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4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by chatinent: 2:20pm On Sep 05
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Dear respected ladies, there exist some rules of engagement smiley that many ladies fail sad . You are engaged now, really, what next? smiley smiley
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Yes, it is marriage fever next! But did I mention you are only engaged but not married, yet?

Some reasons why most ladies feel used and dumped is when they get intoxicated shocked by the ring afixed to their finger by some guy and the guy does not show up thereafter, maybe, after having her countless times! sad sad

My gay lady smiley, don't you think you are worth more than sb's bed material?

Let's cite some areas that get ladies intoxicated while wearing the ring:
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1. You are only engaged not married. wink  I understand you must feel like a wife already but the fat truth is, you are not his wife yet but a name in his wife-list. Do you know? sad I bet you do not. Do not be overjoyed by the ring, rather be overjoyed by the wedding night. Chatinent Richie smiley really advise ladies to keep their body untouched while hanging around the person you are engaged to. tongue

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Yes, you may say 'I'm his wife to be so it does not matter if I give him my body.' Another piece of truth there is, notwithstanding that the body is yours,  you really are not his wife to be until you become his wife! During that period, men may propose to ladies who they think are outstanding, special and better than any other ladies sad in the world. Have you imagined; what if he thinks you so cheapsad and sees a more outstanding a lady who has your clone qualities but deprives him sex which you give him in plenty buckets?  Oh dear, he has slept with you so, that 'special you' bar is decreasing and will continue to decrease any female pride you may have shown, even peradventure, you get married. He may even end up dumping you politely and going for someone better(that part that you feel you have been over-used).
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What is my point?
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Don't you have sex with the person you are engaged to. Keep your pride. Tell them simply should they try to deceive you saying 'you are my wife to be already, so you shouldn't deprive me sex.'  Dear, stand for your rightsmiley and what will help you afterwards, tell him, also logically that 'yes, I maybe your wife to be, so, if I am your so wife to be, why can't you wait till the wedding night? '
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Tips: Ladies who don't indulge in sex before marriage earn more respect, longer marriage than others. Reason is, their husbands seem to keep that first respect she has shown. Failure to observe the rule of engagements may lead to regrets.
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2. Most men giving engagement rings are not ready for marriage.sad tongue Don't get ensnared by this. This is a cup-filled reason you have to always study your partner in the course of dating them. They will only hover around you longing for the juicy hannah montanna. Yes, they are humans, they know most girls will get lured wearing their deceptive rings. sad

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3. When you find someone good, stop looking for someone better.sad It explains itself. Use your instinctual calculating brainbook to harness the equation.
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4. Stop longing to wear guys' ring, you are NOT the lord of their rings. Yes, I understand that age doesn't favour women when not married but even at that, don't be desperate to wear a guy's ring. Guys, normally do notice desperate ladies when it comes to marriages and the wolf-like may come to hang their 'ring' on your finger to have you then disappear., then, this chase for marriage may end in suffeRING. smiley
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Origin: http://chatinent.com.ng/index.php?act=Post&CODE=08&f=12&t=158&p=224&st=0

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by Ay04z(m): 2:25pm On Sep 05
Well if she is a virgin no qualms.

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by chatinent: 2:33pm On Sep 05
Ay04z:
Well if she is a virgin no qualms.
And if she is not? Hay fire?

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by collinsebuka(m): 2:34pm On Sep 05
whether or not she's a virgin I must have sex before I engage you.


Marriage is forever and you don't want me to know our sexual compatibility That Won't work with me

if you refuse I will go for someone who wouldn't

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by chatinent: 2:40pm On Sep 05
collinsebuka:
whether or not she's a virgin I must have sex before I engage you.


Marriage is forever and you don't want me to know our sexual compatibility That Won't work with me

if you refuse I will go for someone who wouldn't
If I may ask, what's the fever in having the sex before marriage? What does it prove?

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by somebody1(f): 2:49pm On Sep 05
collinsebuka:
whether or not she's a virgin I must have sex before I engage you.


Marriage is forever and you don't want me to know our sexual compatibility That Won't work with me

if you refuse I will go for someone who wouldn't
'wedon sir'...so if she doesn't meet ur standard of sexual compatibility, u'll dump her abi. 4 who if I may ask? So ladies are now ur lab rats that u must test b4 marriage...do u think marriage is all about sex? Ladies, please let us 'shine' our eyes...we should not be used as specimens for sampling... STAND YOUR GROUND PRAYERFULLY.

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by collinsebuka(m): 2:53pm On Sep 05
somebody1:
'wedon sir'...so if she doesn't meet ur standard of sexual compatibility, u'll dump her abi. 4 who if I may ask? So ladies are now ur lab rats that u must test b4 marriage...do u think marriage is all about sex? Ladies, please let us 'shine' our eyes...we should not be used as specimens for sampling... STAND YOUR GROUND PRAYERFULLY.


If marriage isn't for sex then what is it for to hold hands and sing kubaya

hold your ground prayerfully aunty while girls are getting married every other Saturday.

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by zed7: 2:57pm On Sep 05
somebody1:
'wedon sir'...so if she doesn't meet ur standard of sexual compatibility, u'll dump her abi. 4 who if I may ask? So ladies are now ur lab rats that u must test b4 marriage...do u think marriage is all about sex? Ladies, please let us 'shine' our eyes...we should not be used as specimens for sampling... STAND YOUR GROUND PRAYERFULLY.

She would be left for someone else whom she is compatible with. If people can dump one another for genotype incompatibility, religious incompatibility etc, why not for sexual incompatibility. Let's stop being hypocritical, sexual compatibility is very important in marriage.

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by somebody1(f): 3:02pm On Sep 05
collinsebuka:



If marriage isn't for sex then what is it for to hold hands and sing kubaya

hold your ground prayerfully aunty while girls are getting married every other Saturday.

Is marriage a lady's destiny? You need to change ur orientation about sex and marriage. That's why I said marriage is not ALL ABOUT SEX. Furthermore, what gives u d impression that I'm not married. Continue with ur search 4 sexual compatibility

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by chatinent: 3:14pm On Sep 05
collinsebuka:



If marriage isn't for sex then what is it for to hold hands and sing kubaya

hold your ground prayerfully aunty while girls are getting married every other Saturday.

Marriage should be fuelled by love and not some sex-science practical. That means, after having her, you dump the garbage and continue with the 'rat tests' as Somebody1 said? Do you know how many you would keep stranded?

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by somebody1(f): 3:38pm On Sep 05
Thank u very much 4 that @Chatinent. God made sex 4 marriage not marriage 4 sex. D earlier we understand that d better 4 us. If ur sole aim of marrying a person is because of sexual compatibility, I bet u, u'll get tired...u'll want 2 cheat at a point because your wife's body and sexual jambori will never remain d same. God designed sex for married couples. Other factors matter a lot in marriage other than sex alone. Can sex put food on d table? Can sex alone give u a peaceful marriage? Sex is part of marriage not marriage itself

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by chatinent: 11:02pm On Sep 08
chatinent:
Copyright: No part of this should be transmitted to an unknown source without prior consent and allowance by the author or acknowledgement. This was written by Richie of Chatinent.
.

Dear respected ladies, there exist some rules of engagement smiley that many ladies fail sad . You are engaged now, really, what next? smiley smiley
.
Yes, it is marriage fever next! But did I mention you are only engaged but not married, yet?

Some reasons why most ladies feel used and dumped is when they get intoxicated shocked by the ring afixed to their finger by some guy and the guy does not show up thereafter, maybe, after having her countless times! sad sad

My gay lady smiley, don't you think you are worth more than sb's bed material?

Let's cite some areas that get ladies intoxicated while wearing the ring:
.
1. You are only engaged not married. wink  I understand you must feel like a wife already but the fat truth is, you are not his wife yet but a name in his wife-list. Do you know? sad I bet you do not. Do not be overjoyed by the ring, rather be overjoyed by the wedding night. Chatinent Richie smiley really advise ladies to keep their body untouched while hanging around the person you are engaged to. tongue

.

Yes, you may say 'I'm his wife to be so it does not matter if I give him my body.' Another piece of truth there is, notwithstanding that the body is yours,  you really are not his wife to be until you become his wife! During that period, men may propose to ladies who they think are outstanding, special and better than any other ladies sad in the world. Have you imagined; what if he thinks you so cheapsad and sees a more outstanding a lady who has your clone qualities but deprives him sex which you give him in plenty buckets?  Oh dear, he has slept with you so, that 'special you' bar is decreasing and will continue to decrease any female pride you may have shown, even peradventure, you get married. He may even end up dumping you politely and going for someone better(that part that you feel you have been over-used).
.
What is my point?
.
Don't you have sex with the person you are engaged to. Keep your pride. Tell them simply should they try to deceive you saying 'you are my wife to be already, so you shouldn't deprive me sex.'  Dear, stand for your rightsmiley and what will help you afterwards, tell him, also logically that 'yes, I maybe your wife to be, so, if I am your so wife to be, why can't you wait till the wedding night? '
.
Tips: Ladies who don't indulge in sex before marriage earn more respect, longer marriage than others. Reason is, their husbands seem to keep that first respect she has shown. Failure to observe the rule of engagements may lead to regrets.
.
.
2. Most men giving engagement rings are not ready for marriage.sad tongue Don't get ensnared by this. This is a cup-filled reason you have to always study your partner in the course of dating them. They will only hover around you longing for the juicy hannah montanna. Yes, they are humans, they know most girls will get lured wearing their deceptive rings. sad

.
.
3. When you find someone good, stop looking for someone better.sad It explains itself. Use your instinctual calculating brainbook to harness the equation.
.
.
4. Stop longing to wear guys' ring, you are NOT the lord of their rings. Yes, I understand that age doesn't favour women when not married but even at that, don't be desperate to wear a guy's ring. Guys, normally do notice desperate ladies when it comes to marriages and the wolf-like may come to hang their 'ring' on your finger to have you then disappear., then, this chase for marriage may end in suffeRING. smiley
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Origin: http://chatinent.com.ng/index.php?act=Post&CODE=08&f=12&t=158&p=224&st=0

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Lalasticlala mynd44

Point is, however, simple.
Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by Jugujaga: 9:30am On Sep 09
Lol especially number 3 point, ladies don't always mind better when they already have good, they don't know that good can also be better one day

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by kennygee(f): 9:32am On Sep 09
collinsebuka:
whether or not she's a virgin I must have sex before I engage you.


Marriage is forever and you don't want me to know our sexual compatibility That Won't work with me

if you refuse I will go for someone who wouldn't

God's plan for her is not a man like you to start with. So go for a woman of your kind.

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by celestialAgent(m): 9:33am On Sep 09
This is not for me.
Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by 989900: 9:34am On Sep 09
Life ain't math.
Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by fatymore(f): 9:34am On Sep 09
Well said... But in some parts of Naija when you are engaged.. It doesn't take long before you get married.. And it somehow proper if you can do all what is supposed to do as a lady.....why do engagement this year and postpone wedding till the following year... It absurd to me sha...
Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by GloryCardinal(m): 9:36am On Sep 09
Do you mean this one?

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by tayo200(m): 9:37am On Sep 09
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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by richidinho(m): 9:40am On Sep 09
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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by edgeofglory: 9:41am On Sep 09
Hmmmm. In as much sex before marriage is a sin.., but, no sex before marriage is also risky.

And dont get me wrong..., marriage is not about sex..., but sex is also very vital in marriage.

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by Generalyemi(m): 9:42am On Sep 09
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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by braine: 9:42am On Sep 09
Honestly, this post fell short of my expectations and doesn't really make any sense to me.

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by okenwaa(m): 9:42am On Sep 09
Speechless;Speechless is how this makes me feel....
Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by Atlantia(f): 9:43am On Sep 09
Four things to do? More like four things you'd like them to know.

I was expecting points such as;
•Get your ring insured.
•Discuss your plans with your partner...blah blah.

Op take time oh...

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by Tunsboy17(m): 9:44am On Sep 09
chatinent:
Copyright: No part of this should be transmitted to an unknown source without prior consent and allowance by the author or acknowledgement. This was written by Richie of Chatinent.
.

Dear respected ladies, there exist some rules of engagement smiley that many ladies fail sad . You are engaged now, really, what next? smiley smiley
.
Yes, it is marriage fever next! But did I mention you are only engaged but not married, yet?

Some reasons why most ladies feel used and dumped is when they get intoxicated shocked by the ring afixed to their finger by some guy and the guy does not show up thereafter, maybe, after having her countless times! sad sad

My gay lady smiley, don't you think you are worth more than sb's bed material?

Let's cite some areas that get ladies intoxicated while wearing the ring:
.
1. You are only engaged not married. wink  I understand you must feel like a wife already but the fat truth is, you are not his wife yet but a name in his wife-list. Do you know? sad I bet you do not. Do not be overjoyed by the ring, rather be overjoyed by the wedding night. Chatinent Richie smiley really advise ladies to keep their body untouched while hanging around the person you are engaged to. tongue

.

Yes, you may say 'I'm his wife to be so it does not matter if I give him my body.' Another piece of truth there is, notwithstanding that the body is yours,  you really are not his wife to be until you become his wife! During that period, men may propose to ladies who they think are outstanding, special and better than any other ladies sad in the world. Have you imagined; what if he thinks you so cheapsad and sees a more outstanding a lady who has your clone qualities but deprives him sex which you give him in plenty buckets?  Oh dear, he has slept with you so, that 'special you' bar is decreasing and will continue to decrease any female pride you may have shown, even peradventure, you get married. He may even end up dumping you politely and going for someone better(that part that you feel you have been over-used).
.
What is my point?
.
Don't you have sex with the person you are engaged to. Keep your pride. Tell them simply should they try to deceive you saying 'you are my wife to be already, so you shouldn't deprive me sex.'  Dear, stand for your rightsmiley and what will help you afterwards, tell him, also logically that 'yes, I maybe your wife to be, so, if I am your so wife to be, why can't you wait till the wedding night? '
.
Tips: Ladies who don't indulge in sex before marriage earn more respect, longer marriage than others. Reason is, their husbands seem to keep that first respect she has shown. Failure to observe the rule of engagements may lead to regrets.
.
.
2. Most men giving engagement rings are not ready for marriagesad tongue Don't get ensnared by this. This is a cup-filled reason you have to always study your partner in the course of dating them. They will only hover around you longing for the juicy hannah montanna. Yes, they are humans, they know most girls will get lured wearing their deceptive rings. sad

.
.
3. When you find someone good, stop looking for someone better.sad It explains itself. Use your instinctual calculating brainbook to harness the equation.
.
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4. [/b]. Yes, I understand that age doesn't favour womenStop longing to wear guys' ring, you are NOT the lord of their rings when not married but even at that, don't be desperate to wear a guy's ring. Guys, normally do notice desperate ladies when it comes to marriages and the wolf-like may come to hang their 'ring' on your finger to have you then disappear., then, this chase for marriage may end in suffeRING. smiley
.
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[b]Origin
: http://chatinent.com.ng/index.php?act=Post&CODE=08&f=12&t=158&p=224&st=0


lol ...'Yes, I understand that age doesn't favour womenStop longing to wear guys' ring, you are NOT the lord of their rings
Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by Evaberry(f): 9:44am On Sep 09
....

I couldn't even finish reading this post because it reeked of hypocrisy and bad advise.

I really pity any lady who follows the op advise.


Women keep on acting as if they are doing a man favours by having sex with him before marriage when in actual sense you are doing it because of yourself.

saying no to premarital sex does not guarantee a happy marriage, having sex before marriage however helps you understand your partner better and pick out things to work on, know their sexual fetish and decide if you can live with them. its not advised to start teaching anyone how to have sex or please their partner when they get married, I mean who has that time when there are bills to be paid.

A woman enjoys sex as much as a man if not more so why do people make women feel ashamed for having a sexual life.

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by braine: 9:46am On Sep 09
Atlantia:
Four things to do? More like four things you'd like them to know.

I was expecting points such as;
•Get your ring insured.
•Discuss your plans with your partner...blah blah.

Op take time oh...

I was expecting something like this too

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by Generalyemi(m): 9:47am On Sep 09
somebody1:
'wedon sir'...so if she doesn't meet ur standard of sexual compatibility, u'll dump her abi. 4 who if I may ask? So ladies are now ur lab rats that u must test b4 marriage...do u think marriage is all about sex? Ladies, please let us 'shine' our eyes...we should not be used as specimens for sampling... STAND YOUR GROUND PRAYERFULLY.

mighty sister ,,assuming she hold her ground prayerfully, and on d wedding night she found out that the brother is impotent or have a one inch dick..what will she do..divorce him? or keep holding her ground....is both ways ,good for the man and the woman

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Re: 4 Things To Do After You Are Engaged To Him (Advice For Ladies) by iAudio: 9:48am On Sep 09
Thrash.

Simply put, marriage has no proven formula.

Why do we see handsome guys or beautiful ladies marrying ugly ladies or ugly guys? It is the compatibility which sex is part of.

It is said that a broken engagement is better than broken marriage.

People who know what they want in marriage can talk about sex, experience it and see if they are for each other, if it doesn't work, no one feels cheated. One of the leading causes of marriage crises these days is sex.

What if after the no sex thing, after the wedding you discover that your man is not a man, you divorce him then abi?

Make una shut up joor. No sex before marriage CANNOT guarantee a sweet marriage.

Nonsense.

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