have you been going through tear
soaked night of wallowing in self-
pity you have decided that enough
is enough. You must subtract
him/her from your life completely,
but he/she won't take no for an
answer. Here are some drastic
steps to assure him/her that no is
the only answer you have for him/
her.
Steps

Remain authoritative and
firm
Do not accept any
apologies. One of the most
important steps to becoming
cold-hearted is to remain firm
in your decision to do so.
There can be no room for
ambivalence. In order to
become and remain a cold-
hearted individual one must
live with a slightly cynical
disposition.If he does
apologize, you cannot believe
what he says. You must view
each and every attempt at
reconciliation as the
perpetrator’s desire to put you
back into a position to hurt
you again. If possible do not
accept phone calls, emails,
Facebook messages, etc. If
you give him a chance to
explain himself, your resolve
will be weakened. You will
give him the opportunity to
regain your trust and once he
has it you will be betrayed,
thus the cycle of abuse will
continue.

Refuse to reminisce or
wallow in sentimentality.[ /b]
Do not reflect on the "good
times" you might have
shared.If you wish to be cold-
hearted one of the worst
things you could do is recall
good memories. Doing such a
thing will tempt you to give
whoever has hurt you another
chance. You will think of the
laughs you shared; the gentle
hugs; the tender kisses and
you will be tempted to put
your hurt pride aside. You’d
be wrong to do so. Remember,
the person hurting you is
counting on you to become
sentimental and he will use
this to his advantage. If you
find yourself able to do so,
delete all texts, emails, etc.
Rid yourself of anything that
reminds you of him (pictures,
shirts, gifts, etc). Remind
yourself that if things were so
good, you wouldn’t be reading
this article to begin with.

[b]Be taciturn
Give short,
meaningless replies such
as I don't know,What do you
want, or I don't have time.
Then walk away.
Or, pretend not to notice
or hear them.
Remind yourself of the
reasons you have
decided the relationship must
end. When you become weak
you will find that anger is a
very good motivator. When
times get tough, and you feel
tempted to answer his calls,
get angry. Get enraged.
Remind yourself about all the
times you felt mistreated by
him; all the times you needed
him and he wasn’t there for
you. (It’s important to get
angry now so that you have
less baggage later so that you
do not take this anger out on
the next guy.)

Show no signs of
lingering affection
Do
not wear his shirts or any
gifts he gave you. Don’t even
glance his way. If you can, try
not to talk about him. To be
cold-hearted, you must appear
as if you do not care about
him at all. If he asks why you
don’t answer his texts tell him
that you’re busy. If he
compliments you, brush him
off. Be callous, curt and
distant. Make yourself seem
different than the woman he
knew. Doing so will make him
feel uncertain. The more
uncertain you make him feel,
the less he will continue to
bother you until eventually he
leaves you alone altogether.

Buy a wall calendar
It’s
important to occupy your
mind during this transitional
period of your life especially if
you were a couple that did
everything together. Find
yourself a hobby. If you’re
someone who constantly must
be with someone else, give
yourself a break. Find out who
you are. Work on being a
good friend, a good sister,
etc. Make yourself as
unavailable as possible to this
person. Being single is not a
bad thing. Sure, it’s lonely at
times but it’s not necessarily
a bad thing. Being single will
give you the opportunity to
discover yourself and
hopefully build self-
confidence.
hope this helps