The potential threat the career of a woman can cause to her marriage especially if her husband isn’t as successful as she is has always been a point of discussion. Moreover, some single men are even afraid to marry a woman who is successful in their chosen career than them. Some believe that the norm is husbands “should” hold higher job status relative to their wives. When this norm is violated, and wives hold the higher status job, negative consequences can follow: Women are more likely to be targets of husbands’ aggression, and the risk for divorce increases.

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is it a crime for a woman to succeed in her chosen field or earn more?

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Because men become insecure with aggressively successful women!

Especially BLACK MEN!

pabostt:
The potential threat the career of a woman can cause to her marriage especially if her husband isn’t as successful as she is has always been a point of discussion. Moreover, some single men are even afraid to marry a woman who is successful in their chosen career than them. Some believe that the norm is husbands “should” hold higher job status relative to their wives. When this norm is violated, and wives hold the higher status job, negative consequences can follow: Women are more likely to be targets of husbands’ aggression, and the risk for divorce increases.

Question
is it a crime for a woman to succeed in her chosen field or earn more?

Source

Where are the stats to back up this assumption?

KanwuliaExtra:
Because men become insecure with aggressively successful women!

Especially BLACK MEN!

I heard black sugar daddies are stingy

lepasharon:


I heard black sugar daddies are stingy

Only to women who have no jobs in the "jungle of Africa"!
Abi any "sugar daddy" fit pay my bills for life?
He will surely go BROKE!

Muchechechecheche

Pidgin2:


Where are the stats to back up this assumption?

The idea of this asumption as it relate to Nigeria, since Nigerian families was actually my target, was gotten from some journals: For Women, Breadwinning Can Be Dangerous: Gendered Resource Theory and Wife Abuse
Authors

Maxine P. Atkinson,
Theodore N. Greenstein,
Molly Monahan Lang
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2005.00206.x/full

Also,


Another Journal: When She Brings Home the Job Status: Wives’ Job Status, Status Leakage, and Marital Instability


Abstract from the journal

Women are increasingly represented in high status organizational positions. While the advancement of women into high status roles offers them many organizational benefits, the spillover and crossover effects of these high status positions on their marital relationships remain under explored. In this study, we focus on potential costs to the marital relationship when women in high status positions hold higher job status roles than their husbands. First, we examine the spillover effects of wives’ job status relative to their husbands’ on marital instability.(http://pubsonline.informs.org/doi/abs/10.1287/orsc.2017.1120)


So I narrow it down to some of the stories and information i have had about the challenges some women had in marriage when they have a high-status career relative to their husband(majority of female Nigerian celebrities are in this category). Although, no statistics from Nigeria for now. The stats available for now are foreign.

Op it's because they have a huge ego and it's affecting their attitude and manners

Quinn22:
Op it's because they have a huge ego and it's affecting their attitude and manners

Very correct

Cos Nigeria men are too insecure and egoistic

Marriage is challenging to everybody regardless of status. @OP thinks high-status career women are prone to have marriage challenges due to the attention the media (electronic and print) gives to stories of this nature. The rate at which high status people divorce is similar to the rate regular people do. Visit a local Magistrate and see for urself.

Failure of marriages has more to do with the character & lifestyle of the parties involved, rather than the financial status of each Individual.

Therefore in my humble opinion, any man that feels threatened by financially successful career women is simply suffering from inferiority complex disorder.

...Its because the average Nigerian man is an insecure,egocentric being who is confused about what they want...They are extremely selfish and self-centred cos they believe the World revolves around them and their needs.

..If a woman is poor,problem
..If she is rich,proplem

..Nothing satisfies them but to see women suffer.

The ego of an average Nigerian man will destroy the marriage before the woman's career does.
Because everything she will do will seem to him as disrespectful. Some couples handle it well but if you know you are the "prideful " and egocentric type of man...just jejely marry a lady that is beneath you in all ramifications to avoid issues.

A virtuous woman that has a high status career, and married a man of goodwill, can never experience trouble in her marriage.

However, when a woman is evil personification, her high status career will make her to become more bold in exhibiting her evil attitudes and that automatically will brought about trouble to her marriage, unless she married a dummy. Also, in the event that she's virtuous and unluckily marries a small-minded/evil man, trouble in the marriage will sure be inevitable too.

In summary, people's ethical leanings will always define how their relationship with others can be. So I wonder why one would marry someone of different ethical leanings when same person can get one that shares the same ethical leanings like him/her.

rainylad:
...Its because the average Nigerian man is an insecure,egocentric being who is confused about what they want...They are extremely selfish and self-centred cos they believe the World revolves around them and their needs.

..If a woman is poor,problem
..If she is rich,proplem

..Nothing satisfies them but to see women suffer.

Evil communication here

Women are not wired to provide for their men. The truth is women marry up and men marry down. No matter how successful a woman is, there are men who are more successful than her. Such successful women should marry more successful men.

As for men, we have ego and we are providers. We expect to take charge and by nature, we can only take charge over a woman whom we have a higher status than.

Only men without self pride will be looking for a woman who will share bills equally with them. That is the fastest way to lose your self respect.

1. Because most career successful women allow it get into their heads and become disrespectful to their husbands if they even get one.

2. Because men tend to lose control of such most successful women, most especially when the woman is more successful or richer.

3. Because no matter how rich or successful a woman is, she still wishes for a more richer or successful man to marry. The problem is that the percentage of that class of men are small in the society. Thus her pool is limited. Also, most men more successful than her have many options of many women running after them too and she might not be their choices in looks etc. Further reasons her pool of men reduces.

4. Because her pool of men reduces, she will find it hard to marry

5. If she eventually manages to get a man to marry, she might not actually marry her "choice" .

Helpout12345:
1. Because most career successful women allow it get into their heads and become disrespectful to their husbands if they even get one.

There's no such thing. It is the husbands insecurity and ego that feeds him the narrative that his wife is disrespectful.

2. Because men tend to lose control of such most successful women, most especially when the woman is more successful or richer.

Why would you want to control another living breathing human being like you? Again, this toxic mindset of the average Nigerian man is very dangerous.

3. Because no matter how rich or successful a woman is, she still wishes for a more richer or successful man to marry. The problem is that the percentage of that class of men are small in the society. Thus her pool is limited. Also, most men more successful than her have many options of many women running after them too and she might not be their choices in looks etc. Further reasons her pool of men reduces.

A rich and successful woman would only wish for a richer and more successful man because she doesn't want to walk around on eggshells because of an insecure and egoistic man.

Nobody wants all their movements, words and actions to be misinterpreted as disrespect and seen as something unbecoming of a wife.

4. Because her pool of men reduces, she will find it hard to marry.

Yeah, because of my response to point 1 and 3.

5. If she eventually manages to get a man to marry, she might not actually marry her "choice" .

Again, my response to point 1 and 3.

Ardar:


There's no such thing. It is the husbands insecurity and ego that feeds him the narrative.

Very good. Almost all men, I mean real men have ego. That's the nature of men.

Why is it that it's only when women believe they are successful that challenge men's ego in marriages?

zed7:


As for men, we have ego and we are providers. We expect to take charge and by nature, we can only take charge over a woman whom we have a higher status than.

Only men without self pride will be looking for a woman who will share bills equally with them. That is the fastest way to lose your self respect.

Thank you.

One thing I know about majority of women is that, they tend to give you respect according to man financial status. Immediately, their careers successful, it takes grace of God ,for their husbands to control them again, meanwhile, "til thy kingdom come" men still ever ready to be in charge.

........if two drivers now emerge in one vehicle, e don scatter be that ooo.

If u noticed women that successful in career and marriage, u will see element of humility in them.

Ngozi okonjo iweala

Late Dora etc.

Ardar:


There's no such thing. It is the husbands insecurity and ego that feeds him the narrative that his wife is disrespectful.



Why would you want to control another living breathing human being like you? Again, this toxic mindset of the average Nigerian man is very dangerous.



A rich and successful woman would only wish for a richer and more successful man because she doesn't want to walk around on eggshells because of an insecure and egoistic man.

Nobody wants all their movements, words and actions to be misinterpreted as disrespect and seen as something unbecoming of a wife.



Yeah, because of my response to point 1 and 3.



Again, my response to point 1 and 3.

If you don't know today that all men have ego, you might be on a long thing when you get married. Yes quality of a good man is that he knows how to control his ego when necessary. When a woman becomes successful and decides to drag the ego with the man, then there will be a problem in the marriage. Know this and have peace in your marriage.

zed7:
Women are not wired to provide for their men. The truth is women marry up and men marry down. No matter how successful a woman is, there are men who are more successful than her. Such successful women should marry more successful men.

As for men, we have ego and we are providers. We expect to take charge and by nature, we can only take charge over a woman whom we have a higher status than.

Only men without self pride will be looking for a woman who will share bills equally with them. That is the fastest way to lose your self respect.

Hope u read and think before you write?

In your theory! Woman must marry richer man at all cost even if they are not compatible in every other areas outside financial status.


If she married, and after 10years of marriage, her financial status now booms and skyrocketed, she must leave husband and be looking for Dangote at all cost to match her status.

Fiscus105:



Hope u read and think before you write?

In your theory! Woman must marry richer man at all cost even if they are not compatible in every other areas outside financial status.
If she married, and after 10years of marriage, her financial status now booms and skyrocketed, she must leave husband and be looking for Dangote at all cost to match her status.

Your IQ is quite low.

Whilst your woman is working hard to increase her finances, a sensible man should work twice as hard.

In the event that she eventually becomes more successful, a hardworking man will also be financially stable and wouldn't have to depend on her to split the bills.

It's not even about who has more, it's more of who does what. A woman can have 10x her man's net worth and still be loyal and submissive because the man is no push over. He takes care of the bills and takes charge of the home.

You only lose your relevance when you have to be dependent or pick up the calculator and begin to split the bills.

Women are not wired to be the providers, they are wired to be taken care off, irrespective of their own personal resources. People may not like this sad fact.

Let's be real here...
Every marriage has issues...
Though, some more than others, but still...

Now to the subject matter...

Whether or not the woman is richer than the man is IRRELEVANT, the innate need of EVERY MAN is to be RESPECTED and to have PEACE OF MIND, so if the woman can give him this, her wealth wouldn't cause a problem...

If a problem arises on account of the woman's wealth then it must be because of one of four reasons....

1. She becomes disrespectful on account of earning more than her hubby... Blimey, every man whether rich or poor HATES to be disrespected....

2. The man becomes insecure on account of earning less than his wife....

3. Her increased earnings (maybe due to promotion) may cause her to be unable to carry out her "wifely" duties...

4. The hubby expects that now that she earns more, she should take on some responsibilities in the home, and we all know how much women hate being providers ...

zed7:

Your IQ is quite low.

Whilst your woman is working hard to increase her finances, a sensible man should work twice as hard.

In the event that she eventually becomes more successful, a hardworking man will also be financially stable and wouldn't have to depend on her to split the bills.

It's not even about who has more, it's more of who does what. A woman can have 10x her man's net worth and still be loyal and submissive because the man is no push over. He takes care of the bills and takes charge of the home.

You only lose your relevance when you have to be dependent or pick up the calculator and begin to split the bills.

Women are not wired to be the providers, they are wired to be taken care off, irrespective of their own personal resources. People may not like this sad fact.

I didn't pity u but unfortunate who you may give advice.

Look at the mirror, the person u see there is most foolish on earth.

I will advice you to go back to ur previous mentioned and edit, in other to cover ur nonentity"

Fahvvy:
Let's be real here...
Every marriage has issues...
Though, some more than others, but still...

Now to the subject matter...

Whether or not the woman is richer than the man is IRRELEVANT, the innate need of EVERY MAN is to be RESPECTED and to have PEACE OF MIND, so if the woman can give him this, her wealth wouldn't cause a problem...

If a problem arises on account of the woman's wealth then it must be because of one of four reasons....

1. She becomes disrespectful on account of earning more than her hubby... Blimey, every man whether rich or poor HATES to be disrespected....

2. The man becomes insecure on account of earning less than his wife....

3. Her increased earnings (maybe due to promotion) may cause her to be unable to carry out her "wifely" duties...

4. The hubby expects that now that she earns more, she should take on some responsibilities in the home, and we all know how much women hate being providers ...

Women hate "being providers"when the husband is present and feel comfortable not taking up responsibilities but demand to be highly respected but women who have emotionally accepted that the marriage is dead and they are on their own or who are widowed providing becomes a non-issue for them. Majority of those women selling in the markets, road sides, cleaning people's compounds etc are the breadwinners of their homes......ask many young ones in the Universities/Polytechnics, who is sponsoring their education.

Fiscus105:



I didn't pity u but unfortunate who you may give advice.

Look at the mirror, the person u see there is most foolish on earth.

I will advice you to go back to ur previous mentioned and edit, in other to cover ur nonentity"

Why argue with a leech? It's your type that look for women to upgrade you and give you a comfortable life. Weakling.

KanwuliaExtra:
Because men become insecure with aggressively successful women!

Especially BLACK MEN!

This is not true. And I think deep down you know it. Most men would not have any problem dealing with rich women if their masculinity is preserved. But most importantly, it is rich women who intentionally avoid average men. Females like to portray the situation as if it is the man that avoids these women while it is very much the contrary. These women just don't want the men who want them. Take these rich women who complain about not having a man and check their inbox. You'll see that if they are single, it's because they choose to.
But you already know all this. But since you live off of attention, you had to make this thoughtless comment in the hope that it triggers some males.
Men are better off guarding their attention firmly.

Kipaji:

This is not true. And I think deep down you know it. Most men would not have any problem dealing with rich women if their masculinity is preserved. But most importantly, it is rich women who intentionally avoid average men. Females like to portray the situation as if it is the man that avoids these women while it is very much the contrary. These women just don't want the men who want them. Take these rich women who complain about not having a man and check their inbox. You'll see that if they are single, it's because they choose to.
But you already know all this. But since you live off of attention, you had to make this thoughtless comment in the hope that it triggers some males.
Men are better off guarding their attention firmly.

Ok.

But. . .

1. High career status does not usually equate to “rich”.

2. Only a man can preserve his “masculinity” in any circumstance. A woman can only enhance it.

3. I think men or women of average socio-economic status are avoided mainly due to personality issues, more so than status.

3. It is one thing to “want” something or someone, but a totally different matter to have what it takes to appreciate and KEEP it.

4. I don’t live off attention, only empirical FACTS!

5. Yup! Everyone must guard their emotions at all times. No need entrusting them to careless hands.

@zed7 and Fiscus105, please let's be civil with our point of views. We all know this is a sensitive topic to both males and females but we can discuss and put forward our opinions without insults.