue like that, everybody agreed that the man should work on his anger except one man. He said that the woman should be the one to take "stop pissing him off classes" I did not understand if then but it makes perfect sense now. |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Kondomatic(m): 8:28am On May 16, 2017 |
Obembem:Exactly. If I am walking on our street and a bully starts giving me troubles, I may endure it and continue on my way but if it becomes a regular thing then I may just fight him back and possibly injure him. |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by Breadmaker: 9:44am On May 16, 2017 |
Lalasticlala this should be on fp. |
Re: The Other Side Of Domestic Violence That We Don't Want To Talk About. by raydatluvs(m): 10:58am On May 16, 2017 |
I think the op made many salient points at least he wouldn't be seem to be sexist as he struck both ends with same venom. I like also that the crux dealt on being proactive either as a woman; not waiting till your skull is smashed or till she needles your soul beyond your threshold as a man. I personally think it's even mentally exhausting for the nagging person to enjoy nagging, you know dwelling on the same thing again and again.. . In the end, the deepest root cause is very bad communication habits between wife and husband because if the husband is still listening to his one time loving wife's teary complains and the wife is listening to the husband's demeanor, bliss would be plentiful.. |
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