Thanks for all comments

Wow. Let the experienced ones come first.

Just give it time, the more closer he is to her the more they'll grow fond of each other... Don't expect a quick miracle.

Since you said he's already working on his depression, its just a matter of time before she warms up to him. So don't you worry, children do not keep things in their minds for so long unlike adults. It will help if you three do more fun stuff together in and outside the house.

he is not telling the full truth.... THE CHILD MAY HAVE EXPERIENCED AN ABUSE FROM HIM..... install cameras to know whats up when u are not at home.

PROTECT THE GIRL CHILD

greatnaija01:
he is not telling the full truth.... THE CHILD MAY HAVE EXPERIENCED AN ABUSE FROM HIM..... install cameras to know whats up when u are not at home.

PROTECT THE GIRL CHILD

Bro, I'm not saying you do not have a point sha, but common, its the father we are talking about here now. How long do you expect her to spy on her husband - till the daughter turns 18yrs?

Take it easy

She'll get used to him when she gets older.

They is something am not understanding here.


Were you guys not staying together at the time u gave birth to them

I mean ur husband.

If your husband would partake in preparing the child's meal, you may see progress.
Every kid loves a FoodMaker.

greatnaija01:
he is not telling the full truth.... THE CHILD MAY HAVE EXPERIENCED AN ABUSE FROM HIM..... install cameras to know whats up when u are not at home.

PROTECT THE GIRL CHILD

My husband loves his family so much and its the full truth please. However, without knowing the exact cause of her being "afraid", isn't anything i can do? I wish i could make her talk about her feelings and see if it leads me to a cause thats made her be afraid around him.

izaray:
They is something am not understanding here.


Were you guys not staying together at the time u gave birth to them

I mean ur husband.

Yes we have been together. I only just brought it up now for you to contribute or help me out with the issue.

Thanks

pls ma is your husband STRICT or a fervent DISCIPLINARIAN.... BECAUSE its easy to solve this now that its early o...

airminem:


My husband loves his family so much and its the full truth please. However, without knowing the exact cause of her being "afraid", isn't anything i can do? I wish i could make her talk about her feelings and see if it leads me to a cause thats made her be afraid around him.

https://www.babycenter.com/400_my-daughters-afraid-of-her-father-what-should-i-do_500149_1.bc

All the answers you need are there, na the same post you copy...

[quote author=airminem post=60944914]

Yes we have been together. I only just brought it up now for you to contribute or help me out with the issue.

Thanks[/quote) Ah!! What then could possibly be their problem Have seen majority of female children loving their dad more

than their mom...You hear them saying, i will tell my daddy for you, with all seriousness. making it looks as if mom will be a goner once dad arrived.

Madam tell ur husband to show them more love, he should make sure they see him as their play mate for now..

Then later things can change. Like taking them out, buying them things, mostly when his coming back from work.

Trust me, when ur husband try dis for just 2 weeks, they will become their Dad's time keeper henceforth, waiting for who will welcome him first at ur door post.

Ok

pocohantas:
https://www.babycenter.com/400_my-daughters-afraid-of-her-father-what-should-i-do_500149_1.bc

All the answers you need are there, na the same post you copy...

Theoretically, in Nigeria environment its peculiarly not same okay

Don't push her. The young soul experienced negativity around him and her gut feeling told her to stay away from him. Smart cutie. She will learn, he does not mean harm when she experiences his gentle side. It needs time. You can't undo 11 months in a week.

Mindfulness:
Don't push her. The young soul experienced negativity around him and her gut feeling told her to stay away from him. Smart cutie. She will learn, he does not mean harm when she experiences his gentle side. It needs time. You can't undo 11 months in a week.

The kid is 11months old like she said, her husband was depressed and at the period may not have been very close to the child. Babies grow fond of those who carry them often, bath them often, played with them often, made food and fed them often. More often than not, between both parents; they either love both or love one more and in most cases it's the mother they tend to love more 'cause of her motherly roles. Her husband should endeavour to get closer to the kid and she'll grow fondness for him.

kimbraa:
The kid is 11months old like she said, her husband was depressed and at the period may not have been very close to the child. Babies grow fond of those who carry them often, bath them often, played with them often, made food and fed them often. More often than not, between both parents; they either love both or love one more and in most cases it's the mother they tend to love more 'cause of her motherly roles. Her husband should endeavour to get closer to the kid and she'll grow fondness for him.

You said what I said in a more specific way.

airminem:
My husband has been battling depression for most of our 11 month-old's life, and has been mean, moody, and distant around her. Recently he's been doing better, and is trying to improve their relationship. Our daughter's still afraid of him, though, and won't let him hold her, hug her, or play with her. How can I help them develop a closer bond?

We have discussed about it and still not helping issues. please advice

Weren't u the one that once opened a thread about your son preferring your husband over u?
Guess u have succeded in turning your daughter against him, so why are u complaining?

pocohantas:
https://www.babycenter.com/400_my-daughters-afraid-of-her-father-what-should-i-do_500149_1.bc

All the answers you need are there, na the same post you copy...

So she just copied a post to start a thread?

thorpido:
So she just copied a post to start a thread?

This is her post...

"My husband has been battling depression for most of our 11 month-old's life, and has been mean, moody, and distant around her. Recently he's been doing better, and is trying to improve their relationship. Our daughter's still afraid of him, though, and won't let him hold her, hug her, or play with her. How can I help them develop a closer bond?

We have discussed about it and still not helping issues. please advice"

this is from babycenter...

My husband has been battling depression for most of our 4-year-old's life, and has been mean, moody, and distant around her. Recently he's been doing better, and is trying to improve their relationship. Our daughter's still afraid of him, though, and won't let him hold her, hug her, or play with her. How can I help them develop a closer bond?

The only difference is the age of the child. I wonder her aim...
We already have one person telling her to protect the girl child.

johnson232:

Weren't u the one that once opened a thread about your son preferring your husband over u?
Guess u have succeded in turning your daughter against him, so why are u complaining?

I like your brilliant observation. That lady seems to derive satisfaction in bringing her family issues to nairaland, no matter how trivial and unimportant they are. A man who suffers depression might have been alienated from his family members. If, for example, the youngest seems to be unfamiliar with him, it is no-brainer the husband needs to spend time and reconnect with the baby, or be involved in taking care of her even if from afar. I have a hunch -- now, I wish I am wrong -- that the Op wants to indirectly inform nairalanders about her husband's challenge with depression.