STOP CREATING ENEMIES FOR YOURSELF
I remember when gaining admission into the universities was a problem. I had a friend that was lucky to gain admission before me.
Whenever I went to visit him, his mother would say he was not at home. My friend started giving me attitudes. He stopped coming to my house. When I asked him what the problem was, he opened up and told me his mother had warned him to stop associating with me because I might not be happy he gained admission, while I was still at home. Ah, I cried. Honestly I was pained.
Fast forward 5 years later, I have gained admission, and even graduated. My friend was still in the university. It was a 5 years course but he changed department and ended up spending 6 years.
His mother saw me in the neighbourhood shortly after graduation and asked if I was on holiday. Holiday ke? Mummy, I have graduated. You can imagine the look on her face. Lol. I graduated with 2nd class upper, a year later he graduated with 3rd class.
Some of us are guilty of this:
*When we have our houses filled with kids.... Our loyal friends struggling to have kids become our enemies.
We push them away, for fear they might be jealous and unhappy.
*Once we get married...
Our loyal single friends become enemies,
We push them away.
*Once we get employed,
Our loyal jobless friends become enemies.
We push them away.
*Once we get to the top...
Our loyal friends at the bottom become enemies
We push them away.
*When we are happily married...
Our loyal friends that are unfortunately divorcees become our enemies,
We push them away.
*When we have food and water...
Our loyal friends struggling to survive become our enemies,
We push them away.
*Nobody is your enemy, you are only being an enemy to them. We quickly forget that life is not static. It moves and changes.
When you condemn a situation along with the person in the situation. You are only gambling.
At the end, the winner is always the person you condemned, the person you least expected.
Food for thought.