Hi all!

I have been dating my man for at least 2 years now, when we started getting to know each other he talked casually about ex's. He mentioned how he was deeply in love with his ex and when he was ready to propose they went to check their genotype and it turned out that they were both AS & AS. This caused issues for them and the relationship had to end.

My biggest worry is that I unfortunately am an AS and I know how much heartbreak it will cause for both of us and and our families, I really don't know what to do, I've asked friends, I've prayed but I don't know how to tell him because he's finishing meds school and talking of settling down already. I am completely distraught and confused...

Please can you all give some advice, encouragement or even personal experience on how to handle this situation really appreciate!

If you want to gamble with the posibility or you ourtightky dont mind having SS kids, then your genotype shouldnt bother you even if both of you are ss.
If you can not carry the burden of having SS kids then dont marry him. If you do, thrn hopefuĺy you huys will not try to have kids.

My dear tell him please,don't joke with sickle cell,save him,save your unborn kids and yourself from the punishment of sickle cell,i know you've prayed remember what he told you about his ex ,don't keep it as a secret.

royyaldiadem:
Hi all!

I have been dating my man for at least 2 years now, when we started getting to know each other he talked casually about ex's. He mentioned how he was deeply in love with his ex and when he was ready to propose they went to check their genotype and it turned out that they were both AS & AS. This caused issues for them and the relationship had to end.

My biggest worry is that I unfortunately am an AS and I know how much heartbreak it will cause for both of us and and our families, I really don't know what to do, I've asked friends, I've prayed but I don't know how to tell him because he's finishing meds school and talking of settling down already. I am completely distraught and confused...

Please can you all give some advice, encouragement or even personal experience on how to handle this situation really appreciate!

Welcome to the club

Honesty is important, Tell him the truth.

Now consider the future, consider what might or might not be. This lovy dovy you are enjoying presently is because everything is near perfect.
The future is the rest of your life. Even the Bible says
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom.

This is how you start planning for a good life
Be wise!

there are three solutions, d first you already knw.
2. sex preselection- this technology is readily available in Nigeria, especially in some private establishmeny. through this means d experts can choose d healthiest child and d sex of d child as well. pls note that this procesd cud cause you about 3 million naira

3. the next option is bone marrow transplant. if one has ss child, a bone marrow transplant is d only viable option. this process is also very expensive. In addition, DNA closeness is required btw d donor and d receiver (most family).

finally, if you want further enquiries on these, don't ask me cos I am nt a doctor. Do ur research.