Hello everyone,I am convinced you'll learn a thing or two from this.


My Husband, My Compromise.

Dear daughter,in my final submission, a wife means a 'COMPROMISE'.Irrespective of emerging ideologies with the claim to better humanity,nature defined some rhythms that gives us the right perspective.Raise an eagle like a chicken and one day it will take sudden flight when it discovers itself.

A man is wired to be domineering,desiring to be served,his household is his kingdom,his first conquest is his wife,his trophies are his kids.He is a hero within himself.He will protect his kingdom with his life.If outsiders deflates his ego,his last hope is his household.Being manly also rests in the impression that he has authority over his family. In all these,he has a truckload of weaknesses. In this respect,all men are the same.

All men are thesame,yet different.Men are raised under different circumstances which defines their attitudes and perception about things. This account for how they are all different from each other.One of them would become your husband.Husbands are going to come with both rational and irrational demands depending on how he had been raised or taught. Women don't have a problem with the rational parts. The problem is the irrational.Some may require that you serve them food on your knees,wash their clothes when you can afford a drycleaner,pay your salaries into his account every month or even give up your dreams of becoming whatever....the list is endless.Doing what he demands when you don't like it,makes you a compromise.You would have to do some of them in tears.Remember that your sacrifice is to help preserve your family. I know a lot of 'enlightened' women often tell you that if he loves you he must support your dreams.Dont allow those living their compromise advise you not to live yours.Don't be a general at war who takes advice from a book author of war stories. He has a vision for his family. His decisions are in line with his vision. If he insist you to change your dream,go to sleep again.

So,before you go taking those pre-wedding photos,before you customize your jersey with his name on it ,before you 'pepper dem' with titles such as 'his queen', 'his treasure' etc.Take time to find out his perspective towards life and the demands of his 'kingdom'.If he's not worth the potential compromise,don't marry him.So,before you decide to marry any man,don't just get carried away by the symphony of skipped heartbeats resulting from sweet feelings of love.....choose your own COMPROMISE wisely for therein lies a major recipe for the success of your marriage. Your marriage will work........this is my prayer for you.#Letusbreakbread #Myhusbandmycompromise
Akoji Austine Obaje is the BreadBreaker.

I love the word "before you pepper them gang"

I'll surely choose my compromise wisely. Thanks @Op

when they will not hear jejely they will now hear wheeeeeen by force

Very nice write-up. Lalasticlala this should be on FP please o

I personally know a lady, a muslim lady for that matter, whose husband insisted she ground pepper with a grinding stone rather than a blender.

After grinding pepper twice she packed her load and ran

Khonifer:
I personally know a lady, a muslim lady for that matter, whose husband insisted she ground pepper with a grinding stone rather than a blender.

After grinding pepper twice she packed her load and ran

Lolz
She for wait

Khonifer:
I personally know a lady, a muslim lady for that matter, whose husband insisted she ground pepper with a grinding stone rather than a blender.

After grinding pepper twice she packed her load and ran

Ran away Becos of pepper, i bliv there shud b oda ways arnd it. Mayb there are other weird tinz she's been doing but if it's Becos of pepper she ran away, she no try o

zeestone99:


Ran away Becos of pepper, i bliv there shud b oda ways arnd it. Mayb there are other weird tinz she's been doing but if it's Becos of pepper she ran away, she no try o

Its not about the pepper. Its about the suffering. Things have been put in place to make work easier, but he insisted on the suffering.

He didn't let her use any appliance, washing machines, blenders et all...

Note, this lady is from a rich background, so she didn't understand how someone could be so backward in their thinking. Her words.

Khonifer:
I personally know a lady, a muslim lady for that matter, whose husband insisted she ground pepper with a grinding stone rather than a blender.

After grinding pepper twice she packed her load and ran

She for stay and bear.I know some men who won't eat poundo yam.It has to be pound in mortar.

Choose your compromise wisely.

Khonifer:


Its not about the pepper. Its about the suffering. Things have been put in place to make work easier, but he insisted on the suffering.

He didn't let her use any appliance, washing machines, blenders et all...

Note, this lady is from a rich background, so she didn't understand how someone could be so backward in their thinking. Her words.

She rili needs to run, d man is way out of this world

una no dey taya for this talk

Pidgin2:
Very nice write-up. Lalasticlala this should be on FP please o

lalasticlala,kindly take heed to pidgin2 's counsel.She's the wise one

Khonifer:


Its not about the pepper. Its about the suffering. Things have been put in place to make work easier, but he insisted on the suffering.

He didn't let her use any appliance, washing machines, blenders et all...

Note, this lady is from a rich background, so she didn't understand how someone could be so backward in their thinking. Her words.

Khonifer, its not just about the lady's background.She must have seen the tendencies in him before they got married .He may just be putting her through this to be sure that she can do them before he'll acquire those appliances.Dont assume am in support of his actions.We dont know his orientation and how he grew up.Remember a lot of people have fallen from their high horse financially as time progressed .Every lady should know that when you say yes to a man,you say yes to his mentality.

What a short story with million lesson u never took my time to resolve does things so many things I now do out of my own will,i wish I had taken enough time to draft my list.to every single lady here pls take our time no late commer in marriage.ur happiness after marriage natters alot .


I wish

Bloomin' long article! I cannot read this